Booty call etiquette

[Telephil]

This is a hypothetical question only.

An example, lets say a girl which you have one of those agreements with comes over late at night. There are no strings, no commitment of any sort, it's an understood, even discussed thing.

So, normally a rendevous of that sort would warrant a phone call the next day, if you were interested in the girl. So, if there is no interest on either side, just an agreement, are you still supposed to call the next day?

[altagirl]

Did you miss the Seinfeld episode covering all these rules?

[The AD]

Hypothetically, of course not.

[snowsprite]

Only call if you really want to for some reason, like to talk or to make a date or something. But don't call because you feel you should. If she's clear on the arrangement she should not be waiting for you to call!
Sprite

[Superstar Punani]

A courtesy "Hi, how you doin" call is helpful and may ensure supply of future booty calls, but any plans for dates (dinner/movie/etc) should not be discussed. Otherwise booty call arrangement may evolve towards a relationship.

[Viva]

No, I don't call or e-mail until I feel like meeting again or vice-versa.

[altachic]

hypothetical my ass Phil....you got sum last night didn't you??

nice work. If there is an agreement, then you shouldn't feel obligated to call her, but may want to just to be nice....

[snowsprite]

Nah, I disagree Punani. The girl should not need a courtesy call. Otherwise there might be "designs" brewing or you might trigger said designs. Is the night before not a "courtesy call" in itself?

Sprite

[Zittel]

You might want to review Rev's post about "non-relationship" bonedancing.

[CaddyDaddy77]

Originally posted by Zittel
You might want to review Rev's post about "non-relationship" bonedancing.

BWAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!

[Beaver]

Originally posted by snowsprite
Nah, I disagree Punani. The girl should not need a courtesy call. Otherwise there might be "designs" brewing or you might trigger said designs. Is the night before not a "courtesy call" in itself?

Sprite

I like the way you think.

[Telenater]

merely lurking.....

[Mcwop]

SEINFELD - On episode No. 28 "The Alternate Side" he qualified seven dates for a face-to-face breakup. On episode No. 106 "The Postponement" he stated the best feature of a heavy relationship is "Make up sex-topped only by conjugal-visit sex. And on episode No. 34 "The Boyfriend" he revealed the biggest step in a male relationship is helping a guy move-"It's like going all the way." According to Jerry's friend Cosmo Kramer (Michael Richards) on episode No. 57 "The Implant," attending a funeral of a girlfriend's loved one is like "10 dates in one shot." In regards to personal relationships Jerry Seinfeld offered these samples of the four worst words in the English language. They were: "We have to talk"; and "Who's bra is this?" See also SEX TECHNIQUES: "The Move" and "The Swirl"

[Turkey]

Props on the Seinfield info!!!

[Crinkle]

Originally posted by Viva
No, I don't call or e-mail until I feel like meeting again or vice-versa.

Your right hand gets email???

[The AD]

Originally posted by snowsprite
Only call if you really want to for some reason, like to talk or to make a date or something.

Now wait just a minute. Aren't the terms "date" and "booty call" mutually exclusive?

[Viva]

Originally posted by Crinkle
Your right hand gets email???

Hi right hand, this is penis. Those testicles are driving me nuts again! Whatcha doing tonight?

[Skidawg]

Originally posted by Telephil
This is a hypothetical question only.

So, normally a rendevous of that sort would warrant a phone call the next day, if you were interested in the girl. So, if there is no interest on either side, just an agreement, are you still supposed to call the next day?

No.

Depending on the frequency of your "interactions", I will say that keeping in pseudo-casual contact is essential. Maybe once a week or so if you don't see them that often.

Of course, that's hypotheticly speaking......

[jayfrizzo]

I just want to know how Church Elders would feel about this.


J-

PS: Change your sig. It's you who's money, baby.

[The Reverend Floater]

Absolutely not!

And take it from me....Make sure you're not going to want to hook up with her roommate down the road, on top of that.

[Beaver]

I've always manitained that a casual relationship must not go beyond 3 "dates." Anymore than that and someone will start to develop an attachment and begin to expect more from the relationship. It really does not matter if you call or not if you plan to max out after 3 "Dates." If that is the case, after each of the first two "dates" you call her and string her along to get your next "date" lined up. After the third it is over and you should not call her. If however, you run into her after 3 or more months another "3 dates" is acceptable.

[Beaver]

Originally posted by The Reverend Floater
Absolutely not!

And take it from me....Make sure you're not going to want to hook up with her roommate down the road, on top of that.

How'd that turn out? I must have missed that thread.

[yogachik]

If you want to sleep with her again, call her in about 3 days (keeps her from getting any ideas, but still friendly and open to future romps).
I'm with Altachic, though. It's a nice gesture to call the next day...

[Platinum Pete]

Don't call the next day, but keep in some kind of contact. If you reduce the only contact to "can I come over/you wanna come over" this arrangement won't last as long. Plus, if you call her casually and just chat or see her around socially, you'll ward off the gossippers - which can be deadly to these arraqngements.

[altagirl]

Jerry: But of course, we'd have to figure out a way to avoid the things that cause the little problems. Maybe some rules or something.


Elaine: Huh.


Jerry: For example, now, I call you whenever I'm inclined and vice versa.


Elaine: Right.


Jerry: But if we did that, we might feel a certain obligation to call.


Elaine: Well why should that be? Oh, I have an idea. I have an idea. No call the day after that.


Jerry: Beautiful. Let's make it a rule.


Elaine: All right, sir.