I love my wife and all, but Jesus Hercules Christ...

[skaredshtles]

<snip> she orients the TP so it rolls off towards the wall. SMH.

You just had to go and ruin the whole rant with this...

[farmguy]

This and the fact that I want to solve problems and she wants to complain about problems leads to the vast majority of our fights.

I was told this advice from a long time married guy many years ago. After my first divorce of course.
As soon as your wife finish's explaining or venting, ask her..."are you looking for advice/solution or just venting?"

That has saved me so many times, too bad I don't always remember to ask it.

[riser4]

I was told this advice from a long time married guy many years ago. After my first divorce of course.
As soon as your wife finish's explaining or venting, ask her..."are you looking for advice/solution or just venting?"

That has saved me so many times, too bad I don't always remember to ask it.

It doesn't go over well when I ask her to state that up front, before launching into it. But she sure does appreciates it when I state it first.

[bennymac]

Obligatory repost

[Danno]

I was told this advice from a long time married guy many years ago. After my first divorce of course.
As soon as your wife finish's explaining or venting, ask her..."are you looking for advice/solution or just venting?"

That has saved me so many times, too bad I don't always remember to ask it.

I saw it phrased as "do you want to be helped, heard, or hugged" (the alliteration makes it easy to remember). My GF and I have used this with success; I did not succeed with my ex-wife.

[Ted Striker]

Shit, no man. I believe I'd get my ass kicked for sayin' something like that.

[muted reborn]

Shit, no man. I believe I'd get my ass kicked for sayin' something like that.

Agreed. Don't ask what they are doing, jesus. If they didn't ask you for help or a solution, they are venting. So in my house it's venting 99% of time.

[plugboots]

Agreed. Don't ask what they are doing, jesus. If they didn't ask you for help or a solution, they are venting. So in my house it's venting 99% of time.

Exactly. Even if they DO ask...It's a trap! You may get accused of mansplaining if you don't phrase the answer in a satisfactory manner. What's satisfactory? Beats me.

[californiagrown]

You just had to go and ruin the whole rant with this...

Its the little things in life.

[XXX-er]

I upgraded to Vulcans and sold my Mercurys 8 yrs ago to a buddys wife, I even let her take them home to bond with and be sure before giving me the money

But i have never seen her wear them so I mentioned this to bud and he said " thats right and I have never asked her why " which is i think pretty smart for a new husband

so I'm not going to ask her either

[singlecross]

[dan_pdx]

One time a coworker pissed me off enough that I called my wife at lunch and said something along the lines of "Jenny did [some shitty thing], what a fucking asshole." My wife was like "Oh, I'm sorry, we can talk all about it at home tonight," and I was genuinely confused. "What do you mean? We just did."

Definitely some differences in communication styles, but I have slowly learned not to try to fix everything that she brings up 'cause most of the time that's not what she's looking for.

[Core Shot]

[old goat]

My wife has informed me that she does not want to be texted. She prefers to be called. But emails are ok. So, I assume, are faxes, letters, telegrams, and smoke signals. But not texts. I think she prefers calls to texts because then there is no proof that I told her what I told her.

[Meadow Skipper]

^ heh. Yep.

[riser4]

My wife has informed me that she does not want to be texted. She prefers to be called. But emails are ok. So, I assume, are faxes, letters, telegrams, and smoke signals. But not texts. I think she prefers calls to texts because then there is no proof that I told her what I told her.

Emails aren't also proof?

[plugboots]

My wife has informed me that she does not want to be texted. She prefers to be called. But emails are ok. So, I assume, are faxes, letters, telegrams, and smoke signals. But not texts. I think she prefers calls to texts because then there is no proof that I told her what I told her.

Hmmm...Proceed with caution.

[XXX-er]

My wife has informed me that she does not want to be texted. She prefers to be called. But emails are ok. So, I assume, are faxes, letters, telegrams, and smoke signals. But not texts. I think she prefers calls to texts because then there is no proof that I told her what I told her.

my last GF was the first relationship where we almost never talked on the phone instead it was all texts which are handy for alot of mundane tasks like PU a bottle of wine and these food products but there are no feelings in a text so I might read a text and think wow am I in shit or WTF ? so I would have prefered more calls

But that was a new relationship whereas you have been married fo eva to this woman and of course this does not answer why no texts but E-mails are OK ?

[AK47bp]

My wife only calls for 2 reasons.

1. She’s driving and has to talk (rare)
2. Something important, usually bad went down or something.

So when her call pops up on my phone I get that feeling you get when a cop pulls up behind you on the highway.

[plugboots]

My wife only calls for 2 reasons.

1. She’s driving and has to talk (rare)
2. Something important, usually bad went down or something.

So when her call pops up on my phone I get that feeling you get when a cop pulls up behind you on the highway.

Exactly. I see her name on the phone and I hit it immediately, and answer with: “Dang, what’s up?”

[Core Shot]

My wife only calls for 2 reasons.

1. She’s driving and has to talk (rare)
2. Something important, usually bad went down or something.

So when her call pops up on my phone I get that feeling you get when a cop pulls up behind you on the highway.

Nope.
She’s either driving to work. And wants to blah blah.
Or #2 she’s not working that day and wants to ramble on about the squirrels.

Text is best.

[hooked]

I refuse to get an iPhone because my wife has one. If I were to read one of her texts (and she could see that I did) but not respond, or start to type a reply which shows (...) and then stop, we would fight a lot more.

[XXX-er]

I had a ski bud ( RIP) we would be doing runs on the hill mid week him not at work,

his wife also worked for the govy so he told me she could see on her LT he wasn't on his LT

which means he was probably skiing

[johnnyg82]

I refuse to get an iPhone because my wife has one. If I were to read one of her texts (and she could see that I did) but not respond, or start to type a reply which shows (...) and then stop, we would fight a lot more.

Very easy to turn off

[puma]

Well, I hesitate to bring this up...but just could not believe it. Two days ago, I was about to turn the dishwasher on, she said wait, I need to make sure that dish you just put in is not crazy dirty. I said, no worries, it was rinsed and looks clean. She then proceeds to tell me I always put dishes in with food all over them. I mentioned that could not be further from the truth, I have ALWAYS washed dishes off to the point they are essentially spotless before putting in...I then left to avoid further discussion on the topic. Fast forward to last night...I made dinner, she cleaned up. I see, placed in a crazy manner, a serving spoon with enormous amounts of food on it. I am certain it did not touch a stream of water before being put into the dishwasher. I MOMENTARILY thought about bringing this up but knew better. I instead took it out, washed it off, while glaring at her. Luckily (for me) she did not notice the glare...

Sometimes I really do have to wonder...