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"Riser, let's move to Houston!"
"Why are you unpacking your bags?"
I'd rather live Upstate than in fucking NH.
If you ever go to HoustonQuote:
Originally Posted by dan_pdx
Better walk right
Keep your hands in your pockets
And your gun belt tight
Isn't Minesota where they fed those mobsters into a wood chipper and is that the kind of place you wana live ? everywhere I ever moved had skiing but its s BC eh
You can do that going westward for, like, a while.Quote:
Originally Posted by skaredshtles
https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/202...b46a1865c5.jpgQuote:
Originally Posted by frorider
OK. Now we need more info. Or at least pictures of her boobs to decide if you should continue going forward with her.
No one can advise you. Only you know how much you love this woman and how much you love the mountains and mountain sports. I would keep in mind that over time our priorities change, our bodies change, our feelings towards one another change. Whatever decision you make today could turn out to be the best you ever made or the worst. IME people who value other people over the other things in their lives are happier than those who value their sports, their possessions, their addictions, etc. more. But that I think has more to do with the kind of person who makes the choice, not the choice itself.I do see a red flag in the fact that you and she got together while you had a certain life and certain priorities and now she seems to want to change all that. For any relationship to work we have to accept each other as we are not as the people we hope the other will become. Circumstances change; people don't. This is a relatively minor test of your relationship--compared to serious illness and disability or financial disaster which will strain the best relationships.
FWIW as states go Minnesota is one of the best IMO. Prosperous and diverse economy, smart politicians, progressive mindset but not as cringey liberal as, for example, Seattle. And if you like "lake life" it's one of the best places to be. You could do a lot worse if you choose to leave the mountains.
A private island would be nice.
Sounds like youve never seen Minnesotas biggest ball of twine!Quote:
Originally Posted by frorider
pretty far from the truth no matter who says itQuote:
Originally Posted by riser4
as someone who spends lots of time in houston ah like no
it's a fun place never had any problems walking around the city shit faced or riding my bike
once I was drunk as hell and went to the liquor store we loaded up on about four sixers and a couple bottles of wine and had to walk home a half hour away under the highway etc etc no one bothered us
another time yeah I was asking for it told this homeless guy to get his shit together as he was dancing with his pants around his ankles in the middle of the street he followed us for a few blocks
would I move there? hell no do I like being there occasionally yes just there yesterday had to jump on my plane but all I wanted to do was sit on a patio drinking beer in the sunshine and 75 degree weather hanging out in one of the most diverse cities in the country
dual income, no kids, remote work, and moving to minnesota?
i am sure it’s a fine place and all and i strongly believe that every place has some great things and opportunities you would never expect to enjoy, but if you have to quit skiing to be with her can’t Hawaii be on the table?
As an equestrian who showed A circuit Hunter/Jumpers most of my life (WA CA NV OR BC) I have never had a partner who shared that and it was a never an issue.
Same with skiing.
It is good to have separate interests. Just make sure you have something you both enjoy so you can meet in the middle.
I kind of have a rule where I don't judge love, or how people go about their partner decisions. I've seen couples have rules to live together first, to travel to non-english speaking countries for extended periods of time to see how they'd get along, to people moving across the globe and getting married because they got pregnant one weekend while partying abroad. Anyway, as a Danish man on the chairlift iterated to me this season-- Even if you were to move back (to MN) you'd quickly discover that it is not the place you left many years ago.Make a compromise-- buy an old, small cabin and visit every summer. Summer lake culture is why MN exists, I think. That and the medical industry. Dual Income, No Kids, Remote Careers, no reason to move anywhere. All in all, I think I'd be miserable anywhere on the planet that didn't include my wife. Pretty sure she's the only reason I still exist, to be honest. Something to think about. We've been together for more than twenty years, though. I had a girl from college in MT call me up one day while I was in Tahoe when still single. She was in MN. She asked if I wanted to join her in a move to Idaho. It was clear what her intentions were. I declined. She then called one of my best friends and they've been happily married for almost two decades now. Point being-- happiness often comes from ways in which you don't yet see a path. But when you do see people make it work, it is quite a beautiful thing. I also have a couple of really good bros who know they are not the marriage type and are honest with everyone they date. They are happy and single in their fifties and sixties. Don't flip a coin. Just listen to your heart. We never regret being honest.
Fact.Quote:
Originally Posted by riser4
Retiring in Vermont is for suckers and losers. New Hampshire is the promised land
It sounds incredibly selfish. No kids? She’ll probably regret that. Soumds like, you have a good girl, but she’s not up snuff cause her parents didn’t invest the same into skiing.
You should,leave her.
I can't stomach the annoying variety of libertarian that lives there. That and the fascist variety of Republican. Maine has a lot more going for it. Heck, even Massachusetts comes out ahead.Quote:
Originally Posted by buttahflake
Good news is you'll have no problem finding a place to drink: http://i.imgur.com/WJ1XbJE.jpg
Not sure why img isn't showing but here you go:
https://www.reddit.com/r/dataisbeaut...ery_stores_in/
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CNY gots bars.
A lot of you are ignoring the reason the OP's partner wants to move--to be near family and friends. While those are clearly low priority for a lot of us they are high for many people. Maybe most people. We skiers are by and large an unsocial lot. "No friends on powder days."
OG has it ^^ famly is the real reason OP is considering a move to minesota personaly I got transfered & moved away from family to a place with a good hill moved back and then moved away again
IMO if lifestyle IS gona be A huge part of your life don't move where you lifestyle IS NOT
did i mention my family used to regularly fuck the family dynamic up while I just shut ma festerin gob and BTW my sisters fucked it up and are not talking ?
is that Upstates?Quote:
Originally Posted by m2711c
I heard M and/or SP has a Xerxes Street. Pretty bad ass. IDK if that makes it worth living there though .
FWIW, I bailed on more than a few lasses for the same reasons. The root issues goes beyond skiing in and of itself. It demonstrated a core difference in spirit. I wanted somebody more adventurous. They wanted to end up being homebodies in some lame ass locale. Nothing wrong with that for others BUT for me it was an incompatibility I couldn't overlook.
Paid off in dividends. We may not live in the mountains any longer, BUT she's my ride or die, and always down to follow me wherever life takes us. She relishes the adventure of life. And she absolutely crushes me on the mountain which is fun beyond words. I can't keep up with her, she smack talks me about it, and I love it.
I had a wonderful, beautiful GF who told me straight up she wanted to end up by her family in small town, rural Oklahoma. Effffff that. I had a feeling that no matter how great she was in youth of a burgeoning relationship. after a certain point it would eventually turn into low key resentment then worse from there.
You're not married yet and no kids to factor in, so consider yourself lucky. You are free to do whatever you think is best. If she's "the one," then great! But you have to be willing to sacrifice a lot, perhaps the very essence of who you are.
I'm ok with differences of interests, BUT moving somewhere that doesn't line up with YOUR interests is a different matter altogether. Oof. Good luck, mate.
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Originally Posted by BmillsSkier
smack dab in the dang middle!
fact.
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Originally Posted by m2711c
I think we should find a thread where this can be more thoroughly sussed out.
It seems plain as day to me. I’m sure everybody would agree.
Conceding the fact that it is in the middle, do we know for certain that its boundaries are limited to the Upstate?
And would it serve as a suitable region where a mountain sports enthusiast and his girlfriend could relocate to live happily ever after?
And really, how many more bars than grocery stores are there? And is that really a bad thing?
More questions than answers in here today.
Not to beat a dead horse, but, tits or GTFO.
I think the moving for family thing is valid if you have kids, otherwise, way less validity.
OP--rereading your first post, you say MN is where "our family" and a lot of your friends are. Two questions" 1) did you mean "our families" or are you shtupping your sister? 2) It sounds like you met in MN and have traveled from there to AZ, WI, CO and WA judging by your user name. This puts a different spin on things than if you met in WA. Has she basically been following your around or were these moves truly joint decisions? Did she have a passion in the outdoors before that is now waning, or was the level of interest always different. How do you think this enters into your decision.
^ and more importantly what is her bra size?
We talkin C or D cups here?
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its boundaries are limitless. more of a state of mind. if yer from here, yer always gonna be from here.Quote:
Originally Posted by BmillsSkier
301 inches at woods valley so far this year with plenty of winter yet to come. thats means runoff is gonna last for months of rafting and kayaking salmon fishing on the moose river and fish creek. if a man and his girl, whose tits we have yet to see and pass judgement on and whom claim to be mountain enthusiasts, cant live happily ever after with that bounty can they really be happy anywhere? i say no.
many, many more bars than grocery stores. take Owsego for example. solid work and commitment to the raising of the wrist by the whole town lead the Guinness Book of World Records to bestow Oswego with the honor of holding the world record for having the most bars per square mile of any city in these United States.
https://thevirtualshed.tripod.com/barsofoswego.html
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qWAeyQ8V4vU
facts.
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OP abandoned the thread after getting everyone excited to weigh in. Lame</p>
I was helping out a bud and so his nephews wife mentioned family and families a whole bunch in one random meeting which kinda twigged on me at the time
BUT now this thread is bringing into a stronger focus something about which I have zero exposure whixh is needing to do a bunch of family shit whixh I am now understanding just reading this
so beside the giving up lifestyle is the oP ready for that whole big family/ friends thing ??
it aint just the lifestyle rec situ, its all that other family / friends yada fucking yada stuff you wana think about?
Being nearly fifty with a family of five across multiple nations and cultures, I can't help but wonder if I had no kids, was not married, had a remote gig, if I wouldn't just hop ship. I mean, I would not wanna trade what I have now, but that is hindsight. Had I not known how the present would be... hmmm... I gotta say, if I were that age with that career and the woman I was with was not an obvious ring, I would literally fly to another country. Just saying. When you know you know. And if you don't know... go somewhere.