Tammy Wynette cannot be reached for help-Divorce advice

[Danno]

And when did she find out, and when did kids come into the equation. So many questions.

[Mustonen]

Gonna need some more details.

Also, though, nothing is insurmountable if both parties are willing to work on it. Nothing is possible if one party isn’t willing to work on it. Convincing her to work on it might end up being your life’s work. You’ll have to ask yourself if it’s worth it. I have zero doubt that just maintaining some fucked up status quo “for the kids” is no way to live your life and is not worth it.

That said, you’re talking to a room full of people who decided it wasn’t worth it or who were victims of same. Grain of salt and all…. But I’d encourage you to find happiness and forgive yourself and surround yourself with people who will do the same. I find myself having less and less time for people who can’t find tolerance and forgiveness for the shortcomings of others.

[Todd Zander]

Today starts the first of many counseling sessions, again my thanks to those who reached out.

[Core Shot]

I cheated. I regret it everyday i wake up. It happened with one woman before during and after our small at home wedding.

More recently i have come to realize that I have not put any effort into fixing my wrong and just sinply being faithful is not enough.

Im in the wrong and im finally being punished.

Seeing a counselor cant happen soon enough

It happened during your wedding, you say?

that’s really fucked up

Yeah. During the wedding?

Wtf dude. You need help. She needs a real man.

[TahoeJ]

I'm still confused about "during the wedding." Like, everyone is getting ready and you're boning a bridesmaid in the upstairs bedroom?

And as others have said, staying together for the kids isn't actually doing them any favors. Plenty of studies show that two separate stable households is far better for kids than one unstable household. Even if you get along well in front of the kids, they're intuitive and can pick up on it and it's not any healthier than just splitting.

[ghosthop]

TZ, all this talk of being a shell and feeling sorry for yourself does no favors to your children. You owe them the best possible home life. Seems like you are well past your quota of selfishness.

If you haven’t already, you will need to own what you have done to your wife. No qualifiers, no equivocations. I am sure your therapist will work through this with you.

If your wife does stay with you, you owe her another wedding. And not because you talk her into it or it absolves you of your sins. But if she wants it you need to let her take back what you took from her and make an actual good faith commitment to your family.

Finally, I would organize whatever finances/resources you are in control of to make it as easy as possible for her to get on with her life if she decides to leave. And keep them that way until the kids are out of the house.

Good luck. I hope for the best outcome for your family.

[RootSkier]

Vasectomies are free, people.

[Mustonen]

Mine wasn’t. Best money I ever spent, though.

[AdironRider]

I'm still confused about "during the wedding." Like, everyone is getting ready and you're boning a bridesmaid in the upstairs bedroom?

And as others have said, staying together for the kids isn't actually doing them any favors. Plenty of studies show that two separate stable households is far better for kids than one unstable household. Even if you get along well in front of the kids, they're intuitive and can pick up on it and it's not any healthier than just splitting.

Yeah, sure but both of those options suck compared to one stable household.

[concretejungle]

Yeah, sure but both of those options suck compared to one stable household.

Where the fuck are you getting “one stable household “ out of the scant info that’s been provided?

[skaredshtles]

Where the fuck are you getting “one stable household “ out of the scant info that’s been provided?

AR - reliably cunting up one thread at a time since 2006.

[TahoeJ]

Yeah, sure but both of those options suck compared to one stable household.

Well, based on the description it sounds like that option isn't really in the cards. If one half of the couple despises the other and you're living together, that negative energy will reveal itself in one form or another eventually. We do need some clarification on the "during the wedding" part, because if it is what it sounds like that's pretty much unforgivable for most people.

[riser4]

Gonna need some more details.

This. And pics.

[gravitylover]

We do need some clarification on the "during the wedding" part, because if it is what it sounds like that's pretty much unforgivable for most people.

This

[byates1]

Surprised she hasn't banged a few of tz's friends just to even things out ..

[oftpiste]

Today starts the first of many counseling sessions, again my thanks to those who reached out.

Together or.....? Hope it goes well. Seek both solo and couple's help!

To add to the questions, if she is done with the marriage why is she not initiating divorce? Seriously, you'll ALL be way better off separately if the kids are the only thing keeping you together. And if the marriage is indeed over, seek help fro the counselor as to putting things to bed with as little damage to everyone, especially the kids, as possible.

There's no way you can model a healthy marriage or relationship for your kids in that state, and they will be the worse for it. You as their parents will be responsible for serious problems for them down the road. Pretty sure you don't want that.

Hang in there mang. Ugh.

[Choss Jonger, Sr.]

Well the stbxwife skipped the pretrial hearing on the Solstice past and it seemed like the judge did not love that approach. Fingers crossed for Lucky Friday the 13th of January for the state of CO to step up and do what she is apparently unable to do for herself.

[XXX-er]

she got her pre-trial she just wasn't there

the court doesnt like that stuff

[MagnificentUnicorn]

Vasectomies are free, people.

In the US?


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[Supermoon]

In the US?


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State by state in the US. Mine was free in Oregon.

[MagnificentUnicorn]

Surprised she hasn't banged a few of tz's friends just to even things out ..

Maybe they were swingers and now there’s buyer’s remorse


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[RootSkier]

In the US?

Yes. Vast majority of health insurers in U.S. cover vasectomies at $0 out-of-pocket.

[Mustonen]

I don’t think that’s true. Still money well spent.

[MagnificentUnicorn]

Yes. Vast majority of health insurers in U.S. cover vasectomies at $0 out-of-pocket.

No, they don’t. What’s the vast majority percentage wise?

I paid a copay for mine, money well spent

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[~mikey b]

$100 copay

worth it