Older parents-WWYD?

[Meadow Skipper]

Prolly not, unless that clocker on the corner is on Medicare’s Rx providers list

Good point. I’ll have to ask.

[KQ]

Just gonna put this here - kinda a "Ronald McDonald House" for respite care:


https://www.facebook.com/reel/202812...ibextid=Nif5oz

[yeahman]

It's nice to have options.

Totally. I bet just knowing that they CAN end it if they want to gives people so much peace of mind.

Friend of mine shot himself in September after being diagnosed with Parkinson's and enduring years of other health issues. So sad to see him go out that way rather than peacefully, especially considering the effect it has on loved ones.

[liv2ski]

Totally. I bet just knowing that they CAN end it if they want to gives people so much peace of mind.

Friend of mine shot himself in September after being diagnosed with Parkinson's and enduring years of other health issues. So sad to see him go out that way rather than peacefully, especially considering the effect it has on loved ones.

Sadly your friend likely lived where getting a timely exit was not available. The old fucks need to be going crazy on this issue and be all over their elected officials. We need an easy way out once we have decided to check out or we should just go down to City Hall, lay down against a tree and shoot ourselves. Maybe after that happening everywhere TPTB will wake the fuck up.

[old goat]

I realize that whole do no wong mantra is firmwired into your psyche

but at this stage in life what does it matter ?

It matters because most people who want to euthanize themselves don't want to wind up alive with brain damage. I've seen the results of a few failed suicides and it's not pretty. The advantage of medically assisted suicide is that it is as clean and as certain as a death can be made--not perfect but a lot cleaner and more certain than DIY. And there's the fear factor--if I found myself needing an exit I know I could swallow some pills--I swallow enough of them every morning as it is--but I don't know if I could pull the trigger, or hang myself, or jump out a window. Also, a lot of people in need of assisted suicide are in no condition to buy a gun if they don't already have one, or rig a noose, or get that window open and make their way out. Maybe one day everyone will have the choice. (And surprise surprise--only one red state has assisted suicide, and that's Montana.)

[KQ]

My mom is still here and only moving to assisted living within the same complex but man, cleaning out her apartment is emotionally exhausting.

[riser4]

My mom is still here and only moving to assisted living within the same complex but man, cleaning out her apartment is emotionally exhausting.

Better to deal with it now than throw it in storage to deal with later.

[mcski]

It was def one of the hardest things for me going thru and figuring out what to do with stuff that had meaning to the parents but no one else really wants. Guilty feeling for not finding a home for all that stuff

[Doremite]

I would assume it is more about the activity driving home reality.

[yeahman]

It was def one of the hardest things for me going thru and figuring out what to do with stuff that had meaning to the parents but no one else really wants. Guilty feeling for not finding a home for all that stuff

I was ruthless cleaning out my dad's apartment. You can agonize over every little thing or just chuck en mass. My sister thanked me later for my decisiveness. Not everything needs to find a home. This is the same way I deal with my own shit. Get rid of it first, ask questions later. There's too much crap in the world.

[SumJongGuy]

My mom's dementia made cleaning out her apartments quicker but agonizing. She threw away ALL the family photo albums and my father and grandfather's military medals.. because she apparently thought they weren't hers/ours. I did get most of the medals back.. Someone bought them at a garage sale for $10 and took them to the local library in Lawton OK (where she moved from). The local library contacted me and sent them to me.

Doxing myself. Don't care. Never been afraid of internet whackos.. I'm 100% open and honest about who I am and where people I interact with online can fine me to talk face to face.
https://www.kswo.com/story/35245809/...ned-to-family/

We try to surround them with stuff to help them remember who they/we are and how we love them. Just be careful because when you're not watching them they might toss the family heirlooms in the trash or donate to a church because they think it isn't theirs..

[KQ]

My mom's dementia made cleaning out her apartments quicker but agonizing. She threw away ALL the family photo albums and my father and grandfather's military medals.. because she apparently thought they weren't hers/ours. I did get most of the medals back.. Someone bought them at a garage sale for $10 and took them to the local library in Lawton OK (where she moved from). The local library contacted me and sent them to me.

Doxing myself. Don't care. Never been afraid of internet whackos.. I'm 100% open and honest about who I am and where people I interact with online can fine me to talk face to face.
https://www.kswo.com/story/35245809/...ned-to-family/

We try to surround them with stuff to help them remember who they/we are and how we love them. Just be careful because when you're not watching them they might toss the family heirlooms in the trash or donate to a church because they think it isn't theirs..

A local person posted in our "Lost & Found Pets" FB group desperately looking for her cats because while she was at work, her mother who had dementia and lived with her had someone take her cats and dump them somewhere. It was very sad.

[Meadow Skipper]

^ That is really sad.

[Bunion 2020]

OK, we have tried to cover elderly parents, what about aging siblings?

My 73 year old special needs sister is doing pretty good. My middle sister just turned 71 and tends to repeat herself, a lot and is having a hard time accepting she is 71.
Last night she called me about some other bullshit and gradually I wormed it out of her that she (married 41 years to a good guy) has started an affair (maybe emotional maybe not) with a former high school friend.

WTF?????

[liv2ski]

People are strange...

[old goat]

We got some photos and other paper mementos from someone who had bought my mother's forgotten storage unit. I would rather have gotten back my skates but whatever.
Mom was a hoarder. After my sister in law cleaned out everything of value we hired a guy to clean out the condo--5 large dumpsters. We got about 900 bucks for some stuff he sold and I'm sure he sold more and kept the money which was fine. I do wish we had kept the midcentury modern bedroom set; this was before the fad for that stuff hit and we could probably get some good money for it now. I did get the officer's katana my dad brought home from WWII found behind the old refrigerator in the garage. And a year later I got a bill from a fur storage company for my mom's mink. We gave that to my sister in law. Not much use for a mink coat in California.

[lowsparkco]

I’ve been moving my 73 year old mom for the last month. She’s usually been as sharp as me, but the stress of the move has been hard. She is way into stuff and there’s a lot of it. She has lost a few sets of keys, misplaced some other stuff, and a few times totally forgotten an important conversation we had within the week. It wasn’t like she wasn’t paying attention, I was looking right at her and I knew she was focused, just blank after a few days. Concerning. I hope getting settled in and some sleep will help her.

[riser4]

Anyone got a preferred service for really old 16mm film? I have a crate I was handed 25 years ago. I never looked in it because I was told that none of it was family. Last weekend my wife said the crate smelled bad. Go figure. Strong vinegar smell. So I went through it and most of it ended up getting thrown out, visual inspection was not promising. The movies were also poorly labeled. However, some of the cans did appear to be family and I wish I had known that. The films dated from about 1938 to 1961 ish. There's three that I'm definitely interesting in paying to have worked on and transferred. There's a few others that I might run through a viewer. I probably only have one shot at some of them as they will probably disintegrate. I wonder what my grandfather that I never met recorded on "Personal #7". Fortunately it all appears to be safety film.

[yeahman]

My wife's parents will never get out of their old New Jersey home. Tons of crap, trying to get rid of it one thing at a time. Steep stairs (three stories) and her dad can't hardly walk anymore. He's taken numerous hard falls. Now he's in the hospital for some infection and they discover he has two broken vertebrae and some broken ribs. Never complained about the pain.

[mcski]

. I wonder what my grandfather that I never met recorded on "Personal #7". Fortunately it all appears to be safety film.

There’s gonna be so much bush on that reel, you’re gonna need a machete for the projector feed

[Meadow Skipper]

Y’all are making me feel bad for my daughter. I’ve lived in the same house over 25 years, and it’s gonna be a big headache for her when I kick.

[skaredshtles]

There’s gonna be so much bush on that reel, you’re gonna need a machete for the projector feed

I laffed.

[muted reborn]

I’ve been moving my 73 year old mom for the last month. She’s usually been as sharp as me, but the stress of the move has been hard. She is way into stuff and there’s a lot of it. She has lost a few sets of keys, misplaced some other stuff, and a few times totally forgotten an important conversation we had within the week. It wasn’t like she wasn’t paying attention, I was looking right at her and I knew she was focused, just blank after a few days. Concerning. I hope getting settled in and some sleep will help her.

huh. that happened to my Mom when selling her house (lost keys, forgotten conversations, etc.) and things then got really weird for a bit, where she thought the RE agent was trying to rip her off. We found out months later she had a mini-stroke which explained everything. Not to say that's the problem with you, but heads up...we thought it was moving stress too.

[oldnew_guy]

Y’all are making me feel bad for my daughter. I’ve lived in the same house over 25 years, and it’s gonna be a big headache for her when I kick.

My working assumption is that I haven't had any interest in owning any of my parents stuff aside from a small number of sentimental items so it its going in an estate sale and then dumpster.

[yeahman]

Y’all are making me feel bad for my daughter. I’ve lived in the same house over 25 years, and it’s gonna be a big headache for her when I kick.

So start getting rid of shit.