
Originally Posted by
TexER
I can't believe I read this whole thing, but since you are asking for advice:
You are asking a question you already know the answer to. You are reaching the point in life where you must decide: Tourist or Traveler?
Take the high road. Life is full of weak, souless tourists for whom life is one giant scam. They do whatever they are going to do because it is impossible for them not to. And even when they appear to do the right thing, it is only because others are watching, and the good act only serves to continue whichever impression they are currently trying to project. You will find them everywhere. In every setting. The words flow like water: "Can I borrow, Mine broke can I use yours, I forgot, It is not my fault, I didn't know, I was going to, It's not fair, They didn't tell me"
The good news: The farther you get afield, the harder the journey, the fewer bragging rights for having been, the fewer tourists you will be bogged down by.
Be a traveler. Take your lumps without complaint. Don't be muddied by a debate over the obvious. Technicalities, Rules, and Rulings are no victory. Hold the high ground: Honor, Character, Truth. Once you fall to their level there is no returning to the high ground and there is an endless supply of Tourists waiting to do the same to you.
Eventually in life you will find enough persons of similar character to yours that you can exclude the others. You will have friends, a family, business partners, mentors. My life is a string of unreturned books, unpaid debts, stolen equipment, unreciprocated kindness. Fuck 'em all because I can look every one of them in the eye, and they know what it really is and cower away like the maggot tourists they are.
Even with all of the money, and my shit back (particularly my SCUBA gear, Biography of Burton, Rossi 4S 203s... you know who you are if are reading this) I would not be ahead of where I am now. Because the other Travelers have tested me over years and I am one of them. And now that I know, I can freely reach in my pocket for my last dollar and know that I will get it back when it matters, hand over my prized 8 weight and it will be returned with a new fly tied on, and one for the box. Any kindness shown to a Traveler is always returned ten fold. Give abundantly and your life is enriched beyond measure. Count every change and keep an account book of that given and returned... you are a Tourist destined to have a life limited by the balance of those accounts.
The price sucks, but you are paying for a lifestyle that can't be bought any other way. When you see the weak bastard that owes you the $500 he will know, and you will know, but eventually it won't matter to you anymore... and he will always be a Tourist.
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