What do you do ...

G · 07-05-2007, 04:02 PM

^ If she's the kind of person who thinks an expensive decorative finger ROCK is important, then just let her go.

otherwise, get lots and lots of counseling.

**Skidog** · 07-05-2007, 04:10 PM

Originally Posted by Geoff

^ If she's the kind of person who thinks an expensive decorative finger ROCK is important, then just let her go.

otherwise, get lots and lots of counseling.

I never said expensive...but no matter the woman...THEY EAT THAT SHIT UP....

Just something...thats all....

The real point was to figure out whats pissing her off...that is if you plan on keeping her....

If not....im sure there are a BUNCH of mags here who would gladly take her #.

M

**RootSkier** · 07-05-2007, 04:19 PM

Skidog, your retardedness is endlessly amusing. Thanks.

**Skidog** · 07-05-2007, 04:22 PM

Originally Posted by RootSkier

Skidog, your retardedness is endlessly amusing. Thanks.

OK.....I dont get it...but ok...

and your advice was what???

JONG

M

**valleygirl** · 07-05-2007, 05:39 PM

Too much finger pointing going on here...

Nobody knows what's in her head but HER... ask her. And listen when she tells you. Then tell her what's in YOURS. Communication is key... respect, paramount... give some, you might get some. At the very least you'll get it for yourself.

Talk, talk, then talk some more.

My $.02.

**AsheanMT** · 07-05-2007, 05:53 PM

Sounds like a very shitty situation. One thing I know about relationships is that NOBODY can know whats really going on in anybody elses relationship but those involved. Relationships are dynamic and what works for one couple can be the undoing of another. Sounds like she's pretty unhappy, and thats making you unhappy. Perhaps its time to take a personal inventory and decide if your relationship is really something you both want. If not......then I think you know what you should do.

Paul Simon was right.....there are at least 50 ways to leave your lover.

**hop** · 07-05-2007, 06:10 PM

Recent history shows I'm no expert but it's not for lack of trying.
COMMUNICATE honestly with each other. That's all I've got.

Good luck bro.

**train07** · 07-05-2007, 07:32 PM

Originally Posted by Skidog

Dude if thats her in the pics....no offense...but shes probably pissed that there isn't (at least in the pics) a ROCK on her finger..

Go sport forth some cash and get her a rock for her finger.....that may keep her at "bay" ...

Dude...like mentioned...she seems like a catch, certainly looks wise, and shes stoked on skiing....dont eff it up...figure out whats pissing her off and change it...

M

You are one fucking moron

wait a minute..did i say that? Oh yeah, I did. Just checking.

**shmoesmith** · 07-05-2007, 09:02 PM

Originally Posted by valleygirl

Too much finger pointing going on here...

Nobody knows what's in her head but HER... ask her. And listen when she tells you. Then tell her what's in YOURS. Communication is key... respect, paramount... give some, you might get some. At the very least you'll get it for yourself.

Talk, talk, then talk some more.

My $.02.

And when you do this^^^^make sure that you stay calm and respectful of eachother. Even if she blows up at you, keep your cool. You won't get anywhere if it turns into a fight. Oh yeah. Marriage counciling. She seems like a keeper to me.

**Zeedashbo** · 07-05-2007, 10:05 PM

compared to the guy i lived with a couple years ago you have mellowed out mass brother. but it's all compromise. i suck at relationships and i don't have kids either, so i'm really no help. i'm sure all will work out for the best. btw: she is a pretty awesome girl, and easily as wild as you. maybe she thinks you get to have too much fun?

**SheSkisTrees** · 07-06-2007, 07:03 AM

Originally Posted by BRUTAH

did you see the pictures??? No way she ends up alone,

Yes, I saw her pictures. I may be a woman, but even I can see that she's lovely. I'm not talking about ending up with just anyone, hell, we can all find someone so we're not technically alone...but if she still loves him, then she wants to spend the rest of her life WITH HIM and does not want to be WITHOUT HIM and hence ALONE.

**rudiger** · 07-06-2007, 07:16 AM

She is beautifull womens!.

**Skidog** · 07-06-2007, 08:51 AM

Originally Posted by train07

You are one fucking moron

wait a minute..did i say that? Oh yeah, I did. Just checking.

Thanks DR Phil...why dont you enlighten us with your words of wisdom..

DICK

M

**amyzilla** · 07-06-2007, 11:19 AM

Maybe she's bored? I think the problem runs deeper, but it might do you both a world of good if you do something different. Take her out for some dates, go on a trip, get a dog, whatever... Do something new and exciting - it might help you reconnect with eachother and remember why you're together in the first place.

**Tuckerman** · 07-06-2007, 11:53 AM

Originally Posted by amyzilla

Maybe she's bored? I think the problem runs deeper, but it might do you both a world of good if you do something different. Take her out for some dates, go on a trip, get a dog, whatever... Do something new and exciting - it might help you reconnect with eachother and remember why you're together in the first place.

Threesome? Maybe thats not new or different just brainstorming.

**train07** · 07-06-2007, 01:37 PM

Originally Posted by Skidog

Thanks DR Phil...why dont you enlighten us with your words of wisdom..

DICK

M

Okay.
IT HAS BEEN WRITTEN... that sometimes a person will put another down to feel better about themself. I've read your insights,

Originally Posted by Skidog

"but shes probably pissed that there isn't (at least in the pics) a ROCK on her finger..Go sport forth some cash and get her a rock for her finger.....that may keep her at "bay"

Originally Posted by Skidog

"but no matter the woman...THEY EAT THAT SHIT UP "

and I have looked at my comment regarding your statement and...

I really do feel better about myself.

**SkiBrain** · 07-06-2007, 01:50 PM

Originally Posted by NorCascader

It comes down to me saying "you knew who I was before you married me".
she never likes that.

I have bad habits. drinksmokecuss

Never too excessive by my standards, but everyone has different opinions of what's what.
But I have fun and take really good care of my little family, she fell in love with me because of our craziness.

I remember listening to some therapist on a radio talk show a long time ago who said that the qualities that initially attract us to our sig others are often the very same qualities that end up driving them apart.

Seems like that may be part of what's going on here. I've definitely seen that happen in couples around me, as well as being an issue in a couple of my own past relationships.

Like others have suggested, my advice would be the 3Cs - communication, compromise, and maybe counselling if you can't work through the issues on your own.

Best of luck to you both. Hope you can work things work out.

**amyzilla** · 07-06-2007, 02:38 PM

Originally Posted by Tuckerman

Threesome? Maybe thats not new or different just brainstorming.

I wasn't going to go there... But hey, whatever works.

Seriously though, good luck NorCascader and I hope you two can work it out.

Hurricane · 07-06-2007, 03:56 PM

The Dr Phil overtones in this soy filled thread make me want to puke.

PS-I want to bone your wife.

**valleygirl** · 07-06-2007, 06:47 PM

Originally Posted by Hurricane

The Dr Phil overtones in this soy filled thread make me want to puke.

PS-I want to bone your wife.

ever wonder if you have any use on the planet at all...?

eh... thought not... fucktards generally don't.

Go lie down, troll.

**NorCascader** · 07-06-2007, 08:12 PM

After a little worthwhile talking (thank you womens) Norcascadielady loves me and I love her and all that soy ghey. I think she gets mad at me in hopes of the makeup sexy-jk.

As men all know we are great until we are idiots.
I get checked and balanced.

Seriously a big thanks to all...and to all a good night

**Crass3000** · 07-06-2007, 08:43 PM

Originally Posted by Yossarian

Since it sounds like we're talking about drinking/smoking, maybe you should consider doing them less.
They're not exactly good for you, eh?
If it were a change for the worse, like, you didn't party enough, okay, that'd be different.

Yep I have no idea who either of you are but I got MOST of the partying out of my system from years 14-24. I was a professional partyer and I wasn't about to let a job get in the way of fun. After all that the past five years (once I hit 30 or so) I haven't had any patience with dating the partier type. Possibly your wife is trying to tell you that she is ready to move on to a different mode in her life in which she doesn't want your or her time wasted with hangovers, etc. You may be the most productive person here on TGR after a night out -- I have no idea (I suffer for days and don't get anything done). But in my past I got sick of listening to how my ex was too tired a few times a week to do anything constructive like hiking, etc. Just food for thought. Not everybody grows up at the same pace. Some people party till their dying day and others just get bored of it. After a while it's just doing the same tired thing day after day.