My wife is a whipsmart, strong, resourceful woman, and is also a rabid feminist. I wouldn't want it any other way. Unfortunately, she gets very mad when my expectations for her are in line with these wonderful traits of hers. She wants actionless expectations of her to be extremely high, and actionable expectations to be extremely low, and fuck me if i mix the two up. We bought her a new car in February (which i got a deal on through a buddy, and she loves it). I handled all paperwork and coordination, and even handled getting the EV charger installed on an expedited timeline to make sure we could charge the new car. Instead of being grateful, she was resentful that I ended up on some of the paperwork alongside her name, and complained that she would have happily handled everything. So, i said fine... you can handle donating your old car. Her old car (which will not start) has not moved from the street in 3 months since, and not a single action has been taken towards selling or donating it. This is one of countless examples.