Uh Oh - WWMD

**Howie Feltersnatch** · 08-16-2007, 10:50 AM

Something like this may have been on here before, but I'm not going to look for it. Yes, this is an alias. Some of the people in question are lurkers/posters here on this board.

Its tough to even descibe events or places without getting busted, but at a recent 'event', a good friends wife was pretty drunk. Her husband was away getting some drinks, and she made some physical advances and said some pretty crazy things to me. She knows I'm married and my wife wasn't there. I explained my position that what she was doing was really not a cool thing to do- to me or her husband.

A couple more gropings and unwanted advances later, I finally left. She kept calling my cell and texting me random shit. I deleted all her calls and texts off my phone too. I felt that I did the right thing by leaving, but now I'm in the trick box-

Do I tell my wife?
Do I tell my friend his wife was grabbing my junk and talking dirty to me?
Do I STFU and go on like all is cool?

And please- no 'just go and get a nooner' responses.

This thread may self destruct.

**Tuckerman** · 08-16-2007, 10:52 AM

Come on STFU!!!!!!!!!!!!

**Woodlandclown** · 08-16-2007, 10:53 AM

tell no one! no good will come out of telling. your friend will be mad at you and your wife will never let you out of her site again and certainly will not let you hang out with them. just ignore and be happy you didnt take her up on the offer. people do crazy things when drunk.

**Joey Bag O' Donuts** · 08-16-2007, 10:56 AM

Don't say a word!! but if it happens again? shit I don't know man.

**AsheanMT** · 08-16-2007, 10:56 AM

I agree with STFU. You did nothing wrong so no need to tell your wife, it will just piss her off. Probably no reason to tell your friend either as you are merely a symptom of the diseased marriage and not the cause.

**DBdude** · 08-16-2007, 10:57 AM

do not tell friend

wife - maybe, up to you. we all make mistakes, do you want your wife pissed at her?

a similiar thing happened to a friend, his wife was propositioned by long time friend, guy he works with/boss. Wife told him, and everything was cool. Friend changed opinion of guy who propositioned his wife, but kept relationship with him.

**Howie Feltersnatch** · 08-16-2007, 10:59 AM

Oh Yeah - about 15 people and other friends saw most of this happen too.

**Tippster** · 08-16-2007, 10:59 AM

Only tell your wife if there's a chance at a threesome, otherwise take it as a random occurrance, maybe PM the woman to tell her your feelings, and let it die.

**Tuckerman** · 08-16-2007, 11:00 AM

Originally Posted by Tippster

Only tell your wife if there's a chance at a threesome, otherwise take it as a random occurrance, maybe PM the woman to tell her your feelings, and let it die.

Seconded.

**DBdude** · 08-16-2007, 11:01 AM

Originally Posted by Howie Feltersnatch

Oh Yeah - about 15 people and other friends saw most of this happen too.

tell wife, somebody else will if you don't

**slim** · 08-16-2007, 11:03 AM

Maybe they're swingers and want to party down with you and your wife. For all you know your buddy thinks you're cute and wants to see you naked.

**Andy_B** · 08-16-2007, 11:05 AM

pooperdehosen.

**pappag** · 08-16-2007, 11:08 AM

Originally Posted by DBdude

tell wife, somebody else will if you don't

+ 1

Not great news to hear, but better from you than from someone else because the someone else part is 100% guaranteed to happen.

**El Chupacabra** · 08-16-2007, 11:12 AM

Originally Posted by Howie Feltersnatch

Do I tell my wife?
Do I tell my friend his wife was grabbing my junk and talking dirty to me?
Do I STFU and go on like all is cool?

Tell your wife.

Don't tell your friend. Unless he's iskibc/Sledneckripper/etc. In which case, do tell him, exaggerate wildly.

**Art Shirk** · 08-16-2007, 11:15 AM

Don't sweat it. No big deal. Don't tell anyone. If the wife brings it up, just say "Oh yeah, she (groper) was pretty drunk." Am I missing why this is a hudge issue? No one strayed beyond drunken ramblings. This is par for the course at weddings I go to.

**Tuckerman** · 08-16-2007, 11:15 AM

Don't tell the wife. If she brings it up tell her you took care of it no big deal.

Edit: Too slow

**RootSkier** · 08-16-2007, 11:15 AM

Did you Feelersnatch?

**DBdude** · 08-16-2007, 11:19 AM

dbdude "oh, it was no big deal, she was just grabbing my crotch and saying she was hot for me" (not likely in this world)

wife "oh, this happens a lot..."

**bio-smear** · 08-16-2007, 11:20 AM

I want to know howie feltersnatch.

If this happened to me, I'd tell my wife. There is nothing you or her can do to control the behavior of a raging sex starved cougar, all you can do is control your own behavior. You did the right thing. Confide in your wife and explain how you handled the situation.

Unless...how many strokes did you let her get in? It takes 2-3 to even realize what it going on. 4-6 and you're being indecisive, possible ambiguity. 7-10 you're letting her give you a handjob.

**Odin** · 08-16-2007, 11:27 AM

Note: this happened to me once before, I said nothing and the guy split from his wife anyway.

[howie] Honey, I've got something to tell you

[wife] What is it? Are the dogs ok?

[howie] No no no, It's nothing that terrible

[wife] Well what is it then?

[howie] Well you know I went to Kweise and Kenyons party last night and well.... Sharla started talking dirty to me and feeling me up.

[wife] I'm SHOCKED! SHOCKED AND AMAZED! What a harlot! What did she say

[howie] Well, she came over next to me and started talking about how amazing she thought you looked these days and that I was a really lucky guy. She said that she wanted to lick your body up and down until you shuddered in her sweet embrace. She said that she wanted to part the petals of your womanhood with her tounge and make you scream in pleasure.
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And she said that she wanted me to watch.

[wife] What?!

[howie] I know, it's shocking. I've invited her over for counseling. I think you can help her onto the straight and narrow. I've also picked up two bottles of tequila and some margarita mix. I think it will make the discussion easier.

**Beaver** · 08-16-2007, 11:36 AM

Tell her (friend's wife) that what she did not cool when she is sober. She may have been so hosed she doesn't remember.

**The AD** · 08-16-2007, 11:38 AM

Originally Posted by commonlaw

If the wife brings it up, just say "Oh yeah, she (groper) was pretty drunk." Am I missing why this is a hudge issue?

Yes, you're not married. If the wife finds out it won't be a simple matter of "oh yeah." She'll think he was trying to hide something.

**snowsprite** · 08-16-2007, 11:46 AM

Originally Posted by Beaver

Tell her (friend's wife) that what she did not cool when she is sober. She may have been so hosed she doesn't remember.

Yeah, this is who you should be talking to IMO. Get straight w/ her that you're not cool w/ it.

You don't have to dress her down (no pun!) but tell her nicely...but firmly, at a time she's not toasted, to please look elsewhere for attention in the future.

Now *that's* something your wife would appreciate!

Sprite

**focus** · 08-16-2007, 11:46 AM

Depends on the wife and the relationship.... I'd tell my wife, but it wouldn't be a "there's something I need to tell you" moment. It'd be a "you'll never believe what happened at that party" kind of thing.