Christmas Guilt

[Buster Highmen]

His initial post cited topography for the reason for not going home, not other familial issues.

Yes that's true. It's also true that sometimes, we're not as direct and honest as we'd like to be in these situations. Sometimes, we like to tough guy trivialize the real reasons.

So excuuuuuuse me, on with the lashings...

[funkendrenchman]

Here's a couple anecdotes.. The old lady across the street from me died of lung cancer a few months ago. She'd always say "enjoy it while you can".

My mom was a professional ice skater who can barely walk now. She always says, "enjoy it while you can". Skiing and a lot of activities are selfish by nature.

"Enjoy it while you can" includes spending time with your family. For most, skiing will be around longer than their parents will be.

[funkendrenchman]

People jumped on the guy. I don't think it was particularly fair.

What did he expect from the thread?

[ptavv]

I can't believe that someone could care about their mother so little.

[PNWbrit]

Tell them you've been invited by email to a complete strangers wedding in the Bahamas?

[mc_roon]

my parents just moved to Park City so i would always come home for chritmas and thanksgiving

[Big Blue]

My guess is he has something of a decent relationship with his mother, she obviously cares enough to cry every time he doesn't go home for the holidays....he is lucky in that regard, and is not willing to accept that and take a few days for the sake of a mother who cares...

Alright, I didn't read past the end of page one here, so maybe someone expressed this sentiment before me, but oh well...

If she cares so much why the fuck won't she go and visit him for x-mas? What is this bullshit about having to be with family during "the holidays". I visit my family when I can, and they visit me when they can. We see eachother a few times a year when it works out well for all involved. Rather than buying into some fucking Hallmark marketing bullshit idea of family obligation, how about making up your own rules. Live your life for yourself and people who really love you will understand what makes you happy. Crying and hanging up on you is pure manipulation. My mom would never do that.

[gramboh]

I'd say go home, but I can relate to the annoyance of family bugging you to visit. I have a lot of relatives on the Ottawa area that want me to come visit all the time. Truth is, some of them are retired and the ones working have WAY more flexible/lax schedules than my job, it's really annoying, it's so much more convenient for them to fly out here. Plus, we have mountains and stuff.

[dipstik]

What would Tupac do?

Fuck bitches?

[gregm]

i hate going home for christmas and usually don't. mostly i just hate christmas. it's also a long airplane flight and the airports are crowded during the holidays. i don't even like most of my family that much, some of them i can't stand being in the room with.

mostly i visit home once in a while out of a sense of guilt or cause i feel like i have to at least try, but i think those are some lame reasons. i think its great that some people have family situations they are happy with, and wish i did, but i think it sucks that people want to lay all this guilt on people who don't. granted the original poster did not say it was a family issue, and yeah i'm a whiner.

[ECbum]

What did he expect from the thread?

Exactly, he just wanted all of us to confirm his need to ski during the holidays while his mom sat at home being oversensitive. 11 years? Go home and get a grip on what it means to be caring and generous...the snow will continue to fall, the masses will leave, and you'll give your mother what SHE wants.

Don't be a selfish prick...

[Buster Highmen]

What did he expect from the thread?

What did he get from it?

My guess is that he expected a lot of the guilt fueled reaction he got. He and BGA were known for some trolling.

Then again, that's not all he got, was it?

[robokill1981]

Nice backpedal. Got on your twin tipped helmet?

You suggest giving someone the benefit of the doubt and then accuse me of backpedaling when I do? Fine then, he sucks at life for both not going home for the holidays and for not coming on here to defend or explain himself.





And he's a dick.


Seriously though his silence on this suggests that there really isn't anything more to this than his first post. If there is? Great. If not? Jackass/Troll.

[irul&ublo]

What would Tupac do?

Slap his ho around for not screening calls from his mother.

[easyrdr]

My Christmas story. I flew home to the midwest from Tahoe. Supposed to be a 5 day trip meaning, fly in get 3 full days with the fam, fly out. Due to weather it turned into 4 days in airports 12 hours in rental cars, I got to see my family for all of 8 hours, luggage never arrived and neither did the gifts I brought for the family, airport security physically removed me from my connecting flight home after they informed me my connection flight was canceled due to lack of staff. Never even flew to either city that appeared on my tickets, didn't get my luggage for another month. And I am now on "the list" of problem travelers.

So I tell you all of this because I have now missed 3 christmas holiday's in a row. I absolutely refuse to get anywhere near a plane that time of year. With that said my family has visited me once for thanksgiving, my sisters 1 or 2 times a season (no you can't see any pictures of them ). Plus I am fortunate to be able to see them all for about 3 months out of the year whenever I feel like it, since I am within 8 hours drive of them.

For me Christmas is an excuse for everyone that otherwise wouldn't see family to take time off and visit. Since I am lucky enough to see them a lot more the holiday is not any different then any other day of the week.

[onehotchili]

normally when i take off to go visit family for Christmas (like this year to Maui)... the boyz in Tahoe rejoice because it is typically EPIC that whole week.

yeah, last year i stuck around and we had epic *rain*!

[easyrdr]

Yo danimal got an idea for ya
since you missed 11 or so, how about you just say your skipping this one as well then jump on a plane and surprise her.....I bet she will be stoked on that for a few years and you could skip a few more. Trust me it works!

[MeatPuppet]

Since we're talking about family, holidays, and guilt today...

I haven't been home for Xmas or Thanksgiving in 11 years.

My siblings say my mom cries every year because I won't come home for Christmas.

My brother and I have tried to talk them into renting a house in Jackson or something, but she won't leave the old crib for the holidays and I ain't going back to flatville during the ski season, ever. So, my mom hung up on me today when I told her I would be skiing on Christmas again. I told her it has nothing to do with them, but I love the holidays out here, mainly because I have lots of time off and I get in lots of great skiing at that time of year.
Sorry ma.

Fuck dude! Get your ass home and see your family. The snow will be here when you get back.

[bklyn]

What would Tupac do?

Suggest Danimal go to Vegas for xmas instead.

[danimal's dead]

Whoever said I was selfish, that's what my sisters always say.

Buster don't call me a troll, I have played devil's advocate, but only to get people to think a different way, I have never trolled.

Am I a powder addict? Yes.
Did I think I would get more sympathy here? Yes.

I would have to miss a week to go that far, which is one less precious week of skiing and vacation.

My mother will be surrounded by a household of friends and relatives.

It's just her sentimental side that wants all her kids home for Christmas.

I do not have frequent flier miles, I swore off credit cards years and years ago. So cost is an issue, I'd have to fly my son and better half as well.

Maybe I am a dick, I can live with that, but if I missed a storm, I couldn't live with myself and I would make everyone miserable. Who said December isn't a good ski month, especially the end of the month, that is insanity.

[skiguide]

It's just her sentimental side that wants all her kids home for Christmas.... So cost is an issue, I'd have to fly my son and better half as well.

I almost bought some of your reasoning... but these two points now stick out to me...

She wants to see her GRANDKID at xmas too! It's not just about you.

your kid may enjoy christmas at grandma's too.

[irul&ublo]

Yeah...gotta go w/ skiguide on this one. The grandkid involvement raises the dick quotient.

[mc_roon]

...but if I missed a storm, I couldn't live with myself...

the reality is that storms come many times a year; christmas comes only once. And the snow is probably not amazing around thanksgiving.

Also, give your son a chance to be with his extened family around the holidays.

[skibee]

Ahhh... more informtion, 3 plane tickets, not one, and it sure doesn't sound like DD is a dirt bag ski bum swinging chairs at a ski hill NOR is he a chilling exec with loads of cash... makes the whole drop everything and go gig harder when you add more info.

My experieince has always been that I worked thro the holidays, make hay while the tourist sun shines at the resort, yeah Xmas day is slow but the week is busy so make a few bucks while you can, so my family has gotten uesed to the fact that I'm not around. Recently that changed and they had made plans to go to Hawaii (without me!!!). I was around and could have spent the time with them but they left me out of their plans beacuse I had never participated in the past. Beware of being left out eventually.

As for the extra beta... the family makes things interesting, does yer kid want to experience the whole family Xmas thang... cousins, aunties etc?
Something to consider.

Good luck making a decision, I once surprised my parents on thanksgiving and wound up eating spaghetti cuz they hadn't done anything fancy... warn e'm if your coming.

B

[4matic]

Dude, you made your MOM cry.

Every guy that gets a tattoo made their mom cry.

Every guy that comes home drunk in High School makes their mom cry.

Every girl shacked up with her boyfriend makes her mom cry.

Mom's are gonna cry..