'Cheatin' Hearts' a poll of maggot infidelity

**Canuk** · 05-26-2006, 09:15 AM

Originally Posted by Woodsy

I have had no honour; but need to now.
hopefully this leopard can change his spots.

yeah...I hear ya.

**XtrPickels** · 05-26-2006, 09:15 AM

Originally Posted by flatlander#2

I believe that technically coveting another person sexually, imagining another person nekkid or in a sexual situation, going to a boobie bar and jamming money at some honey, confiding in another person of the opposite or attractive sex you relationship troubles is a no-no.

When you're truly in love with an amazing person, these things don't even cross your mind. Not that I'm the type of person to hit strip clubs, but now all I have is one girl on my mind and thats all I want.

been cheated on
never cheated.

**yentna** · 05-26-2006, 09:27 AM

People aren't blind, and you can't expect them to be. But there's a difference between noticing and lusting after....I think it's that distinction that matters....

You can be with someone you love, and still notice that a chick is hot, or a guy is sexy. And just because you notice them, it doesn't mean you'll start having fantasies, or want to go jump them, or be destined to cheat.

it just means you're human. It's the ability to notice the attractive person, then turn back to the person you love without a second thought and smile at how good you have it with him/her.

**The AD** · 05-26-2006, 09:34 AM

Originally Posted by yentna

it just means you're human. It's the ability to notice the attractive person, then turn back to the person you love without a second thought and smile at how good you have it with him/her.

..and never cry out the person you're fantasizing about's name when you're in the throes of passion!

**girlski0912** · 05-26-2006, 09:34 AM

Originally Posted by yentna

it just means you're human. It's the ability to notice the attractive person, then turn back to the person you love without a second thought and smile at how good you have it with him/her.

Exactly. Though there is the torture of temptation, it is easy tor esist when you think about what you have and how chances are such temptation could never make you as happy.

Been cheated on, been the unknowing party to cheating (someone else cheated with me...two different people...why even bother getting married if you aren't faithful???). Did the dumb drunk makeout thing and my sig other at the time was AMAZINGLY understanding (you know who you are).

Cheating is stupid, period. Don't be a chicken shit.

**Tippster** · 05-26-2006, 09:40 AM

Originally Posted by The AD

..and never cry out the person you're fantasizing about's name when you're in the throes of passion!

OH MRS THATCHER!!!!

**GoldMember** · 05-26-2006, 09:42 AM

^^^ EEEWWWWWWW!!!!!

**Mrs Roo** · 05-26-2006, 09:51 AM

I have been the person the other person has cheated with once (I was not aware and ended it as soon as I found out) though I've never cheated myself.

Once I was walking down the road with a beau who had 'not quite finished' with his girlfriend. All of a sudden I was shoved into a shop doorway because she was walking our way. But guess what! She was walking down the road with another guy! Everybody was happy

(except for me as I was somewhat ruffled by the man handling).

**flatNshallow** · 05-26-2006, 10:13 AM

Does my ex blowing the dog on web cam for some random interweb douchebag qualify as being cheated on?

Edit: and should I be concerned if the phrase "justifiable homicide" comes to mind whenever I ponder this event?

**flatlander#2** · 05-26-2006, 10:15 AM

ruffled man handling...this was a Brit, right?

**grrrr** · 05-26-2006, 10:17 AM

I think the whole "when is it over" issue can certainly muddy the determination of whether is it cheating. I would hold that it must be clearly expressed to the dumpee...although it can be hard for the dumpee, and I know from my standpoint I have felt like the new girl should be hid from the dumpee to spare her bad feelings. The "kinda-sorta" over isn't over. When you say "it's over", and you get your shit out, and the world knows it's over, then it's over. And the fat lady can cry all shewants to about it.

**Kiki** · 05-26-2006, 10:19 AM

[QUOTE=Conundrum]Oh and yes, I've cheated on a technicallity. It was a girl I lived with in college for a bit. We both knew we were on the way out and discussed it. The decision was to wait until the lease was up to technically break up. Thinking back, this is the dumbest thing I've ever heard of.
QUOTE]

I have been in this exact situation. Damn I hate technicalities! I do have to say, when you know its over its OVER!!!! The guy I "cheated" with I am still with for 3 years now. He is the best thing to have ever happened to me. Plus he is great (at everything)

. 3 years later we are still perfectly happy. Its crazy to think that I "cheated" with my future husband!

**telebabe** · 05-26-2006, 10:29 AM

Does it count if I cheated when i wasn't emotionally connected?? I moved to be with this guy, out of state. 7 months later, when I was planning on moving back home and I cheated. (although I hadn't told him yet that it was over....) I guess that IS cheating.

oh well, all in the past now!

**frozenwater** · 05-26-2006, 10:29 AM

I dated a married girl for about 3 months back when I was 19. My first hint that everything was not kosher probably should have been when her 4 year old daughter was dropped off earlier than mommy expected by grandma and busted in on us.

Man, that shit will SCAR a 19 year old. (and probably wasn't really great for the 4 year old).

Daddy was a marine out fighting in the first gulf war at the time. MY BAD

**Viva** · 05-26-2006, 10:38 AM

Originally Posted by flatNshallow

Does my ex blowing the dog on web cam for some random interweb douchebag qualify as being cheated on?

As long as it's your dog and not some random mutt she met during Happy Hour at the kennel, it's probably okay.

**Woodsy** · 05-26-2006, 10:41 AM

Originally Posted by frozenwater

I dated a married girl for about 3 months back when I was 19. My first hint that everything was not kosher probably should have been when her 4 year old daughter was dropped off earlier than mommy expected by grandma and busted in on us.

Man, that shit will SCAR a 19 year old. (and probably wasn't really great for the 4 year old).

Daddy was a marine out fighting in the first gulf war at the time. MY BAD

were ya doin the Lard's wark at the time?

**Monique** · 05-26-2006, 10:47 AM

I heard a rumor that Girlski's avatar is cheating with some Jong called Kiki and doesn't even have the decency to hide it. Shame, shame, shame.

**Viva** · 05-26-2006, 10:51 AM

Originally Posted by Monique

Girlski's avatar apparently is cheating with Kiki, and doesn't even have the decency to hide it. Shame, shame, shame.

I thought maybe girlski had Multiple Personality Disorder. Not that that's a bad thing, especially if the other personalities fall under the purview of being a raging nympho.

**Shaggy** · 05-26-2006, 11:58 AM

Speaking of Multiple Personalities .... If an MPD person masterbates, and the other personalities don't agree ... is it rape?

**erica_z** · 05-26-2006, 12:10 PM

funny this post should come up. I would fall into the category of: "just found out she was cheated on."

my high school sweetheart broke up with me tuesday. I found out on Wednesday that he has been seeing a girl for a couple of weeks.

(well, I guess he's been doing it since the weekend of the Mammoth Mini! the bastard. )

i've felt pretty shitty the last couple of days. Our relationship lasted almost 9 years. Last night when I went to pick up his half of the rent, I asked him again if there was someone else, and he still lied to me. Didnt have the guts to tell me. He cried like his life was over when we talked last night. It was really weird.

So Im moving off to Mammoth and trying to wipe the slate clean. I didnt deserve what happened to me. I was blindsided, and it sucks. But alot of nice people have told me that its not the end of the world, and Im generally an optimist, and I am going to believe them. This is just an opportunity for me to grow on my own and be the "captain of my own ship. "

I need to start this new chapter in my life and move on and hope that someday, he will get his come-uppance. Til then, Ive got alot of living to do.

**snowsprite** · 05-26-2006, 12:13 PM

Originally Posted by Shaggy

Speaking of Multiple Personalities .... If an MPD person masterbates, and the other personalities don't agree ... is it rape?

If they do agree is it group sex?

Sprite

**snowsprite** · 05-26-2006, 12:15 PM

Originally Posted by erica_z

I need to start this new chapter in my life and move on and hope that someday, he will get his come-uppance. Til then, Ive got alot of living to do.

Erica, I'm sorry to hear about the break-up.

Keep your chin up, and you do indeed have a lot of good things ahead of you--stay focused on that. Here's to hoping they start happening to you soon.

Sprite

**StroupSkier** · 05-26-2006, 12:30 PM

Originally Posted by white

What if you're on the outs and heading towards break up and then you cheat with someone else who's much better for you, partly because you think you're being cheated on?

Maybe i'll just go to purgatory instead of hell...

Have to disagree. By cheating on your current when you meet someone "better" for you, you are only setting the stage for this to happen again.

If I met a girl who was seeing someone else, and cheated on them with me, there is absolutely no way I could ever trust my heart to them.

**bklyn** · 05-26-2006, 12:42 PM

Where's that magic 8 ball when you need him?

I'd ask:
"Will Erica be single for much longer?"

It would respond:
"My Sources Say No"

**lemon boy** · 05-26-2006, 12:44 PM

yeah...the question erica should be asking herself is:
if you hook up with a new guy less than 24hrs after breaking up with the old one..is it cheating?

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