I love my wife and all, but Jesus Hercules Christ...

[Art Shirk]

If you want to hang a picture or, in this specific case, a monstrously heavy fold down desk to a wall, just give me a shout and I will help find a stud or put an anchor in. The alternative is me finding massive holes in my drywall from torn out screws. And if you are going to willy nilly drill holes all over the house, please put my drill back at the least. I'd request that you also use a level but then again, I dont want to lose my level.

[Thaleia]

A bit of tension in the air tonight. Wife is a regressing technophobe. Her 25yr old ipod/mp3 player finally gave up the ghost last summer, so her source for music while camping is no longer available. She was trying to get my input on the relative value of mp3 players, cause ya know, electronics are cheap right now. I tell her she has a music player on her phone, and she needs a new phone anyway as her old one is getting low on memory. Nope, researching for a new phone is far too much pain. I tell her that her iPad also have the ability to store and play music, just have to pair it with the media computer that has our music library and at the least organize some playlists in iTunes. She gives me a look like I have horns growing out of my head. She gets upset, saying I am not helping her find a way to play mp3's camping.
She is a staunch denier of accepting the simplest changes in tech like apps instead of programs. I am being mean and hurtful trying to explain she needs to take a bit of responsibility for understanding some basic nuances of modern electronics - I mean our daughter is 8 and latches on tech like any young person, so this is going to get very interesting in short order.

Duuude.. Very similar situation here. Any digital file of hers I am somehow expected to manage. She bought a DSLR a decade ago - she has literally never saved any bulk photos, everything lives on an old flash card. Oh and since the camera is now so old, it only takes cards up to 2 gigs, which are pretty hard to find now. (of course it's my job to source them lol)

I have showed her how to copy pics to the pc - she'll copy the odd single pic if it's something she wants to use as inspiration for a painting, but that's it.

I've given her external harddrives to save things on, but just refuses to. I've explained that if she wants to store anything long term in needs to be in two places (ei external drive and cloud) because all drives eventually fail. Nope, it's just too much for her.

So now, anytime she can't locate an image, it is somehow my fault.

Bonus agony points - she has retained all her older mobile phones. Obviously. Cause all her old phone pics are still on them.

[bobz]

Looks like the deal ended but unless she has to have an Apple product (ITunes and all that Apple centrist stuff) something like this should be considered: https://slickdeals.net/f/14739038-b-...-free-shipping And in the comments of that discussion someone linked a Bluetooth capable similar but different brand model that could be checked out on Amazon. Any of the little Sansa players would be just fine for a few days out in the woods, would never want to take a tablet just to have music... And a phone playing music would work, but the battery would not last forever so now you have to add an external power charger like Anker or similar to keep it charged.

I have that same Sansa for gym and bedside, and a Victure in my travel kit. Neither is as nice as the older Sansa Clip+ that finally died but oh well. The Sansa Clip Sport has an OK interface, not great, internal memory and card memory are indexed separately and one at a time (so I use internal for audiobooks and card for music), lacks a few features like Bluetooth as you mentioned. The Victure is more of the Chinese knockoff product category, has the extra features, dirt cheap, but the interface is a notch clunkier, works fine now that I'm used to it. I don't know about the Agptek you mentioned in the Sansa comments, probably has funkiness qualities similar to the Victure.

Oh, another plus with these things, is that you can listen to tunes in bed while the phone is over on a table charging.

[skaredshtles]

<snip> If only she'd learn how house thermostats work; you don't, in fact, need to turn it way up when it's cold, and then turn it way down when it starts to get warmed up.

W
T
F?

I'm pretty sure that's grounds for divorce, no?

I'd go postal, for sure.

I guess it's a good thing I'm not married to your wife.

[bobz]

Yeah, what can I say, I'm happy to do everything involving tech and power tools and cars and skis and gear and storing everybody's online credentials so on, so most of the stuff that gets people worked up here doesn't apply.

[dannynoonan]

my drywall

Oooh you are playing with fire right there, brave man

[riser4]

I have that same Sansa for gym and bedside, and a Victure in my travel kit. Neither is as nice as the older Sansa Clip+ that finally died but oh well. The Sansa Clip Sport has an OK interface, not great, internal memory and card memory are indexed separately and one at a time (so I use internal for audiobooks and card for music), lacks a few features like Bluetooth as you mentioned. The Victure is more of the Chinese knockoff product category, has the extra features, dirt cheap, but the interface is a notch clunkier, works fine now that I'm used to it. I don't know about the Agptek you mentioned in the Sansa comments, probably has funkiness qualities similar to the Victure.

Oh, another plus with these things, is that you can listen to tunes in bed while the phone is over on a table charging.

Ya, with bluetooth you can leave your phone all over the place and still listen to tunes in bed. And because you have the Bluetooth earbuds going, you can't just call the phone to find it. Unless you listen very carefully fir the vibrations. Or you have ear buds that you can unpair/turn off from the ear bud end. The reason I know all this is why this thread was started in the first place.

[basinbeater]

My 5 year old had to show my wife how to make the tv sound come through the stereo (hint, the knob has to be turned to video1 instead of cd). What are these mp3 you all speak of?

sent from Utah.

[Supermoon]

W
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F?

I'm pretty sure that's grounds for divorce, no?

I'd go postal, for sure.

I guess it's a good thing I'm not married to your wife.

Every time we get in our car together my wife turns up her side of the heater to MAX even though she knows it doesn’t heat the car up any faster than just leaving it at 70.

Not worth divorce to try and win this argument so I just crack my window.

[anotherVTskibum]

Every time we get in our car together my wife turns up her side of the heater to MAX even though she knows it doesn’t heat the car up any faster than just leaving it at 70.

Not worth divorce to try and win this argument so I just crack my window.

My wife's car has one of those fancy heating systems with a thermostat and numbers on the dial. She still insists that it must be cranked to broil when the car is cold, until it's too warm for humans dressed for winter, at which point it can be turned down to an almost reasonable setting.

Trying to explain that it's a thermostat dial like the one in the house has been fruitless.

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[old goat]

If you want to hang a picture or, in this specific case, a monstrously heavy fold down desk to a wall, just give me a shout and I will help find a stud or put an anchor in. The alternative is me finding massive holes in my drywall from torn out screws. And if you are going to willy nilly drill holes all over the house, please put my drill back at the least. I'd request that you also use a level but then again, I dont want to lose my level.

Not a wife problem--a stud finding problem: 30's house, no rhyme or reason to the framing and the lath and plaster make a stud finder worthless. And even if I find one stud that doesn't tell me where the next one is, or the one after that, or that said stud is continuous from floor to ceiling. Lots of things hung my drilling multiple holes.

My wife's car has one of those fancy heating systems with a thermostat and numbers on the dial. She still insists that it must be cranked to broil when the car is cold, until it's too warm for humans dressed for winter, at which point it can be turned down to an almost reasonable setting.

Trying to explain that it's a thermostat dial like the one in the house has been fruitless.

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That's hardly postable. Everyone's wife does that--in cars, at home, explaining thermostats is a waste of time.

[Danno]

That's hardly postable. Everyone's wife does that--in cars, at home, explaining thermostats is a waste of time.

I wouldn't have believed it without this thread. I thought my wife was a special snowflake.

[plugboots]

Today in the skintrack I was thinking there should be 4 sub-threads in here:
1) Disposals.
2) Thermostats.
3) Vehicular awareness.
4) Technology.

I started the thread w/ an example of a lack of #3. I thought the point is to share how goofy it is that your SO lacks knowledge of these simple everyday items/tasks?

[AK47bp]

Today in the skintrack I was thinking there should be 4 sub-threads in here:
1) Disposals.
2) Thermostats.
3) Vehicular awareness.
4) Technology.

I started the thread w/ an example of a lack of #3. I thought the point is to share how goofy it is that your SO lacks knowledge of these simple everyday items/tasks?

Don’t forget the dishwasher, dear lord don’t forget the dishwasher.


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[plugboots]

5) Dishwasher.

[leroy jenkins]

Well, my wife likes to crank the heat to 75, gas fireplace I the bedroom on, and leave the 2 windows in the bathroom open with the fan running and the door open... All day long, or until I hear the furnace kick on and go close the windows. In the summer she likes to leave the windows open. And turn the AC down to 65. She "needs" fresh air she says. No amount of talking about it, and showing her the utility bills had any impact. I finally got her to stop for a while by taking several one dollar bills into the bathroom and lighting them on fire. And she runs a humidifier in the bedroom 24/7.
Just heard the furnace kick on. Better go check the windows. Ok there. Latest battle is about leaving the door open. So she pulls into the garage, and comes inside, leaves the door open, my office is close to the basement door, so I get cold quickly when she does that. I say, please close the door, and she says, I'm going back out. Meanwhile she goes into the laundry room to switch laundry ( pretty good at laundry) all while the door is open to the outside world. Or bringing in groceries, leaves door wide open, and goes into kitchen and unloads and puts groceries away while the door sits wide open. If I close it, she says don't close it, I'm going back out there. It's been open for minutes. Close the goddamn door. Grr. But I love her.

sent from Utah.

Yea. If they are getting something from the car, they won't leave the door open a crack so they can push it open with their hip when they return with the bag of groceries or whatever, they will make sure to leave it as wide fucking open as possible, regardless of outside weather.

[liv2ski]

I wouldn't have believed it without this thread. I thought my wife was a special snowflake.

Oddly, my wife can't use the house thermostat either. I have it set up so all she has to do is flip the switch to heat and give it 10 minutes to heat the house up and forget about making the tv play through the stereo. I think we are all pretty much kept around as tech support and to fix stuff..

[gravitylover]

Today in the skintrack I was thinking there should be 4 sub-threads in here:
1) Disposals.
2) Thermostats.
3) Vehicular awareness.
4) Technology.

I started the thread w/ an example of a lack of #3. I thought the point is to share how goofy it is that your SO lacks knowledge of these simple everyday items/tasks?

To be fair, you or I wouldn't know squat from the simple everyday task of applying eye shadow or similar.

Some of the things my wife knows how to do surprise me but then I realize it's because she didn't want her brother to think she was just a dumb girl when they were teenagers. Unfortunately she stopped learning about techy or mechanical stuff when he was killed 30 years ago. She did figure out how to build a website for her business just recently, I don't have the patience to even try.

[singlecross]

Today in the skintrack I was thinking there should be 4 sub-threads in here:
1) Disposals.
2) Thermostats.
3) Vehicular awareness.
4) Technology.

I started the thread w/ an example of a lack of #3. I thought the point is to share how goofy it is that your SO lacks knowledge of these simple everyday items/tasks?

I started a catch-all saying with my wife and kids with their use/misuse/abuse of common items/tasks... “Show it a little mechanical sympathy”. It doesn’t cover any Technology issues so
I still have a constant source of amusement in our house.

[ötzi]

My wife is at least a technically challenged as anyone's in this thread. At least. It's truly amazing. But that's not the interesting part. What's interesting to me is why this is so. She's vey smart. She's been highly successful in business. Her memory is like a steel trap, she forgets nothing.

But, despite repeated instruction, she can't work a toaster (it's not a complicated toaster) or a thermostat, or any -literally any- of the technical stuff in our lives, unless she has no choice. She can put gas in her car, for example.

She's a smart, successful, talented woman who in one sphere of life has chosen to be completely helpless. She could learn all of this stuff in a day. But we've been married a very long time and she can't do any of it. Why? It's clearly a choice at some level, a decision that she consciously or (more likely) subconsciously has made. And it's obviously not just her, although she has a certain special level of ineptness and cluelessness that I can't help thinking is hers alone. Why?

If there was some way to understand the underlying pathology maybe we could make a little progress. But I'm pretty sure I'm gonna go to the grave still wondering wtf.

[liv2ski]

^^^^^ Yup, that is likely it for all of our girls. I know mine is very smart and well educated but there are many tasks that are obviously mine to handle. Until I drop dead, I am here to be her tech support, maintenance guy. Maybe that is pretty smart of her

[jm2e]

Until I drop dead, I am here to be her tech support, maintenance guy. Maybe that is pretty smart of her

Ding Ding Ding Ding!!!

[ötzi]

I dunno man, shivering in the house because the heat is set low until she gets me on the phone so I can tell her yet again how to change the temperature setting doesn't seem that smart to me but I guess if it's part of the master plan...

[liv2ski]

I dunno man, shivering in the house because the heat is set low until she gets me on the phone so I can tell her yet again how to change the temperature setting doesn't seem that smart to me but I guess if it's part of the master plan...

Obviously she has not trained you to make it happen with the flip of one switch like mine did or maybe you left it that way to be needed?

[oftpiste]

The commonality of experience in here is really jaw-dropping. My ex did all the same shit. Current GF does not which I find incredibly refreshing!

What is it about those things that are so challenging? I wonder if women ever talk among themselves about dishwasher loading, car heaters and the like and how it's so weird their partners are always up in arms about how they operate these things?