Christmas Guilt

**danimal's dead** · 11-01-2006, 04:45 PM

Since we're talking about family, holidays, and guilt today...

I haven't been home for Xmas or Thanksgiving in 11 years.

My siblings say my mom cries every year because I won't come home for Christmas.

My brother and I have tried to talk them into renting a house in Jackson or something, but she won't leave the old crib for the holidays and I ain't going back to flatville during the ski season, ever. So, my mom hung up on me today when I told her I would be skiing on Christmas again. I told her it has nothing to do with them, but I love the holidays out here, mainly because I have lots of time off and I get in lots of great skiing at that time of year.
Sorry ma.

**mrw** · 11-01-2006, 04:52 PM

My mom passed away this spring so my outlook is a bit different than yours.

With that in mind,my advice is...go home for Christmas. Someday you will be glad you did.

**skimoore** · 11-01-2006, 04:54 PM

Take one Christmas off. As much as you love skiing, guess what, you have all season. Take a couple days to make your mom the happiest she's been over the holidays. The best skiing isn't usually December anyways...

**lax** · 11-01-2006, 04:54 PM

yea not being home for christmas sucks. i feel bad, but the pow calls (edit-for teh 2nd year in a row). 11 years straight and making your mom cry is a little intense. i'd go home if i had the dough....what's two days?

**PlayHarder** · 11-01-2006, 04:56 PM

Dude, you made your MOM cry.

**Tippster** · 11-01-2006, 04:57 PM

Seriously - your MOM is worth 3 days spent away from the Hill. This is ridiculous.

**4matic** · 11-01-2006, 05:00 PM

Originally Posted by mrw

My mom passed away this spring so my outlook is a bit different than yours.

With that in mind,my advice is...go home for Christmas. Someday you will be glad you did.

There are always doubts and regrets about what we might have done. Visit? Yes.. On Christmas. Crowded airports vs. a ski resort? No holiday travel for this guy. At least the last 30 years.

**Free Range Lobster** · 11-01-2006, 05:00 PM

Wow, you sure are a piece of shit huh?

**srozing** · 11-01-2006, 05:01 PM

This is sad. Go home for christmas. You can miss a couple of freaking powder days for your family. Either that or you need to go to skiers anonymous.

Originally Posted by danimal's dead

Since we're talking about family, holidays, and guilt today...

I haven't been home for Xmas or Thanksgiving in 11 years.

My siblings say my mom cries every year because I won't come home for Christmas.

My brother and I have tried to talk them into renting a house in Jackson or something, but she won't leave the old crib for the holidays and I ain't going back to flatville during the ski season, ever. So, my mom hung up on me today when I told her I would be skiing on Christmas again. I told her it has nothing to do with them, but I love the holidays out here, mainly because I have lots of time off and I get in lots of great skiing at that time of year.
Sorry ma.

**nick > jesus** · 11-01-2006, 05:01 PM

what is three days out of a possible 200+ days of skiing (dependings on location)?

**leroy jenkins** · 11-01-2006, 05:02 PM

for a different kind of christmas whining, I fucking hate giving gifts. Half the time I can't think of anything decent, so I just get some piece of junk because, well, you have to get them something.

I wish peolple just randomly gave each other cool things, when they thought of something. That way we wouldn't have to deal with the stress and guilt and also wouldn't have to recieve useless shit we don't want.

**lemon boy** · 11-01-2006, 05:02 PM

I think I'm with likwid. Blows me away how little people value their families.

**cj001f** · 11-01-2006, 05:03 PM

You can easily change, but don't want too. Why waste your time with guilt?

**cab9** · 11-01-2006, 05:03 PM

Originally Posted by mrw

My mom passed away this spring so my outlook is a bit different than yours.

With that in mind,my advice is...go home for Christmas. Someday you will be glad you did.

My mother passed away last spring as well, and I always avoided going home until she was sick. A few days of skiing missed to make your mother happy for the year, is something you should do.
I hate saying it, but when she is gone, you will ask yourself why you didn't visit more often.

**Daywalker** · 11-01-2006, 05:04 PM

Originally Posted by Tippster

Seriously - your MOM is worth 3 days spent away from the Hill. This is ridiculous.

Agreed, that's beat up man.

**robokill1981** · 11-01-2006, 05:05 PM

You are a dick. Go home for the holidays. Try not to suck at at life so hard from now on.

**altagirl** · 11-01-2006, 05:09 PM

I almost never go home for Christmas either. My family knows they're invited out here, and this year my sister and her husband are coming to visit. My parents MIGHT even come. Why act like they can't travel and want me to, I have no idea. They're retired. They own an RV. They complain that there's snow here, but they live in Michigan. I know damn well that there is generally less snow at my house than at theirs in the winter.

Though I will say, my mom has never cried about it or hung up on me. That's pretty rough. And I think I'd give in and go for a day or two. Though... why does it have to be Christmas? I think I'd just pick a weekend and go. (Though my family does not have huge get-togethers or anything so it's not like I'm missing some huge reunion or something, so I could get away with that.)

**davey** · 11-01-2006, 05:10 PM

Originally Posted by danimal's dead

Since we're talking about family, holidays, and guilt today...

I haven't been home for Xmas or Thanksgiving in 11 years.

My siblings say my mom cries every year because I won't come home for Christmas.

My brother and I have tried to talk them into renting a house in Jackson or something, but she won't leave the old crib for the holidays and I ain't going back to flatville during the ski season, ever. So, my mom hung up on me today when I told her I would be skiing on Christmas again. I told her it has nothing to do with them, but I love the holidays out here, mainly because I have lots of time off and I get in lots of great skiing at that time of year.
Sorry ma.

You sound like a selfish piece of shit.

**IrieRon** · 11-01-2006, 05:12 PM

Listen, Moms come and go, but ski-town bros are forever.

**Buster Highmen** · 11-01-2006, 05:13 PM

Originally Posted by robokill1981

You are a dick. Go home for the holidays. Try not to suck at at life so hard from now on.

It's amazing how much we can know about the intimacies of each othes lives just because of this wunnerful innernet thingy.

FWIW, I don't go home at the Holidays either. And those of you who have good relationships with your families are very, very lucky.

**rideit** · 11-01-2006, 05:13 PM

Fuck, I stay miles away from the resorts from Christmas-New Years, anyway.

If that is what she wants, go home. You can raid their liquor cabinet and pillage the bathroom for pills. That should even the score a little.

**homerjay** · 11-01-2006, 05:14 PM

Originally Posted by likwid

Wow, you sure are a piece of shit huh?

Seriously. Your post screams "I'm a selfish prick that puts skiing in front of my family." Hope you can live with yourself.

**Blurred** · 11-01-2006, 05:15 PM

I usually can relate to Danimals Dead...but definitely not on this one. I love going home for Christmas. Not only do I look forward to it, but I plan for it several months in advance. Maybe it's because I drive by SLC or Jackson/Targhee on the way, and when I get there, I have the option of skiing Sun Valley, Bogus, Brundage or Pomerelle. BUT, I'd still look forward to going just to see my family. Family is where it's at. Maybe you have some family issues you need to deal with.

**4matic** · 11-01-2006, 05:17 PM

Originally Posted by rideit

Fuck, I stay miles away from the resorts from Christmas-New Years, anyway.
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Not true. Christmas is dead. So is New Years. Christmas is family day and New Years is sleep in.

**skimoore** · 11-01-2006, 05:18 PM

Originally Posted by Buster Highmen

And those of you who have good relationships with your families are very, very lucky.

My guess is he has something of a decent relationship with his mother, she obviously cares enough to cry every time he doesn't go home for the holidays....he is lucky in that regard, and is not willing to accept that and take a few days for the sake of a mother who cares...