Tell me if I am being really stupid here....

**cj001f** · 10-18-2007, 10:00 AM

Originally Posted by lemon boy

Lying, cheating, dissembling, avoiding, tiptoeing etc… <-- are these really the qualities that you want to build a relationship on?

Dunno about a relationship but they can make for some fantastic sex.

**lemon boy** · 10-18-2007, 10:01 AM

yes but YANA doesn't care about the sex...he's in looooooove.

**Cliff Huckable** · 10-18-2007, 10:02 AM

Originally Posted by likwid

Tell her to get her shit straight or stop stringing you along and take a hike.

I chose likwid's post to quote because it illustrates the problem yetanotheralias is giving himself.

Like way too many guys (especially young guys, and alias if you're older than 22 I'll eat my Langes) yetanother (and likwid) seem to think that everything is up to the woman in relationships.

It's up to her to "shit straight"?
It's up to her to "stop stringing you along"?
Thing are "almost always her idea", etc, etc, etc.

I don't know how you ball-less guys manage to have sex.

Here's a fact: No one EVER gets strung along unwillingly.
Here's another fact: People who allow others to make their decisions for them, thereby allowing others to shape your future, ultimately have one position in a relationship - doormat.
Eventually doormat becomes resentful doormat.
And then one day perhaps the other person breaks up with the doormat and the doormat too often becomes even more a resentful, confused, self-pitying misogynist...who then gives off the kind of vibes women avoid.

So, what should you do? Tell this woman not to fly up to see concerts with you. When she asks why you say,

You: "Because you're going out with someone, and I'm young and single - and as much as I enjoy your company I don't like being a substitute for your boyfriend/"boyfriend". But more than that, I'd rather go to the concerts alone so maybe I can meet some single women. You understand."

Woman: "But we could - "

You: "Hey, listen, I have to go meet some people - "

Woman: "Oh. Who?"

You: "You don't know them. Hope you have a good time with your parents. I'll talk to you another time."

Woman: "But we're still friends, right?"

You: "Kyla listen - "

Woman: "Kylie."

You: "Kaitlin listen, we're friends. You're a great person, OK? Right now I have to get off the phone and go act like a man - a man who wants to have sex."

Woman: "But you're the sister I never had. I need someone to talk to, etc."

You: "I was the sister you never had. Now I'm the man you'll never have. Just kidding, Karen."

Woman: "Kylie."

You: "Krystal, I've really got to go. Take care of yourself, kid."

Something like that.

**Chris Knight** · 10-18-2007, 10:04 AM

Fucking classic.

**RootSkier** · 10-18-2007, 10:11 AM

Wow, Cliff Huckasshole makes a funny. This place never ceases to amaze.

**likwid** · 10-18-2007, 10:15 AM

Originally Posted by Cliff Huckable

I chose likwid's post to quote because it illustrates the problem yetanotheralias is giving himself.

Its funny how you generalize but if you look at the issue itself, they're both a couple of doormats.

Him: sucker for pussy
Her: sadface stupid bitch who won't dump her boyfriend and move on because even the tiniest bit of relationship still being there is enough for her to stick around with him and not just break it off. she's afraid of being alone.

Originally Posted by RootSkier

Wow, Cliff Huckasshole makes a funny. This place never ceases to amaze.

it was infact well played.

**pappag** · 10-18-2007, 10:19 AM

Early nominee for post of the day.

Well done.

Originally Posted by Cliff Huckable

I chose likwid's post to quote because it illustrates the problem yetanotheralias is giving himself.

Like way too many guys (especially young guys, and alias if you're older than 22 I'll eat my Langes) yetanother (and likwid) seem to think that everything is up to the woman in relationships.

It's up to her to "shit straight"?
It's up to her to "stop stringing you along"?
Thing are "almost always her idea", etc, etc, etc.

I don't know how you ball-less guys manage to have sex.

Here's a fact: No one EVER gets strung along unwillingly.
Here's another fact: People who allow others to make their decisions for them, thereby allowing others to shape your future, ultimately have one position in a relationship - doormat.
Eventually doormat becomes resentful doormat.
And then one day perhaps the other person breaks up with the doormat and the doormat too often becomes even more a resentful, confused, self-pitying misogynist...who then gives off the kind of vibes women avoid.

So, what should you do? Tell this woman not to fly up to see concerts with you. When she asks why you say,

You: "Because you're going out with someone, and I'm young and single - and as much as I enjoy your company I don't like being a substitute for your boyfriend/"boyfriend". But more than that, I'd rather go to the concerts alone so maybe I can meet some single women. You understand."

Woman: "But we could - "

You: "Hey, listen, I have to go meet some people - "

Woman: "Oh. Who?"

You: "You don't know them. Hope you have a good time with your parents. I'll talk to you another time."

Woman: "But we're still friends, right?"

You: "Kyla listen - "

Woman: "Kylie."

You: "Kaitlin listen, we're friends. You're a great person, OK? Right now I have to get off the phone and go act like a man - a man who wants to have sex."

Woman: "But you're the sister I never had. I need someone to talk to, etc."

You: "I was the sister you never had. Now I'm the man you'll never have. Just kidding, Karen."

Woman: "Kylie."

You: "Krystal, I've really got to go. Take care of yourself, kid."

Something like that.

**Obstruction** · 10-18-2007, 12:12 PM

Originally Posted by yetanotheralias

Thanks for all the legitimate help so far.

A few things to add:

-Im pretty sure my buddy is hooking up with other chicks and/or doesn't really care about this girl.

-We are both pretty shy people to begin with, but both seem more "normal" when we are together

-she has subtly told me that the last couple times they have seen each other that they didn't hook up at all

This is the tower ....yetanotheralias you are cleared for landing

... say again ... stop fucking around circling the airport and land that bitch!

**Skidog** · 10-18-2007, 12:36 PM

I would do her....she obviously wants it....

Im a dick by nature though..

M

**Adolf Allerbush** · 10-18-2007, 12:40 PM

You can't find a chick to hook up with that one of your friends isn't boning already? Let alone a girl that is local? Seriously? If that is indeed the case then bone her because you are never going to get laid again if you don't.

**Blurred** · 10-18-2007, 12:48 PM

Fuck her, video it, and send him the tape. I'm sure he'll understand.

**Steven S. Dallas** · 10-18-2007, 12:50 PM

Ask her what's up, retard.

**The Reverend Floater** · 10-18-2007, 12:54 PM

I'm glad I'm not really friends with most of you.

**Blurred** · 10-18-2007, 12:55 PM

Originally Posted by The Reverend Floater

I'm glad I'm not really friends with most of you.

Don't worry, I already boned your girl.

**lemon boy** · 10-18-2007, 12:59 PM

Originally Posted by BlurredElevens

Don't worry, I already bored your girl.

totally unsurprised.

**The Reverend Floater** · 10-18-2007, 01:14 PM

Originally Posted by lemon boy

Brett quote, totally unsurprised.

There's just sooooo many things I could say to this!

**Blurred** · 10-18-2007, 01:31 PM

Originally Posted by The Reverend Floater

There's just sooooo many things I could say to this!

Yeah, and I'd just about guarantee they'd all be super serious and boring.

Lighten up, Francis. People come here because it's entertaining.

**yogachik** · 10-18-2007, 02:38 PM

Originally Posted by BlurredElevens

Lighten up, Francis. People come here because it's entertaining.

Not me. I come for the food.

**ChowdahRidah** · 10-18-2007, 02:55 PM

We definitely need more female perspective on this board to help solve these incredibly important issues.

**CRACKER** · 10-18-2007, 02:59 PM

Originally Posted by yogachik

Not me. I come for the food.

This place does have outstanding tacos.

**stupendous man** · 10-18-2007, 03:09 PM

and melons.

**MakersTeleMark** · 10-18-2007, 03:52 PM

How the hell are you going to share a hotel room together and not bang? That's unpossible.

**redkal** · 10-18-2007, 03:52 PM

Originally Posted by yetanotheralias

A few things to add:

-Im pretty sure my buddy is hooking up with other chicks and/or doesn't really care about this girl.

-We are both pretty shy people to begin with, but both seem more "normal" when we are together

-she has subtly told me that the last couple times they have seen each other that they didn't hook up at all

WTF?? Yes you are being retarded. She is giving you all sorts of signs - hit it!

Someone else posted that long distance relationships are for people too chicken to break up beforehand - which many times is true, except if he is in Iraq.

You only live once, and this dude does not sound like much of a close friend, would he do the same for you?

**stupendous man** · 10-18-2007, 04:01 PM

I disagree slightly. LD relationships are possible if:
1) definite timeline for coming back
2) definite agreement for plans upon coming back (i.e. marriage, move together somewhere).

otherwise, yeah.

**redkal** · 10-18-2007, 04:18 PM

Originally Posted by yetanotheralias

... Just the two of us. Its almost always her idea.

...This guy has been working on another continent for like 8 months now and isn't coming back anytime soon, yet the girl still loosely refers to this guy as her boyfriend.

...Just the two of us. Again, totally her idea.

Originally Posted by yetanotheralias

-Im pretty sure my buddy is hooking up with other chicks and/or doesn't really care about this girl.

-she has subtly told me that the last couple times they have seen each other that they didn't hook up at all

No timeline for return of boyfriend, who is not only away but overseas. She always wants to hang with you alone and its almost always her idea. Your buddy is hooking up and doesn't care too much about this girl. She has said she never hooked up with him.

Seems pretty clear cut to me. She is giving you all the signs and all the reasons for you to justify to yourself the horizontal tango.