What do you do for a guy who's life is falling apart?

[yentna]

I hate to be the one playing devil's advocate, but we're bashing this woman without knowing her side of the story. No, I DON'T think it's cool that she took all their shit with now warning, but then, what if she paid for it all? What if she'd been trying to work out the relationship but it wasn't happening? What if breaking-up had been discussed, but he wasn't going for it?

The point is, we don't know the whole story, and calling her a bitch and advising to go bash her stuff isn't really helpful. What we DO know only comes one sided.

Yes, the dude needs his friend's support, and any breakup is emotionally draining, I feel horribly that he's going through all these problems, and wicked_sick is awesome for being there for him. That's what we should focus on, not calling the woman names. Who here hasn't had a breakup? Who here hasn't had a hard time ending a relationship at one point or another?

(And, just so you know, only 14 or so states in this country recognize common-law marriages, and in those states it takes longer than 1-3 years, AND the couple has to make a point of representing they are married. Therefore, that doesn't apply here.)

[wicked_sick]

By canadian law they are considered a common law couple, but it's hardly worth the effort just to get back a few measly posessions. We're having a freedom barbecue for him right now, and tomorrow we're going shopping for new curtains (she took 'em) so he landlord cant look into our house from her living room and a sweet poster that I'll make a frame for. It'll be the new TV.

Good point, yentna. Yes, he probably did deserve to be dumped, but in my personal opinion, taking everything with no notice, discussion thought of coming to some sort of agreement was kind of a dick maneuver.

She's a nice girl that is easily influenced by her friends. I have a feeling that they played a big part in the whole situation. Either way I think everything will work out, and He really appreciated all your guys' show of support. He says there are hope for internet people after all

[yentna]

There is no hope for internet people. I'm glad it's looking up for him.

[meatdrink9]

Right now he may feel like he's not in control of his situation, but for me whenever shit hits the fan I like to work my ass off. "OK, this sucks, what do I have to do get things right again?" Make a list of all the creditors owed, how much and at what interest rate. Prioritize who gets paid first. Pick up a first job, second job, third job whatever. Get out from under that burden. After a day of hard work, knowing that you've pulled your weight for the day and bettered your situation then go get destroyed with yuor friends (pregame to save money). Then get up the next morning and work your balls off again. Nothing will make you feel more self worth than good hard work. As for the girl...he's free. After those days of hard work he can chase all the tail he wants with the guys.