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forgive me stating the obvious, but why not drive the homeward leg of a carpool if you cant get out early to get him there on-time. stay at home milf drives them there, you swing them home.
we juggle a bunch of kids of all ages, all over the place, so FULLY appreciate what's involved.
not good with the milf's - small town - don't like asking - not socially part of the scene - don't know anyone
I live in a rural small town in Vermont - there really aren't a lot of options
s'ok...you did fine. Don't get jerked around by people.
On the other hand, maybe an opportunity was missed. Sometimes it might be a good experience for all to have the "little chat" with the control freak and do some tweezing.
Overall, though, yeah, don't waste time with negative experiences.
In general, yeah, people take their kids sport experiences too seriously. I ski raced as a kid and saw more than one parent absol00tely flip out at their kid or sometyhing peripheral to skiing and ruin the kids experience. I'm probably parentling to the other extreme and don't force mine to go if they don't want to - the love has to come from within.
I wasn't being sarcastic - at least in the short term, everyone's a winner: you are happy to be off the team, the coach is even happier that you're gone and your kid is playing with his buddy. Long term is up for debate, but other folks have already pointed that one out.Quote:
Originally Posted by DBdude
From the idiot coach's perspective, you can avoid issues like this in the future if you let the coach know about your circumstances at the beginning of the season (even if it's only 8 year-old rec ball) - he/she has significantly more time, emotion and energy invested in the silly team than you do and when your kid isn't there without notice you piss on them just as bad as you feel like they were pissing on you.
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Originally Posted by 4matic
HS golf was fucking awesome. I quit lax once I hit HS just to golf on the team. My mom flipped out about it too...still talks about it 20 yrs later..."I can't believe you..blah blah blah"
I was really good so the coach never even saw me at practice. The top 4 guys would go out ahead of everyone and smoke cigs, dip, smoke weed. We all still golf together all these years later, and all love it. One of the guys is a superintendent at one of the local courses and it's in ridiculous shape for a cheap public course...greens are fucking PURE. His big tourney is actually this weekend...can't wait.
My golf coach was the coolest MFer ever. He had a conversion van he'd drive us to the away matches in and we'd just all make fun of each other the whole time. He's a pro at one of the courses in town and I stop in to see him a few times a year. Private course and I can play it for free whenever I want...great guy. Dude was a stick too...the coaches always played for money behind our last group and he never lost. He'd shoot high 60s and take everyone's money
So Coach, what should I do when my kid starts telling the Coach what position she plays and on which side and refuses to play a different position. I told she has to play where the Coach wants to play her she disagrees and says "not if he wants to win." I feel bad for him.
I don't know...cringe?Quote:
Originally Posted by Tuckerman
If it were me I'd let the coach know that you're on their side. A lot of coaches are afraid to deal with that the way they should to avoid a confrontation with the parents.
I'd be all for benching my kid in that situation...might make her reconsider
I had a kid once who refused to play the outfield. As a result, I told him he could not bat in an everyone bats Little League. I told his parents why he was sitting on the bench--in the battle of wills he ended sitting there for the whole game. They were fine with him learning his lesson. We never had a problem the rest of the season. As a coach if you let one or two kids push you around, the whole team devolves into chaos.Quote:
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I'd probably go all Bobby Knight and bench the whole first string and blame her for losing.Quote:
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What's funny is how all his friends that play soccer or football are so jealous of the golf team guys. They all know it's the best HS sport due to the freedom.Quote:
Originally Posted by booner
Coaches and parents care way more than the kids do about all this shit. They know they're not going pro, but some of the parents seem to think their little johnny is going...even in HS. Kooks.
I was just having a conversation about this with my 8 yr old. He loves golf and now hates lax cause of his scum bag coaches..same season for HS sports here.Quote:
Originally Posted by strawjack
I was explaining to him how all the guys that thought golf was stupid in HS now want to play golf more than anything else...and they're all pissed that they didn't start when they were kids.
Every single person that hears I played HS golf, and didn't already know that, always goes on and on about how they really regret not playing golf instead of whatever else they did.
yes, given the prognathic commentary you usually offer probably shows your insight chops, I see how you could wrongly think that's what I was doing.Quote:
Originally Posted by skiballs
Went to my son's open house tonight...should be called the mommy parade really
I was in the cafeteria with a guy I played hockey with as kids and we were talking about how we used to have our banquets in there. it reminded me of one of these bad coach situations.
I had just moved from RI...played tier 1 travel every year against the best teams in the country... traveled all over, and won. My first year in NY I played tier 2 and lit it up like crazy. I played D and averaged somewhere around 4 points a game...led the team and the league in scoring...I hurt about 10 kids that year with perfectly clean hits...I was playing in a league way below my ability.
Anywho...banquet rolls around. They give out all the awards...
I had at least 6 hat tricks that year...probably more...and at least that many assists. And literally nobody ever got around me.
You get a hat trick patch for each one and a playmaker patch for each 3 assist game. I got one patch..can't remember which one. Coaches son played D...very average player...probably 5 goals and 6 assists all year. He gets like 2 or three of each patch.
Then they give out the best D award.
I wish I could have seen my face when they called the coaches son's name.
Another similar, but different one since I'm feeling sorry for myself..
Senior yr of HS I scored 5 goals in our state qualifier game...we won 6-1.
I played for an out of town team at this point and my HS library got the out of town paper, so I would always go up there to read about our games in the paper.
I wore #17...Huge headline with guy's name that wore #11 in bold letters...**** Leads Team To NYS Playoffs With 5 Goal Performance
I could have fucking died
Same game...I get out of the locker room to meet my gf and friends and they are like...OMG you scored like 3 goals!!
I scored 5 MFers!!!!!
Polk High?Quote:
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ah5FEpGql9s
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For the record the highlight of my life is probably the things I/we did to girls in hotel rooms when I played big boy hockey...good times kids...good timesQuote:
Originally Posted by booner
I'm a filthy animal
Coaching girls is 10x more trying than boys, if you yell you can at least get a group of boys attention...girls just keep talking. Everybody always plays but with 18 equal time is almost impossible. I came up with a decent solution a few years ago by setting up at least a few B games each season to make sure the younger and rec players get plenty of field time in those games. It's hard to send 6th graders out on the field against much bigger/stronger 8th graders as more often than not they get schooled, which does absolutely no good for their confidence or development. The B games give them a chance to play substantial time against kids closer to their skill level and size and satisfies the parents that do clock every minute of little Sally's field time.Quote:
Originally Posted by strawjack
Middle school is tough because having fun has to be the main focus while still teaching those who have an interest in advancing along with the 8th graders headed to HS next year that have a chance to continue playing, that competitiveness and wanting to work on your fundamentals is critical. It's a very interesting balancing act each practice.
If I could get mine in to golf I'd be psyched, she likes the game but would rather drive me around in the cart...she should ace drivers ed in a few years if nothing else. She's more interested in being on the snowboard team in HS but now wants to try rugby. The coach had her come to a game and sit in at a practice and do some non-contact drills and has already invited her to practice with the HS team in the spring, Ms FD is less than enthused! We'll see how it goes but it seems girls rugby is gaining a lot of popularity in these parts and with college scholarships, sure as hell can't hurt to give it a try I guess.
My brother in law is doing the single dad thing. (Mom is out of the country permanently). It's tough for a single dad--the moms, mostly stay at homes, who drive carpools and look after each other kids don't want to have anything to do with single dads. The dads aren't part of the club.Not easy for single moms either, of course, but given the nature of child custody in most parts of the country, there are a lot more of them and they can work things out a little better, I think. (A LITTLE better.)Quote:
Originally Posted by MMP
My older boy's lacrosse team (10-11 year olds) is required to move into the most competitive division in our league in 2015. As a result, we will conduct tryouts for the first time at the end of October. Team has been together for over two years. Kids who don't make the team will move to lower-level teams.
Although the team has been successful, there are 5-6 very poor players who never touch their sticks between practices. Those kids and their parents simply ignore my repeated requests that they spend just 5-10 minutes a day practicing catching/cradling/throwing and are happy to let the team carry them (so long as they get plenty of playing time).
When tryouts were announced earlier this week, a couple of those families freaked and one father comes out with: "It's total crap that [his little slacker] only has a month to prepare for tryouts."
I was speechless.
10-11 y.o. lax has "tryouts"?
denver really is pretentious as fuck.
your stupid 10-11 y.o. team would whine to mommy if they played an average group of sandlot lax players of that age in Baltimore, but you keep telling yourselves you need tryouts, 'n' shit.
dude go easy
it's about 10 and 11 year old kids - what is the matter with you?
try-outs to make the Harvard Class upper ranks, at 10-11?
looks like it's someone besides me who needs to "go easy," but please, I insist -- you go right ahead and keep projecting your shit onto me, chossy mind.
The sad thing is none of the complaining sports parents seem to give a shit how the kids our doing in class, as long as they're doing okay in sports. Among my doctor friends it seems that all people talk about is their kids' sports, me included I'm afraid.
i'm not projecting shit douche bag, does everybody you disagree with "project", you seem to post it a lotQuote:
Originally Posted by creaky fossil
I like how angry you get when someone disagrees with your Over-Achiever Juicing Dianabol "intelligent remarks" offered here.
DBdude is a Lord and peons/serfs like me should just button our lips in the presence of our betters. Right DBdude? You got a hardcore circle-jerk bro-down hoe-down goin' on, right?
what ever you say homie
At the risk of making you even angrier, I'll add that my boy's summer club team played a bethesda all star team this summer at the world games. They stomped us about as bad as we whipped the philly all stars. Don't recall any whining to mommy by anyone after those games. These kids love to play lacrosse. Why shouldn't the better players get to play together?Quote:
Originally Posted by creaky fossil
even angrier than not angry at all?
gosh, that's gonna be tough
thanks for wrongly estimating another person's mindset, and thereby proving you really can't read another's mind through an internet comment.
kudos bro, you have an over-achiever child who will be a dire douche adolescent and an adult who deserves a throat-punching daily. well done.
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Right ... not angry at all.Quote:
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Thanks for contributing to this discussion.
I could quote every post you ever made and say below them all,
Right... not angry at all
and then conclude I've "proved" you're "angry" IRL and needing to "take your meds"
that's classy Maggotude on display right there bro
glad your athletic prowess has been relegated to living through your 10-11 y.o. son who can barely cradle and yet is destined to be the next Gary/Paul Gait in your mind.
Please do.Quote:
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Hmmm ...Quote:
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You're knocking them out of the park -- as long as we're playing tee-ball, that is.
So it's supposed to be (pick one): SUPERIOR, FUNNY, INSIGHTFUL when you assume I'm angry and posting sincere anger?
Take your time with your choice it will determine how much TGR gravitas you have.
Also I'd definitely brag on living in Denver and having my 5th grade son need to "try out for" the harvard league of 10-11 y.o. lax, it would prove that I'm a Great Provider Dad and it would prove that Junior got his lax chops from my spooge deposited in his mom's fuckbox.
I'm not concerned with how folks view me. I noted that you sound angry because every one of your posts includes an insult.Quote:
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True to form.Quote:
Originally Posted by creaky fossil
look at the Angry White Upper Middle Class drone, using his passive-aggressive chops to accuse others of having his own anger issues
did you know that angry demonstrations of I'm-living-through-my-son is the best Lesson-by-Example you can set for your male children?
Why do you even care to post in this thread? Do you have children who play sports? Have you coached youth sports?Quote:
Originally Posted by creaky fossil
Seems like you are just a cunty jackass who likes to flame people even though you don't really have any experience to share.
Seems like you prefer to fabricate a psych profile and personality for people you don't know.
I've coached plenty of youth sports, and I played a shit-ton of youth sports in my own youth.
Aside from that, maybe you should dial back the arrogance and hubris, and stop thinking you know what turns my gears, schmendrick.
Well how about you offer up your wisdom rather than cuntdom?Quote:
Originally Posted by creaky fossil
For some reason, adults (me included) consider it poor form to discuss their kids grades, but not their athletic achievements. I'm not convinced that this represents a disregard for academics in every case.Quote:
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