Similar situation. My bio dad passed when I was 2. Many say we share very similar characteristics and mannerisms.
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British+Swiss background=punctual, reserved, sarcastic asshole. I'd say there's something to the genetics argument.
I'm of Spanish and Polish ancestry, which might mean I enjoy red wine with my pierogi, I'm dark haired yet pale, quick to anger, not really bothered by antisemitism and that I have a strong subconscious desire to drive Muslims out of Europe...again.
Why am I not surprised?
OK, then why did my son eschew teddy bears/soft toys in favor of trucks, trains and tools? Why did my daughter prefer dolls, etc to the trucks etc? Are these genetic or not? Neither kids was exposed to either except as toys.Quote:
It is just as likely that my kids share my behaviors, affinities and struggles because they learned them from me and the Mrs., as that those are somehow genetically pre-determined. Add to that the fact that they are growing up not only in your presence, but in largely the same culture you grew up in, maybe even in the same subcutlures, and even micro-cultures.
There was no real reason for a number of my son's behaviors which I'd rather not go into, but they are consistent with some well known syndromes that my father exhibits.
That's kind of inconsistent to assert anecdotal information but then dismiss it. I'm not claiming mine is more than anecdotal.Quote:
My brother's adopted son has the same facial expressoins as my brother. Intersting anecdote, but no more.
What I do mean to point out is how my view has changed; being a parent has significantly changed my position on nuture vs. nature to weighting the nature a lot more. Your mulage may vary.
Wow, interesting number of adopted bastards around.
I think the older you get the more genetics/nature comes on over environmental/nuture. In my case, two older siblings adopted no idea on their background, I was adopted and then my mother had my little brother genetic at age 38. About 18 years ago my genetic grandmother opened the connection between genetic mother and myself. My family I grew up with I still have tons in common with and consider my family. As I get older and spend less time around any of them I see myself getting some of genetic mother family traits. The sperm boy was genetic mother's older brother college roomie, from same Catholic hood growing up. I guess I look pretty much exactly like him. He ran a group of banks in Texasss, so not much similarity there.