Why are you still in an unhappy marriage/relationship?

I don't understand why you've tolerated it for so long.

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Originally Posted by bklyn

I don't understand why you've tolerated it for so long.

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Because TGR is so addicting I can't divorce from it.

What a timely thread. I don't understand it either.

I will answer as to why it me so long to get out of a marriage I was no longer happy in...all of the above, except I was more scared of what the devil would do when I left her.

Now I'm poor, but I'm happy.

somehow its less work to just live with it then do something about it.....man that sounds pathetically lazy.....

Because she has enough of the superficial things that matter.







*My g/f stalks TGR occasionally.

I'm not. Fuck that noise.

What's all this "other" about? Let's see some elaboration.

The last time? Because I didn't want to make it hard on her having to find a new place. Also, there were (and are) a lot of things that I liked about her, which made toughing it out a little longer a bit easier to justify.

And yeah, agreed with DDJ. This sounds pathetic.

A person's genuine hope for change (for things to get better in whatever way they need to) usually dies a very lingering and painful death. It normally doesn't go out with a whimper.

Sprite

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Originally Posted by DirkaDirkaJack

somehow its less work to just live with it then do something about it.....man that sounds pathetically lazy.....

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I was about to ask how you could omit "lazy" from the poll. I would say fear and sloth are the two reasons that account for most such decisions.

Because pussy is pussy.

I have at least 40 CD's in her car. I'm not gonna just walk out on 40 CD's, I'm gonna let it drag on for 6 more years and end violently.*


*not my joke

I've been married to this controlling bitch for so long I had to invent my own religion just to get out of the house and away from her. Seems to be working.

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Originally Posted by grrrr

I will answer as to why it me so long to get out of a marriage I was no longer happy in...all of the above, except I was more scared of what the devil would do when I left her.

Now I'm poor, but I'm happy.

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I agree with you. When I left my marriage, it was a real hard decision. BUT, it came down to simple utiltarianism. I was miserable and so unhappy I was contemplating daily drowning of sack of kittens (a joke!) And I knew she was equally miserable, but didn't want to admit it. I finally just sacked up and ended it.


I lost my ASS in that settlement, but I didn't care. It was only money, and you can always make more money. I had my happiness and freedom back.

But it took me a long time to get to the point of leaving, mostly because this was before I realized the true idiocy of religion, and had a fear of letting down my (at the time) religious family and such. Now, as an atheist, I see how silly those reasons were. Hanging on in a bad relationship/marriage because of an imaginary bearded sky-fairy is no reason at all.

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Originally Posted by Nanuq

I agree with you. When I left my marriage, it was a real hard decision. BUT, it came down to simple utiltarianism. I was miserable and so unhappy I was contemplating daily drowning of sack of kittens (a joke!) And I knew she was equally miserable, but didn't want to admit it. I finally just sacked up and ended it.


I lost my ASS in that settlement, but I didn't care. It was only money, and you can always make more money. I had my happiness and freedom back.

But it took me a long time to get to the point of leaving, mostly because this was before I realized the true idiocy of religion, and had a fear of letting down my (at the time) religious family and such. Now, as an atheist, I see how silly those reasons were. Hanging on in a bad relationship/marriage because of an imaginary bearded sky-fairy is no reason at all.

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You were involved in a miserable relationship? Shocking. I bet you're real fun to be around. We should hang out.

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Originally Posted by Albert Gore

You were involved in a miserable relationship? Shocking. I bet you're real fun to be around. We should hang out.

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Really? You want to? Boy, that' be swell! I'll get the grill fired up and throw a couple a' steaks on! Chill some cold ones, and dust off the horseshoe pit! Only, I want you to wear the "Kiss The Chef" Apron, so I can give you a big-ass wet smooch, you sassy devil.

say please and I'm there. We can prank call Witherspoon! That full blown AIDS fuck.

"The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation"...Thoreau

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Originally Posted by irul&ublo

"The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation"...Thoreau

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I thought that Pink Floyd guy said that.:confused:

Also - I would have never guessed that Nanuq was emotionally scarred.:confused::confused:

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Originally Posted by Jer

Also - I would have never guessed that Nanuq was emotionally scarred.:confused::confused:

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I know, and he sounds so fun when he posts here. :confused:

I feel his pain too though. Lately people have been doubting me, it must be like every day of his pathetic little life. Truly horrifying.

This is a subtle Kory McFarren thread, isn't it?

I've been in a terrible, abusive relationship for quite a few years now. But... things have really gotten better about six months ago, since I threw her down into the basement and put a padlock on the cellar door.

I really would rather be single and do my own thing, but rent would cost me a lot more and my laundry and dishes would pile up. Those are my excuses, anyways

yeah, i have to say, 1/2 off rent is a pretty good reason to keep it going.

......does that sound unhealthy?.......

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Originally Posted by snowsprite

A person's genuine hope for change (for things to get better in whatever way they need to) usually dies a very lingering and painful death. It normally doesn't go out with a whimper.

Sprite

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I cast my vote for the wisdom of Sprite.