Sounds like your doing a good job dealing with everything, certainly it won't be easy but keep doing the right things and move ahead bit by bit.
Life moves on.....sometimes it just takes a while.
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Sounds like your doing a good job dealing with everything, certainly it won't be easy but keep doing the right things and move ahead bit by bit.
Life moves on.....sometimes it just takes a while.
Your candid posts and incredible openness concerning recent events in your life has been inspiring. Know that not only is every last mag here for you, including perpetual lurkers and jongs such as myself, but that we appreciate the strength and vulnerability that you have brought to the board. Your willingness to share a burden has strengthened us all. Hang tough, we're all here for you.
With faith and love,
KB
This still hurts to read and to realize how much pain you are in, but it is great to see that you are doing somewhat better at the same time.
I am a college student and have lots of things to worry about, but the recent events really have moved me and you've been in my thougts.
Keep it up.
Good to hear an update from you. Keep on keeping on, I hope every day gets better for you than the one before it.
Doug it’s nice to hear from you.
It’s going to take time but I think you are strong enough to work through this.
On the issue of your home:
My opinion is that it would be unhealthy to try and stay in this house.
I could be wrong about this, but I feel strongly that you should get the hell away from the house.
I saw an offer on here from local maggots who are in the real-estate business who offered to help get you out from under you house (Free of charge) I suggest you let them help.
Regardless of what you decide stay strong and I hope we can make some turns next time I visit Utah.
MTT
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Originally Posted by shmoesmith
Shoe,
I still haven't ever talked to you, and I may never really get to talk to you, but I am here for you. I haven't been a part of this community for long and I sure as heck know that I'm not any real part of it, but after following what has happened to you, I still feel as if I could help you in one way or another. I will be thinking about you and yours. Let me know if I can do ANYTHING.
^^^ good advice MTT.
doug, sounds like you are pulling it together. stay strong and keep movin' on!
Like a heap of others here I've been following this tragedy and not known what to say, I think about what's happened and I know I can't understand what you're going through. But it gives me hope that so many people can come together and show their support for another. I hope you can get through this, all the positive vibes i can muster are with you, all the best Doug. Keep on trucking dude.
Good to hear from you schmoe.
I'm not gonna say anything that hasn't been said already.
Keep hanging in. Believe it or not, things will get better.
wow.. thanks for keeping us posted.
-steve
I feel unworthy to say anything. My prayers are with you.
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Originally Posted by iceman
Heh.
Number already cross-posted to gay sex chatrooms.
Prepare for an onslaught of drunk calls from horny bears in serious leather ;)
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You can do it Shmoe.
You already are.
Wishing you Peace and Powder. :yourock:
Good to hear from you doug and good to hear you are working through everything- like people said it will take time - one foot in front of the other
Keep positive and we're here for ya man
Shmoesmith, you've been through something nobody should ever have to suffer through...
I'm happy to hear you are coming out of this dark time slowly but surely, and please know that it can only get better from here on out.
We are here for you!
Sprite
So glad you checked in -- been thinking about you often. Keep on keepin' on...
Glad to see you (posting)! Hopefully this forum continues to provide some level of support if not providing an example of the amount of good that's actually out there.
Hang in there Shmoe, you're doing a great job keeping it together under hard circumstances. This whole thing just has me reeling, I can't imagine what you must be going through.
As far as your house, I'm inclined to agree with MTT. I think it'd be a huge burden off you if you could get out from under it, as painful as that may seem to you now.
Doug,
I am so happy that you are feeling better and are able to express your feelings so clearly. You will get through this because you have the inner strength and will to do so. We are thinking of you and pulling for you, mang!
Shmoe..
Even tho I'm just a lurker and don't say much, I just wanted to express my thoughts to you (as someone who has been through a very simular situation).
Take one day at a time, if you think your ready to take that babystep forward (no matter what it's about) DO IT! There seems to be many many many Mag's here that will help you every step of the way.
Even tho I don't you know or DW i feel for your loss. It's hard.
I'm glad to see you've posted, keep us (even us lurkers) up-to-date, and if there's anything I can do to help, let me know even if it's as a sounding board.
Many pos ++++++ still being sent to you.
Keep your chin up and take it one step at a time. We are all here for anything you need so don't hesitate to ask.
a few things to keep in mind on your journey to normalcy
1) the best revenge is living well
2) this too shall pass
3) we're all with you in spirit dude
Doug,
Stay strong and do what you know is right - getting back at those who trespassed against you will only harm YOU more.
Remember that the house, the car, and all are just things and that if you had to bail on it all you'd be just fine, in fact maybe that would be cleansing to be rid of it all and get some perspective. If I were you I'd get rid of it all and do some traveling or something for yourself.
You have a good support network here - so use it, but you probably should consider finding a professional who is familiar with grief and in particular suicide issues. Use a few of the bucks we've sent your way and fell good about it.
S
PS - and get some turns - maybe take Powstash up on his offer.
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Originally Posted by powstash
Doug, great to hear you back on here. One more step in the right direction.
I would stongly recommend taking Powstash up on a tour, this weekend if possible, as soon as possible. Get the split out and get some exercise to help clear the mind a bit more. I know tours help me when I get down and or angry.
Plus this man is top notch in my book and anyone else here that knows him. There is a lot of wisdom in that shooken up head of his (he survived a tramatic brain injury, thank God).
Plus he can teach you even more about the backcountry. You win all the way around and so what are you waiting for!!!!
Glad to hear you're doing better. And I know you will keep getting better. You've suffered a bad injury, but you can recover. Take it one day at a time. Be careful with yourself. Think of your psyche like a leg that got fucked up badly - you need to treat it with care for a long time to make sure that it heals. It may never be back to 100%, but if you work at it, you can get to where you won't know the difference. Seek counseling if you need it. You wouldn't try to work out a bad ACL without a doctor's help. I don't think you should try to work out an emotional injury without a doctor's help.
Live a good life, for yourself, for DW and for the maggots here who are behind you, whether we ever meet you or not. Be proud of yourself. You've walked some hard miles lately, and you've made it through things that not everyone could survive. It won't be easy for quite a while, but you've got to continue doing what is right, if for no other reason than out of respect for Doug of a week ago who made it through something worse than what Doug of this week or next week is going through.
Go skiing. We finally got some snow, and exercise will clear your mind.
Glad to hear from you Schmoe!
you have been given a shitty test. Please don't fail. Seek help from the TGR community when needed. For anything, Real estate, Advice, friendship and healing. I sent you a PM earlier with my phone and my address. Call or stop by anytime. Although I don't know you I have followed these threads, cried many times, paypaled cash, and attended the funeral. I follow the mantra spoken earlier. Anything for a maggot...ANYTHING!!!!
Kevin