Just another rant

**Donkey Punch** · 11-20-2007, 11:39 PM

Fuck everyone that tries to tell us how, when, and where we should get married. Fuck the wedding industry for making everything so god damn expensive. Screw family members. This is directed at my dad now twice divorced who is convinced that love, happyness, etc is a complete load of crap and now he is sure to tell me about that and how I am just making a mistake and setting myself up for a huge let down. Then there is my Grama who keeps insisting the we have a church wedding, and who since we initially said we where looking at July 11th will not change any of her plans if we move the date. All I want is for Ashley to have the day that she wants, but that seems to be too much of an inconvience for most people. Ok I am better for now, atleast till tomorrow when we have to go through the same shit yet again.

**Arty50** · 11-20-2007, 11:49 PM

Remember, it's your day. Fuck everyone else. Too many people forget this, and most weddings turn into a lot of pomp and circumstance and not a lot of substance.

advres · 11-20-2007, 11:50 PM

All I gotta say is fuck people who think everyone will travel to all reaches of the Earth for THEIR DAY. Fuck off people. I just got an e-mail from my second cousin saying she wants me to make plans for her wedding in Jamaica. My friend wanted me IN his wedding in Greece. Why Greece, well his relatives are from there but he is not.

FUCK OFF PEOPLE! I am not made of money and would much rather spend said money on something other than your POS wedding. Plus, I am 29 y/o. Do you know how many goddamn weddings I have been to lately and will go to more in the future? All my friends are getting married and if they don't have the common decency to make it convenient for the majority of the people they are inviting, they should expect it when someone tells them to piss up a rope.

**xtraheat** · 11-20-2007, 11:54 PM

Do w/e you want and ignore everyone else. Its about you are your bride, not anyone else. Also, sorry to get off the topic, but advres....you're sig is pretty f'ed up :.P

**iceman** · 11-20-2007, 11:57 PM

My dad didn't come to my wedding, fuck him for that but oh well in general...

about a week before he died he whispered that missing his oldest son's wedding was his biggest regret in life.

I whispered back, holding his hand, "yeah well you shoulda fuckin been there then."

Hey the truth is the truth.

**Donkey Punch** · 11-21-2007, 12:08 AM

Originally Posted by advres

All I gotta say is fuck people who think everyone will travel to all reaches of the Earth for THEIR DAY. Fuck off people. I just got an e-mail from my second cousin saying she wants me to make plans for her wedding in Jamaica. My friend wanted me IN his wedding in Greece. Why Greece, well his relatives are from there but he is not.

FUCK OFF PEOPLE! I am not made of money and would much rather spend said money on something other than your POS wedding. Plus, I am 29 y/o. Do you know how many goddamn weddings I have been to lately and will go to more in the future? All my friends are getting married and if they don't have the common decency to make it convenient for the majority of the people they are inviting, they should expect it when someone tells them to piss up a rope.

I agree. That is why we initially wanted to have the wedding in Michigan where most of my family is. Well that didn;t work out. So then we looked around Jackson where she is from and where her parents live. But that isn't working so well either. SO then we looked at out in Lake Tahoe, but that is looking like it is going to be a butt load of money. So basically we are still at square one after being engaged for 4+ months. And the only people that we expected to be there where imediate family but that seems like a reach. SO sorry we had to inconvience one weekend of your life.

**iceman** · 11-21-2007, 12:11 AM

Odd that my three brothers never got married, eh?

And only one of my three sisters.

advres · 11-21-2007, 12:12 AM

Well anywhere in the continental US shouldn't be that much of an inconvenience, IMHO. I didn't mean to cunt up your thread I was just using it to vent about my current situation because I sure as shit wasn't starting a new thread about it.

**flyby** · 11-21-2007, 12:39 AM

Originally Posted by advres

All I gotta say is fuck people who think everyone will travel to all reaches of the Earth for THEIR DAY. Fuck off people. I just got an e-mail from my second cousin saying she wants me to make plans for her wedding in Jamaica. My friend wanted me IN his wedding in Greece. Why Greece, well his relatives are from there but he is not.

FUCK OFF PEOPLE! I am not made of money and would much rather spend said money on something other than your POS wedding. Plus, I am 29 y/o. Do you know how many goddamn weddings I have been to lately and will go to more in the future? All my friends are getting married and if they don't have the common decency to make it convenient for the majority of the people they are inviting, they should expect it when someone tells them to piss up a rope.

Sometimes people just do this to be polite.....
I mean how can you expect a ski bum to drop all his new skis and come to the Mediterranean? jeez!

**Cliff Huckable** · 11-21-2007, 12:46 AM

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**bio-smear** · 11-21-2007, 02:12 AM

We're flying to Hawaii for a friend's wedding. It is but 1 day out of a 7 day vacay, and we know only the bride. I have to side with Advres on this one.

Any situation where a lot of people have input into your plans is destined to cause stress and piss you off. hang in there.

**jbach** · 11-21-2007, 02:42 AM

Originally Posted by Donkey Punch

I agree. That is why we initially wanted to have the wedding in Michigan where most of my family is. Well that didn;t work out. So then we looked around Jackson where she is from and where her parents live. But that isn't working so well either. SO then we looked at out in Lake Tahoe, but that is looking like it is going to be a butt load of money. So basically we are still at square one after being engaged for 4+ months. And the only people that we expected to be there where imediate family but that seems like a reach. SO sorry we had to inconvience one weekend of your life.

Most of my family that have had weddings lately have had a small ceremony in the city the bride's family is in and one where the groom's family is. Just pick one for the big ceremony if you want to go that route and have a small ring ceremony and reception in the second city. It's more planning but it will force you to simplify the plans which will give you fewer things that can go wrong.

**Rasputin** · 11-21-2007, 02:53 AM

Originally Posted by iceman

Odd that my three brothers never got married, eh?

And only one of my three sisters.

What were your parents, fukin' rabbits or something?

**cinnepa** · 11-21-2007, 06:47 AM

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**snowsprite** · 11-21-2007, 06:55 AM

These guys are right. It's your day...ignore the fam! Remember, speak now or forever hold your peace. How you behave now will set the tone for how the family treats you as a couple from here on out.

Let them know you want your wishes/decisions/viewpoints to be respected. Sure you're going to deal with a little grumbling initially but they'll get used to it, and you'll be happier in the end.

Gosh, planning weddings would be so much funner if people butted the fuck out!

But don't worry, you & Ashley will have a great day. Stand your ground!

Sprite

**bklyn** · 11-21-2007, 07:12 AM

Originally Posted by snowsprite

Remember, speak now or forever hold your peace. How you behave now will set the tone for how the family treats you as a couple from here on out.

quoted for truth.

There are worse places in the world to be 'forced' to go to than Greece, Jamaica or Hawaii. Stop being pessimists. Use any excuse to go to new places, see new faces, do something different.

I'll go back to Greece again for a party. Feel free to send an invite my way for Jamaica or Hawaii also.

**tex1230** · 11-21-2007, 07:56 AM

The best advice I can give (having paid for 2 weddings - mine and my stepdaughter's) is save your money, go to vegas and have some fun, and buy something nice for the two of you. The wedding industry is such a load of bullshit, and you won't remember anything about the day in 10 years.

**Joey Joe Joe Junior Shabadoo** · 11-21-2007, 10:27 AM

Originally Posted by bklyn

quoted for truth.

There are worse places in the world to be 'forced' to go to than Greece, Jamaica or Hawaii. Stop being pessimists. Use any excuse to go to new places, see new faces, do something different.

I'll go back to Greece again for a party. Feel free to send an invite my way for Jamaica or Hawaii also.

quoted for truth as well. Travel is expensive and if you can't make it don't feel bad about it. But don't miss an excuse to travel for a party. My best friend from high school got married in Argentina in August and I missed it because of another wedding and family stuff, both of which I could have skipped. I still regret it because now a summer trip to argentina just to go skiing is a lot harder to convince my wife of than a trip to my best friends wedding with some skiing afterwards.

And good luck donkeypunch. I just got married and I can tell you the planning sucks, just keep looking towards the honeymoon.

**Donkey Punch** · 11-21-2007, 11:16 AM

Thanks everyone for the ideas/support. I hadn't thought about the whole stand our ground now thing but it makes perfect sence. I knew there would be no way to make everyone happy with all of our decisions but I was hoping they would atleast be supportive or understanding about them, oh well. One of my best frineds is flying in tomorrow AM then my sister tomorrow afternoon and we will all get to hang and drink and ski till Monday. How could it be much better than that.

**lemon boy** · 11-21-2007, 11:32 AM

I basically agree with most of what was said (and goddamn ice, way to hold a grudge! Rontal should be-ware):

Step ONE: Decide what kind of wedding you and your wife want.
Step TWO: Plan that wedding.

Don't let this get all complicated and shit. And if you want a small wedding just have that small wedding and tell anyone who gives you shit that the space is really small and that you had to be really brutal with the invite list.

**Odin** · 11-21-2007, 11:34 AM

I agree with advres for the most part, except that if someone invites you to the bahamas for a wedding I HIGHLY SUGGEST GOING.

That is all.

**DJSapp** · 11-21-2007, 12:07 PM

Correct wedding planning in a nutshell:

Money talks. Everyone else is a freeloader at YOUR party, fuck them and their opinions. And honestly, the details don't matter, they will be lost in the fog of the day. If you are planning an exotic location, get the wedding party on board with it before planning it and don't expect many guests to come. If you want a lot of people to attend, get an accessible location and go to the exotic location for the honeymoon (that's why you have one).

Get a good dj that can effectively shuffle people around, and a good photog. Other than that, save your $$$. Food/centerpieces/flowers are quickly forgotten (unless they are awful) and a huge waste.

**Boomer28** · 11-21-2007, 12:09 PM

Something to add: Fuck people who choose to get married on a holiday long weekend. I had a wedding on Memorial Day & Labor day this year, last year one on Memorial day & the 4th of July and the 4th the year before. I mean what the fucking fuck?

Personally, I LOVE to travel and LOVE an excuse to create a long weekend by taking a day off work. Holiday weekends are mine, not yours. They are for my selfish plans with the people I want to hang with, not your drunk uncle who tells my girlfriend she has a great rack all night (true story, this happened at the Labor day one..)

It sounds great in theory: "Honey, let's do it on Labor day, everyone already has the day off and won't have to take a vaction day!!"

"Oh pookie, you are so smart!! That is the best idea ever!! Done and done, now let's choose more worthless crap we will never use for our registry like 8 different muffin tins or a can-opener, because our's isn't made of paltinum and costs $100!"

**danimal's dead** · 11-21-2007, 12:14 PM

What were your parents, fukin' rabbits or something?

They were Catholic for sho', it explains so much.

**danimal's dead** · 11-21-2007, 12:17 PM

Let me guess ICE, you're Irish Catholic, you're father's a drunk, you love the Sox, and you're a writer to boot.

You're like a walking cliche, and I mean that in a good way.