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[Mustonen]

Thanks again for the kind words. No amount of discussion will resolve this one. I am a shell living in a house occupied by my exwife and 4 kids. Starting today.

That’s brutal and I’m sorry. It will get better, even if it doesn’t feel like it. Whatever path you pursue, think it through and stick to it. Make sure you’re prioritizing what’s important (probably some combination of your kids, your health, and your kids’ mother). It’s easy to be small and do small things that make you less than who you are; avoid that if you can, forgive yourself if you can’t.

Good luck, and make sure you reach out to others when you need to.

/advice

[m2711c]

Sorry man. Don’t forget to ski. Getting out and getting some physical exercise can really help clear the mind.

[frorider]

+1 to both these posts ^^.

[TahoeJ]

I do feel a little bit of weakness admitting that this was a bridge too far; perhaps a stronger man would be able to overcome this, but not me.

I would argue that those could be the actions of a weaker man, not a stronger one. Kudos to knowing yourself and holding firm with your decision.

[Choss Jonger, Sr.]

Todd dude, good luck with your situation. I feel for you. Staying away from booze is really helping my to have the most amazingist divorce that I possibly can.

My stbxw still is “undecided” as tk how to dispose of the home. Next year maybe the state will finish it.

My former coworkers call my stbxw “stepmom” bc I am expecting my first child, with a different woman - and in largest part due to my stbxw’s decision to draw out the process to prolong her extraction of my resources. Anyway, so nice of stepmom to help fund a sweet new home for my baby-to-be and the woman I shoulda married the first go ‘round.

Good luck Tgapp, keep hanging in there. I am rooting for you.

[Todd Zander]

For a variety of reasons i have mostly removed myself from participating in the IPA and bourbon threads, all the while supporting her increase in consumption after 6+ years of birthing and carrying our 4 children.

I am the one that messed up in this situation, and while it was a long time ago I have to constantly provide 210% effort as 110% has not been adequate.

There is a counselor across the street from my employer who is full but I can come and go as needed at my shop so the convenience of that makes it a small possibility.

I still might be able to salvage our marriage after all. Thanks for the help guys. Anyone else entering this realm should know the resources available are far and wide.

[oftpiste]

TZ, your best resource is inside you. Your power is in your calm! And do your best not to succumb to the temptation, based on how you might treated down the road, to lose your shit. It's that "being able to look yourself in the mirror for the rest of your life" thing.

Sounds like you have decent handle on your own behavior and accountability, so good on ya for that. Hang in there. Whatever the outcome there are tough times ahead. And better ones just beyond those. Those of us who've been there will all attest to that.

[Todd Zander]

We had a 6 month old bull calf get hung up in a round bale feeder at the house/farm today, hes dead. Fucking great. Still no responses from the providers I reached out to last week. Time to try some more.

[~mikey b]

[Meadow Skipper]

^ Wow, wish I’d had that when I could’ve used it.

[~mikey b]

that’s a lot

[zion zig zag]

Fixed it for you:

[Meadow Skipper]

Heh. ^ That’s good too, just different.

[Core Shot]

We had a 6 month old bull calf get hung up in a round bale feeder at the house/farm today, hes dead. Fucking great. Still no responses from the providers I reached out to last week. Time to try some more.

Tell you sacrificed the calf as an offering to your marriage.

[Todd Zander]

Havent slept a wink after being told our marriage is nothing more than a legal document and the only thing holding us together is providing a better childhood for the kids than what we had growing up We are not divorcing and I am not being asked to leave, seeing a counselor will not fix what I have done.

So many questions,

[MakersTeleMark]

Havent slept a wink after being told our marriage is nothing more than a legal document and the only thing holding us together is providing a better childhood for the kids than what we had growing up We are not divorcing and I am not being asked to leave, seeing a counselor will not fix what I have done.

So many questions,

As TRG's resident marriage counselor, I suggest the answer is how fast and far can you run, Todd?

[Mustonen]

Havent slept a wink after being told our marriage is nothing more than a legal document and the only thing holding us together is providing a better childhood for the kids than what we had growing up We are not divorcing and I am not being asked to leave, seeing a counselor will not fix what I have done.

So many questions,

Hopefully that’s all just hyperbole and drama. Nothing is stopping you from seeing a counselor or taking away your agency to see this to a more palatable conclusion.

Also, what the hell did you do?

[riser4]

Also, what the hell did you do?

This.

[Todd Zander]

I cheated. I regret it everyday i wake up. It happened with one woman before during and after our small at home wedding.

More recently i have come to realize that I have not put any effort into fixing my wrong and just sinply being faithful is not enough.

Im in the wrong and im finally being punished.

Seeing a counselor cant happen soon enough

[alias_rice]

It happened during your wedding, you say?

[~mikey b]

that’s really fucked up

[skiballs]

Are the women Mormon? the elders can explain the meaning of sister wife.


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[~mikey b]

you can’t fix that wrong

you can fix you




sorry but I’ve pretty much lost all sympathy for you

were you 12?

fucking cheaters are just assholes


figure it out

[Todd Zander]

During the time of our marriage, yes.

Do i deserve all of whats coming to me, yes.

I have changed and am not giving up.

[frorider]

Well shit. Cheated before, after…and during your wedding? Not even sure what that means or entails. Talk about a huge billboard screaming that you weren’t ready to marry your wife.