Probably a shit place for advice, but here I am...

[muted reborn]

Pretty rare for two people who have established careers that allow them to live essentially anywhere choosing…..Minnesota

Sounds like youve never seen Minnesotas biggest ball of twine!

[fastfred]

If you ever go to Houston Better walk right Keep your hands in your pockets And your gun belt tight

pretty far from the truth no matter who says it

as someone who spends lots of time in houston ah like no

it's a fun place never had any problems walking around the city shit faced or riding my bike

once I was drunk as hell and went to the liquor store we loaded up on about four sixers and a couple bottles of wine and had to walk home a half hour away under the highway etc etc no one bothered us

another time yeah I was asking for it told this homeless guy to get his shit together as he was dancing with his pants around his ankles in the middle of the street he followed us for a few blocks

would I move there? hell no do I like being there occasionally yes just there yesterday had to jump on my plane but all I wanted to do was sit on a patio drinking beer in the sunshine and 75 degree weather hanging out in one of the most diverse cities in the country

[ex-powderbroker]

dual income, no kids, remote work, and moving to minnesota?

i am sure it’s a fine place and all and i strongly believe that every place has some great things and opportunities you would never expect to enjoy, but if you have to quit skiing to be with her can’t Hawaii be on the table?

[KQ]

As an equestrian who showed A circuit Hunter/Jumpers most of my life (WA CA NV OR BC) I have never had a partner who shared that and it was a never an issue.

Same with skiing.

It is good to have separate interests. Just make sure you have something you both enjoy so you can meet in the middle.

[gaijin]

I kind of have a rule where I don't judge love, or how people go about their partner decisions. I've seen couples have rules to live together first, to travel to non-english speaking countries for extended periods of time to see how they'd get along, to people moving across the globe and getting married because they got pregnant one weekend while partying abroad. Anyway, as a Danish man on the chairlift iterated to me this season-- Even if you were to move back (to MN) you'd quickly discover that it is not the place you left many years ago.Make a compromise-- buy an old, small cabin and visit every summer. Summer lake culture is why MN exists, I think. That and the medical industry. Dual Income, No Kids, Remote Careers, no reason to move anywhere. All in all, I think I'd be miserable anywhere on the planet that didn't include my wife. Pretty sure she's the only reason I still exist, to be honest. Something to think about. We've been together for more than twenty years, though. I had a girl from college in MT call me up one day while I was in Tahoe when still single. She was in MN. She asked if I wanted to join her in a move to Idaho. It was clear what her intentions were. I declined. She then called one of my best friends and they've been happily married for almost two decades now. Point being-- happiness often comes from ways in which you don't yet see a path. But when you do see people make it work, it is quite a beautiful thing. I also have a couple of really good bros who know they are not the marriage type and are honest with everyone they date. They are happy and single in their fifties and sixties. Don't flip a coin. Just listen to your heart. We never regret being honest.

[Harry]

A private island would be nice.

Fact.

[buttahflake]

Retiring in Vermont is for suckers and losers. New Hampshire is the promised land

[Cono Este]

It sounds incredibly selfish. No kids? She’ll probably regret that. Soumds like, you have a good girl, but she’s not up snuff cause her parents didn’t invest the same into skiing.

You should,leave her.

[riser4]

Retiring in Vermont is for suckers and losers. New Hampshire is the promised land

I can't stomach the annoying variety of libertarian that lives there. That and the fascist variety of Republican. Maine has a lot more going for it. Heck, even Massachusetts comes out ahead.

[BmillsSkier]

Good news is you'll have no problem finding a place to drink:


Not sure why img isn't showing but here you go:
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[BCMtnHound]

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[m2711c]

CNY gots bars.

[old goat]

A lot of you are ignoring the reason the OP's partner wants to move--to be near family and friends. While those are clearly low priority for a lot of us they are high for many people. Maybe most people. We skiers are by and large an unsocial lot. "No friends on powder days."

[XXX-er]

OG has it ^^ famly is the real reason OP is considering a move to minesota personaly I got transfered & moved away from family to a place with a good hill moved back and then moved away again






IMO if lifestyle IS gona be A huge part of your life don't move where you lifestyle IS NOT





did i mention my family used to regularly fuck the family dynamic up while I just shut ma festerin gob and BTW my sisters fucked it up and are not talking ?

[BmillsSkier]

CNY gots bars.

is that Upstates?

[stuckathuntermtn]

I heard M and/or SP has a Xerxes Street. Pretty bad ass. IDK if that makes it worth living there though .

[MontuckyFried]

FWIW, I bailed on more than a few lasses for the same reasons. The root issues goes beyond skiing in and of itself. It demonstrated a core difference in spirit. I wanted somebody more adventurous. They wanted to end up being homebodies in some lame ass locale. Nothing wrong with that for others BUT for me it was an incompatibility I couldn't overlook.

Paid off in dividends. We may not live in the mountains any longer, BUT she's my ride or die, and always down to follow me wherever life takes us. She relishes the adventure of life. And she absolutely crushes me on the mountain which is fun beyond words. I can't keep up with her, she smack talks me about it, and I love it.

I had a wonderful, beautiful GF who told me straight up she wanted to end up by her family in small town, rural Oklahoma. Effffff that. I had a feeling that no matter how great she was in youth of a burgeoning relationship. after a certain point it would eventually turn into low key resentment then worse from there.

You're not married yet and no kids to factor in, so consider yourself lucky. You are free to do whatever you think is best. If she's "the one," then great! But you have to be willing to sacrifice a lot, perhaps the very essence of who you are.

I'm ok with differences of interests, BUT moving somewhere that doesn't line up with YOUR interests is a different matter altogether. Oof. Good luck, mate.

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[m2711c]

is that Upstates?

smack dab in the dang middle!


fact.

[BmillsSkier]

smack dab in the dang middle! fact.

I think we should find a thread where this can be more thoroughly sussed out.

[m2711c]

It seems plain as day to me. I’m sure everybody would agree.

[BmillsSkier]

Conceding the fact that it is in the middle, do we know for certain that its boundaries are limited to the Upstate?

And would it serve as a suitable region where a mountain sports enthusiast and his girlfriend could relocate to live happily ever after?

And really, how many more bars than grocery stores are there? And is that really a bad thing?

More questions than answers in here today.

[riser4]

Not to beat a dead horse, but, tits or GTFO.

[plugboots]

I think the moving for family thing is valid if you have kids, otherwise, way less validity.

[old goat]

OP--rereading your first post, you say MN is where "our family" and a lot of your friends are. Two questions" 1) did you mean "our families" or are you shtupping your sister? 2) It sounds like you met in MN and have traveled from there to AZ, WI, CO and WA judging by your user name. This puts a different spin on things than if you met in WA. Has she basically been following your around or were these moves truly joint decisions? Did she have a passion in the outdoors before that is now waning, or was the level of interest always different. How do you think this enters into your decision.

[AK47bp]

^ and more importantly what is her bra size?

We talkin C or D cups here?


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