Tell me if I am being really stupid here....

[timvwcom]

I think alot of people miss this page topping update.

Still haven't talked to her, so I'm guessing she is really pissed cause she always calls me back same day.

Well??? Still no call back? Update!

[Cliff Huckable]

So I got drunk on massive amounts of tequila, blacked out and apparently was hitting on the girl pretty openly the other night. I called her and she didn't pick up. One of my buddied said it was a go, and I was hammered and agreed.


I'm fucking retarded.

end transmission of emo unicorn spew.

I think alot of people miss this page topping update.


Still haven't talked to her, so I'm guessing she is really pissed cause she always calls me back same day.

Do we all get what we deserve? I don't know, but I do know that you are getting nothing and it is exactly what you deserve.

You're unbelievable. Your gutlessness is wrecking your life and you don't even know it.

[yetanotheralias]

Do we all get what we deserve? I don't know, but I do know that you are getting nothing and it is exactly what you deserve.

You're unbelievable. Your gutlessness is wrecking your life and you don't even know it.

As much as it hurts you are 100% right.


Its slowly becoming worse and worse. Meet a girl -> fuck it up -> lose even more confidence -> repeat.


It took me a while to realize it, but I think a lot of my problems with women stem from my past and abandonment. My biological mother abandoned me at a young age, my adopted mom tried to kill herself when I was 5.

Maybe I am way over analyzing everything, who knows.


Anyway, we are talking again and she is still meeting me for New Years. I am just trying to lay low and take it slow for now. Just kind of ignoring her to see how she responds.

Part of me is trying to separate myself from her to see if I can get over her. Maybe I am not as into her as I thought. The other part of me can't stop thinking about her.

[timvwcom]

First a couple questions...

So I got drunk on massive amounts of tequila, blacked out and apparently was hitting on the girl pretty openly the other night. I called her and she didn't pick up. One of my buddied said it was a go, and I was hammered and agreed.

First, I assume you were in the same room/club/party/etc with her? In this post and else where you talk about being on the phone... This is certainly bad enough, but please tell me you weren't drunk dialing her ass???

I don't claim to be Dear Abby, but unless there is more that happened than you are writing here... Duhhh! even I can deduce that in the event she is interested in something "more" with you, I doubt very much it's with the "Tequila Hammered Wingman Encouraged" version!!!

Anyway, we are talking again and she is still meeting me for New Years. I am just trying to lay low and take it slow for now. Just kind of ignoring her to see how she responds.

Sure take it down a step, but don't go too cool or she'll figure you are not interested and maybe look to find someone else who is. Call or text or email every once in a while just to say "hi" or send/ask something. Maybe something with plans for New Years? Or if you see something online that is related to an interest of hers... cut and paste and send it on. In person, keep up some light touching, and most importantly: Good eye contact!!! When the person you are with is ready for the enchilada you should be able to "see" it in her eyes. Maybe "feel" it is a better word, it must be a primal thing? Make sure yours aren't just a dead dull stare, make your EYES smile!!!

As much as it hurts you are 100% right.

Its slowly becoming worse and worse. Meet a girl -> fuck it up -> lose even more confidence -> repeat.

It took me a while to realize it, but I think a lot of my problems with women stem from my past and abandonment. My biological mother abandoned me at a young age, my adopted mom tried to kill herself when I was 5.

Maybe I am way over analyzing everything, who knows.

Sounds like you've had some bumps in your road thru life so far, but don't let those bumps turn into a suspension crunching, axle cracking, head on crash into the bridge abutment. She WANTS to spend time you YOU. New Years eve for crikes sake!!! Concerts then a hotel room... this isn't like you are some kind of stalker!!!

Remember the best times? What was the situation... You mentioned "We are always touchy feely" what are you doing in those times? Do more of that! Don't get your motivation out of a Tequila bottle, use your wits then when the time is right take a deep breath and do something. Go back and re read my post #62 for one way to start out without just jumping on her, or picking her up and carrying her to bed. There are many others, but do something!

Also, have you ever noticed that hole in your face right below your nose? The one that makes grunts and stuff? When used right, can be used to just tell chica you very much enjoy spending time with her and would love to take it up a notch. You should do it without the liquid courage, the worst she can say is "no thanks"... then you know. You'll be able to decide to just stay friends, and/or head out into the rest of the world to find another young lass.

[Ubersheist]

It sounds to me like it's over. Lick your wounds, sack up and move on. If she does get back together with you on New Years, then all the better for you, but it doesn't sound like it'll happen.

Seriously, there are other fish in the sea. Plenty of 'em. Really.

(Just don't tell my girlfriend that I just posted that. She'd probably kill me.)

[schuss]

As much as it hurts you are 100% right.


Its slowly becoming worse and worse. Meet a girl -> fuck it up -> lose even more confidence -> repeat.


It took me a while to realize it, but I think a lot of my problems with women stem from my past and abandonment. My biological mother abandoned me at a young age, my adopted mom tried to kill herself when I was 5.

Maybe I am way over analyzing everything, who knows.


Anyway, we are talking again and she is still meeting me for New Years. I am just trying to lay low and take it slow for now. Just kind of ignoring her to see how she responds.

Part of me is trying to separate myself from her to see if I can get over her. Maybe I am not as into her as I thought. The other part of me can't stop thinking about her.

You're overanalyzing. Sacking up and telling some girl you really care for the truth is really, really hard for a lot of us (or maybe some of us). You know how when you ski/board you look down that line, aren't quite sure, but steel yourself up and drop it? Same deal here. There are no sure things. Playing games is a surefire way to get some quality alone time... with your hand. At this point, she'll probably show up to new years with a new BF. Or your friend.

[yetanotheralias]

You're overanalyzing. Sacking up and telling some girl you really care for the truth is really, really hard for a lot of us (or maybe some of us). You know how when you ski/board you look down that line, aren't quite sure, but steel yourself up and drop it? Same deal here. There are no sure things. Playing games is a surefire way to get some quality alone time... with your hand. At this point, she'll probably show up to new years with a new BF. Or your friend.

You definitely have a point there, but she had not even paid me yet for the room/tickets and had not yet bought her plane ticket until a few days ago. She very well could have never paid me and spent her new years somewhere else or with someone else. I don't think I'm totally screwed...yet. Just need to sack up and tell her whats up. If she isn't down its not the end of the world by any means.


Sometimes you stomp the landing and sometimes you double eject and Marker out.

[schuss]

Sometimes you stomp the landing and sometimes you double eject and Marker out.

Exactly, but if you never jump you don't get to find out.

[timvwcom]

Bump...

Still have plans for New Years Eve???

[Caucasian Asian]

sometimes you double eject and Marker out.

Just like this?

[2nd mate]

Well its new years eve(in my time zone) and i am hoping it goes well for you. after reading all this am willing to bet she did some real thinking about the situation and believe it is possible she may be revealing to you she has called it off with your bud and that she is ready to welcom Capt. Johnson aboard.
The only advice i will give is to NEVER listen to women when it comes to relationship advice. Both times i sought out advice I was burned by chicks giveing shitty advice. In both situations the advisors are ladies who are good friends and who I respect to this day.

[Mr Sparkle]

Sometimes you stomp the landing and sometimes you double eject and Marker out.

So go out and stomp the landing homes....

[Moss-Back]

STOMP IT.

Happy New Years, Folks!


And don't forget that update, OP.


zx

[ckelly49]

T-4.5 hours till touch down

[2nd mate]

Bump for results???

[SuperChief]

So did ya get hip deep, or get wasted and double eject?

[Huckin eh?]

Bump
I'm starting to think that we aint gonna get the update on this anytime soon if at all!

[yetanotheralias]

I sort of wanted this thread to die, but it looks like that won't happen.


Anyway, we didn't hook up. Had a really fun time, never boring or awkward, but this girl just plain needs to realize that said dude overseas is not her BF, and that worse case scenario they can always get back together if it really is meant to be.


So yeah, another good friend. Yay!!!!!


Everyone happy now, so this thread can die?

[danimal's dead]

You're not very good with the ladies, are ya?

[Huckin eh?]

Sorry it didn't work out for ya!

[Cliff Huckable]

I sort of wanted this thread to die, but it looks like that won't happen.


Anyway, we didn't hook up. Had a really fun time, never boring or awkward, but this girl just plain needs to realize that said dude overseas is not her BF, and that worse case scenario they can always get back together if it really is meant to be.


So yeah, another good friend. Yay!!!!!


Everyone happy now, so this thread can die?

SHE
needs to realize something?????!!

That's rich.


Btw, snapped your pic at New Year's...

[timvwcom]

Btw, snapped your pic at New Year's...

OH SNAP!!!