
Originally Posted by
altabrook
jon, at some point in the future, you will be a news event. your hate and anger are so over the top, some poor soul will likely be the target of an uncontrollable rage outburst from you, and you'll may kill or cause grave harm. ...and then we'll all be scratching our heads wondering why no one took action earlier to help you, when all the signals are clearly screaming "HOLY SHIT. this guy needs help." you are a liability. no only to yourself, but to your employer, and likely to the welfare of your family. you haven't earned the nickname "ragin' wade" for nothing. right? you recently completed court ordered anger management. it's clear, you need a more intensive program - you're hard-wired to react this way, and it's not something you are going to change by going to some class. you need a good therapist who can work on helping you set some new neural pathways. i'm not a psychiatrist, but i will give it my best shot. everyone here thinks you are closeted homosexual. i'm not feeling that. i see an adult man who's emotional and psychological development has been stunted because of childhood abuse. you have wounds that haven't healed. your anger and lashing out is an attempt to regain control of your life. perhaps you struggle with post traumatic stress. you love to ski because it takes you out of your mind for awhile, gives you a break from the madness. you don't hate homosexuals. you hate pedophiles. you said you stomped on luff's skis because you were sticking up for the "little guy" - the underdog who has no voice, who won't stick up for himself. but YOU are the bully. perhaps all this anger and rage could be finally put to rest with a good program to help you work through the past traumas. you re-victimize yourself every time you find yourself in these situations. and before you begin to teach your children coping skills that will only victimize them too, please commit to the effort to do the work you need to heal yourself. you are clearly a very passionate person, and you have people who support you and consider you a friend. put down the tough guy facade and get real with what's in front of you. and yeah, i do have a degree wade, i studied women...you know, feminazi, lesbian studies. i studied issues that affect women - rape, assault, genital mutilation, reproductive issues, child sexual abuse, violence, domination and control issues, sexual orientation. and you know, it was depressing as FUCK. so when you say these hateful things to me, it doesn't hurt that much. men have been trying to humiliate, control and make women fearful since the beginning of time. so, you put down women, and you think you "stick up for the little guy". you put gay people down, and you think that's sticking up for the little guy too? ask matthew sheppard what is was like to be beaten, tortured and hung on fence to die by a couple of homophobic cowboys, who think just like you. or try living in a world where you are taught not to protect yourself, but to seek the protection of men, from other men. that's a fucked up paradigm. a better one? arm every woman with a 12 gauge and teach her how to use it.
so jon, you're not the only one who has been fucked by the man. we all live in a fucked up world....and skiing is an amazing therapy, as was mentioned earlier. ski programs are helping vets with ptsd and it's healing their lives. there are lots of men out there who have been abused by the sandusky's of the world. and there are resources and help out there if you look for them. so before you do something regrettable, and end up in prison being someone's boy-bitch, i suggest you meditate to a higher power and turn the ship in another direction. you're the adult now, and it's time to take some responsibility for yourself.
....and by they way, it's also okay to cry. there's no shame in it. it's normal to have feelings outside of anger. and it doesn't make you a "little girl". it makes you human. i wish you the best on your journey.
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