I agree with Tippster. PM the woman and suggest a threesome.Quote:
Originally Posted by Tippster
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I agree with Tippster. PM the woman and suggest a threesome.Quote:
Originally Posted by Tippster
SHUT THE FUCK UP YOU FUCKING PENTHOUSE FORUM READING FUCKING MORON!!!!!!!!!!:cussing: :fuckyou: :cussing:
aliases that copy other aliases are really exciting.
I can see where you are coming from but I think it would mean a great deal to the wife, after the fact, that I didn't need to flaunt the fact that I shut the groper down without thinking twice. Not to mention, I was assuming the Original Poster's wife would actually give him the benefit of the doubt. If my marriage consisted of me constantly disclosing innoculous facts about my day to my wife just to be sure she doesn't start suspecting foul play, I probably married the wrong chick.Quote:
Originally Posted by The AD
Hopefully getting groped by a married chick at a party while her husband is in the next room qualifies as a little more than an "innocuous fact about your day."Quote:
Originally Posted by commonlaw
Getting groped by a married friend is def. worthy of mention. If my wife got groped I'd expect her to mention it.
(it shouldn't be a confession, though.)
I throw that into the "amusing anecdote" category, i.e. disclosure is optional. I guess it all comes down to the subjective boundaries of the particluar relationship.Quote:
Originally Posted by The AD
yer friends wife must be ugly...
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If I may...
I agree with telling wife - failure to do so is volunteeering for any number of scenarios which all end badly... (the 15 eye witnesses of whom presumably some number are aquainted with you wife = a must tell situation)
My thought is: tell her and outine your dilema regarding wether or not you should tell you buddy... ask HER what she thinks you should do...
You will not only disclose the event and therefore avoid the "what are you hiding" trap; you will have involved her and she will become a party to the issue and its no longer your problem, it becomes "our" problem...
Of course depending on your wifes dispositon this might be akin to asking her to hit you in the head with an ice axe.
I also agree with the "you're not gonna beleive this shit" approach as opposed to the "we need to talk" version.
agree - "you're not gonna believe this, but..." is the best.
Tell your wife for sure ASAP, don't say anything else to anyone else unless something like it happens again.
If it does,
a) they may in fact be interested in some playtime with you two, and she may have been initiating,
b) or she may be interested in you alone
Either way, it'll help to have your wife in the know.
One of three things will happen:
1) You'll end up in a foursome, or a hot swap
2) You'll end up in a threesome
3) Your wife will be reminded that you're desirable, and she'll want some hot twosome action.
Either way, all good things, but only if she's in the know. :D
This is the critical piece of information. It makes this:Quote:
Originally Posted by Howie Feltersnatch
... an inevitable outcome. One person might shut up. 15 won't.Quote:
Originally Posted by DBdude
So the question is, how? And the answer is:
And you tell your wife that the other woman was really really really drunk, and you doubt if she even remembers it, and hope she doesn't.Quote:
Originally Posted by Yossarian
The problem with those first two is there's always the possibility your wife could decide she enjoys sex with the other(s) better than with you.Quote:
Originally Posted by Yossarian
That happened to me a few years ago.
Girl threw me into a closet and started groping.
The chick was psycho...she ended up pulling a gun on her ex (one of my best friends) and he grabbed it from her before she shot him, and most likely then herself.
I told him long after the fact, we joke about it now.
Turns out she did it to almost all of our group of friends.
Always totally shitfaced.
AD, that's his problem, and their choice as a couple.
If they're not comfortable and realistic with the risks/issues with swapping or introducing a third, then they shouldn't even open that door.
Point is, it's not for me to judge that for them, so I'm just laying out the possibilities.
And point of that is, those possibilities are all possibly positive, whereas not telling the wife in light of the fact that 15 others saw it go down will lead to possibilities which are all definitely negative.
Definitely negative vs. Possibly positive...I'll take the latter!
OK I guess it depends on the wife. My wife would flip out and think that I initiated the whole thing. It would be a rough 6 months for sure. Thats why I say forget about it.
How old are you and how long have you been married?
Even so Tuck, wouldn't it be better for her to hear it from you rather than one of the other 15 people who saw it? Or three of the other 15?
Six months of doghouse may be bad, but I would think that'd be an even longer 12 months in the doghouse when your wife gets the wrong idea completely because other people told her first.
Now this is a WHOOOOLE other ball game.Quote:
Originally Posted by Yossarian
Just in case anyone missed it by reading only the first post.Quote:
Originally Posted by Howie Feltersnatch
hmmm, suggestiveness in my mind only.... lets try this
now this is a WHOOOOOOOLE other ball game.Quote:
Originally Posted by Yossarian
GOOOOOOOOOOAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAALLLLLLLLL L
Sorry, replay of Liverpool v Aston Villa on the tele.
Best if your wife finds out from you, rather than through the grapevine.Quote:
Originally Posted by Howie Feltersnatch
(Props to you for being a stand-up guy, btw!)
Yup. Tell your wife. The other party? That's their problem.Quote:
Originally Posted by DBdude
I bet you tell your wife and she segues into "Ohhhh...I've been meaning to tell you something as well. Remember that Christmas party last year?" ...
It should certainly be told as an "amusing anecdote", and there should be no guilt involved. But seriously - we're talking about a conscious decision not to disclose it. It's not like he forgot to mention it. And IMO, that means he should tell her. It would go from an amusing anecdote to an ugly situation if she hears about it from someone else and then has to wonder why he didn't mention it.Quote:
Originally Posted by commonlaw