Older parents-WWYD?

[gravitylover]

Can't help with that but I can send a virtual hug.

[Harry]

I wanna go skiing real bad

I do too. You know what I did last night ? Put my Bosu ball in the middle of the living room and put Blizzard of Ahhhhs on the 72 inch flat screen. Stayed balancing on the Bosu for the whole movie.

I am stoked AF about the upcoming season. I am going to break 100 days on skis this season. Some of those days will be skiing with Buzzworthy.

[m2711c]

It’s good to have a plan.

[schindlerpiste]

I do too. You know what I did last night ? Put my Bosu ball in the middle of the living room and put Blizzard of Ahhhhs on the 72 inch flat screen. Stayed balancing on the Bosu for the whole movie.

I am stoked AF about the upcoming season. I am going to break 100 days on skis this season. Some of those days will be skiing with Buzzworthy.

Definition of Rock Star This year, I turned 65. My realistic goal is to ski 65 days.
+++VIBES+++ Lee and Buzz

[LeeLau]

Buzz. Hang in there. It does and will suck. But the pain becomes an ache and gets a little less painful

[Buster Highmen]

Text from dad this afternoon asking if I’m available to talk right now. Heart sank. Dad FaceTimed me and turn out is actually my sister. Kidney and liver failure, in the hospital. My mom also is about on kidney dialysis with the numbers she’s sporting lately as well. These kinds of days are quite difficult.

>>>vibes<<<

[Buzzworthy]

I appreciate the kind words and encouragement. Harry it’s on.

Met with a kidney specialist as the numbers showing 14%. I don’t know much about this but the internet says that’s dialysis territory. I have a lot of reading to do. With a transplant liver needed too, fuck.

[tgapp]

Text from dad this afternoon asking if I’m available to talk right now. Heart sank. Dad FaceTimed me and turn out is actually my sister. Kidney and liver failure, in the hospital. My mom also is about on kidney dialysis with the numbers she’s sporting lately as well. These kinds of days are quite difficult.

+++vibes buzz+++

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[Meadow Skipper]

I’m sorry to hear that Buzz.

[Buzzworthy]

Trying to get more information about my sister and I’m trying to figure out what is real data and what is fluff my mom is adding to the issues at hand.

They are old. My mom is thinking she can donate part of her liver. In her responses on text, it’s clear she’s confused with all of the information coming in. But I’m wondering what’s up with my dad. He’s just quiet on our group text.

So she’s been in the hospital now for 4 days. I know zero more now than I did then. Except my mom has given her hand and foot massages. What? I asked for real updates and I can’t seem to get them.

[m2711c]

Have you tried contacting the hospital or her doctor directly?

[Buzzworthy]

I’m a sme in HIPAA regulations, so no, that would get me nowhere.

[beaterdit]

Buzz is your sis conscious? (I hope she is) If my patients are conscious and of [relatively] sound mind, a simple yes or no is all it takes. I give them the privacy code and they're good to get info. I hope she's not on a ventilator, that obviously complicates things.

Sorry your sis is going through this, and the rest of you too.

[mooseknuckle]

If she is conscious would she grant a POA in your favor to elevate your position and ability to assess the situatuon?

[Buzzworthy]

I wish we were on terms that I could reach out.

[beaterdit]

Damn that's tough. Sorry Man. I've had a tenuous relationship with my brother for practically my whole life. Thankfully since my Dad passed almost three years ago things have been getting better between us.

[BCMtnHound]

Got the call this afternoon, just as I was locking up the office. My wife’s works in the same health authority so at first thought she was calling about something. Turns out it was a nurse from my father’s city hospital. He’d been feeling a bit poor since the weekend, was waiting for some blood tests to come back. Spoke with him on Monday, was going to check on him again this eve. Chest pains around noon, he was with a buddy and they called 911. His heart stopped on route to the hospital, they were unable to revive him.
Got home and took my daughter to her skating practice. Then started calling family and friends. Most had spoken with him within the last couple days - this was a shock to all. An hour later pick up my daughter, throw a pie in the oven, turn on the tube with her and wait for her mum to get home from work. Mum comes in, I gather us together and break the news. We just visited with Opa at Thanksgiving, prepping the property for winter. Daughter breaks down, hard to keep my own emotions in check. And so the wheel turns.

Give your folks a hug if you can. Every day is a bonus.

[easyrdr]

My condolences BC. So sorry. That's really cool that he reached out to so many the last couple days, almost like he knew and wanted to talk to everyone one more time.

[frorider]

Condolences BCMH.

[LeeLau]

So sorry for your loss BCMH

[Meadow Skipper]

Sorry to hear that BCMH.

[Buzzworthy]

Very sorry to hear this news BC. I hope in time the pain lessens.

[BCMtnHound]

Thanks all. Trying to organize all the details around a statutory long weekend is fun. Heading down to the Koots tomorrow. Collecting his hound will be a heartbreaker - she was heartbroken when mom died 9yrs ago.

easyrdr, he was a social guy, good local friends and sea buddies on the coast he’s known for >60yrs. Was not uncommon to try and call and get a busy signal. His life celebration, likely in the spring, will not be a small quiet affair. So glad a friend was visiting when his ticker gave out. Our greatest fear was that he would be alone at home if this happened, even if people stopped by at least every other day. Stubborn man wouldn’t get an alert button. He definitely lived his life on his terms.

[XXX-er]

. Stubborn man wouldn’t get an alert button. He definitely lived his life on his terms.

you got idea how much those things cost !

condolences eh

[Yukonrider]

This is as good a place as any I suppose.
Last time I was around my father 6 months ago I noticed he was a bit.. off. Just seemed a bit disconnected. Fast forward to three months ago, we went on a cruise, and being with him for two weeks it was undeniable, his mental state seemed to have declined. One day he asked "were we here yesterday?" And we were on a continent he'd never been to after spending a day at sea on a boat...

There were conversations between my mother and I about this, and we decided she should bring it up to his GP next time he was in.

Fast forward to three days ago, she had a conversation with him after his brother brought it up to her. He admitted he had been keeping notes on issues he had noticed, and they have a meeting with a specialist, but nothing concrete yet.

Dementia, alzheimers, I don't know anything about either. I'm not entirely sure what I should be doing, if anything. We decided not to tell my sister as she is expecting a child soon, and mom thought that would be a lot to dump on her.