Why are you still in an unhappy marriage/relationship?

[bklyn]

I don't understand why you've tolerated it for so long.

[AlpineJunkie]

I don't understand why you've tolerated it for so long.

Because TGR is so addicting I can't divorce from it.

[smalls]

What a timely thread. I don't understand it either.

[grrrr]

I will answer as to why it me so long to get out of a marriage I was no longer happy in...all of the above, except I was more scared of what the devil would do when I left her.

Now I'm poor, but I'm happy.

[DirkaDirkaJack]

somehow its less work to just live with it then do something about it.....man that sounds pathetically lazy.....

[Jim S]

Because she has enough of the superficial things that matter.







*My g/f stalks TGR occasionally.

[counterfeitfake]

I'm not. Fuck that noise.

What's all this "other" about? Let's see some elaboration.

[Wiilbert]

The last time? Because I didn't want to make it hard on her having to find a new place. Also, there were (and are) a lot of things that I liked about her, which made toughing it out a little longer a bit easier to justify.

And yeah, agreed with DDJ. This sounds pathetic.

[snowsprite]

A person's genuine hope for change (for things to get better in whatever way they need to) usually dies a very lingering and painful death. It normally doesn't go out with a whimper.

Sprite

[Brocktoon]

somehow its less work to just live with it then do something about it.....man that sounds pathetically lazy.....

I was about to ask how you could omit "lazy" from the poll. I would say fear and sloth are the two reasons that account for most such decisions.

[ProHoHater]

Because pussy is pussy.

[Thrill Hammer]

I have at least 40 CD's in her car. I'm not gonna just walk out on 40 CD's, I'm gonna let it drag on for 6 more years and end violently.*


*not my joke

[Albert Gore]

I've been married to this controlling bitch for so long I had to invent my own religion just to get out of the house and away from her. Seems to be working.

[Nanuq]

I will answer as to why it me so long to get out of a marriage I was no longer happy in...all of the above, except I was more scared of what the devil would do when I left her.

Now I'm poor, but I'm happy.

I agree with you. When I left my marriage, it was a real hard decision. BUT, it came down to simple utiltarianism. I was miserable and so unhappy I was contemplating daily drowning of sack of kittens (a joke!) And I knew she was equally miserable, but didn't want to admit it. I finally just sacked up and ended it.


I lost my ASS in that settlement, but I didn't care. It was only money, and you can always make more money. I had my happiness and freedom back.

But it took me a long time to get to the point of leaving, mostly because this was before I realized the true idiocy of religion, and had a fear of letting down my (at the time) religious family and such. Now, as an atheist, I see how silly those reasons were. Hanging on in a bad relationship/marriage because of an imaginary bearded sky-fairy is no reason at all.

[Albert Gore]

I agree with you. When I left my marriage, it was a real hard decision. BUT, it came down to simple utiltarianism. I was miserable and so unhappy I was contemplating daily drowning of sack of kittens (a joke!) And I knew she was equally miserable, but didn't want to admit it. I finally just sacked up and ended it.


I lost my ASS in that settlement, but I didn't care. It was only money, and you can always make more money. I had my happiness and freedom back.

But it took me a long time to get to the point of leaving, mostly because this was before I realized the true idiocy of religion, and had a fear of letting down my (at the time) religious family and such. Now, as an atheist, I see how silly those reasons were. Hanging on in a bad relationship/marriage because of an imaginary bearded sky-fairy is no reason at all.

You were involved in a miserable relationship? Shocking. I bet you're real fun to be around. We should hang out.

[Nanuq]

You were involved in a miserable relationship? Shocking. I bet you're real fun to be around. We should hang out.

Really? You want to? Boy, that' be swell! I'll get the grill fired up and throw a couple a' steaks on! Chill some cold ones, and dust off the horseshoe pit! Only, I want you to wear the "Kiss The Chef" Apron, so I can give you a big-ass wet smooch, you sassy devil.

[Albert Gore]

say please and I'm there. We can prank call Witherspoon! That full blown AIDS fuck.

[irul&ublo]

"The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation"...Thoreau

[Jer]

"The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation"...Thoreau

I thought that Pink Floyd guy said that.

Also - I would have never guessed that Nanuq was emotionally scarred.

[Albert Gore]

Also - I would have never guessed that Nanuq was emotionally scarred.

I know, and he sounds so fun when he posts here.

I feel his pain too though. Lately people have been doubting me, it must be like every day of his pathetic little life. Truly horrifying.

[cantunamunch]

This is a subtle Kory McFarren thread, isn't it?

[G]

I've been in a terrible, abusive relationship for quite a few years now. But... things have really gotten better about six months ago, since I threw her down into the basement and put a padlock on the cellar door.

[wicked_sick]

I really would rather be single and do my own thing, but rent would cost me a lot more and my laundry and dishes would pile up. Those are my excuses, anyways

[DirkaDirkaJack]

yeah, i have to say, 1/2 off rent is a pretty good reason to keep it going.

......does that sound unhealthy?.......

[woodstocksez]

A person's genuine hope for change (for things to get better in whatever way they need to) usually dies a very lingering and painful death. It normally doesn't go out with a whimper.

Sprite

I cast my vote for the wisdom of Sprite.