Posivibes needed (NSR)

[irul&ublo]

Good call.
It's never too late.

Start by telling her something totally shitty and embarrasing about yourself that you have never told anyone else before.

Not something that would freak/gross her out, just something that would make her feel special knowing that you told her.......and only her.

Max...

I recommend that you stay away from the hand job story you told your GF.

[Lloyd Braun]

What an incredible story....sad none the less....but incredible. Sorry about this and +++++++++++++++++++++ sent to all involved.

Max,

Make sure your sister gets an attorney before talking to the police again......very important............very very very important. Cops are cops and if they can find a way to involve your sister to the events that led to the death, she could be charged with some kind of crime. DON'T TALK TO THE POLICE WITHOUT AN ATTORNEY PRESENT!

PS call your sis and tell her you love her!

[Plakespear]

+~+~+~+~+~+~+~+~+~+~+~+~+~+
Miami= bad idea. Scarface is based on a true story.

All of you who have sisters, or even female cousins or freinds: If they are dating assholes, let them know immediately. I have seen bad things happen in my own family, and every time we say to each other "I could have seen that coming". If you see it coming, act before it comes.

[ak_powder_monkey]

shit man thats completely fucked up, I really hope it turns into good for your sister and she cleans up a bit. Theres a fine line between having fun and having a problem everybody wants to think that they are just having fun if they have a problem. Best of luck to her and many positive vibes sent.

[Max Gosey]

I had thought she had walked in to find her boyfriend mangled, but it's worse than all that.

Apparently the kid was on his side when all this happened. My sister woke up facing him to see her boyfriend dead with half his face missing. The dog took away tissue from his chin up to his ear. She will NEVER get that image out of her head.

Have no idea how, but as far as we can tell she is holding it together really well. I left her a message saying "I know what you've been through and I want to help in any way I can... call me ANY time of day or night if you feel like talking". Not sure if she will but I want her to know she can.

My dad plays golf with a good attorney (they're good buddies), so I would imagine that she is well covered in that respect.

Thanks for the support, guys. It helps.

[MeatPuppet]

Daaaaaamn!

My sister was in a similar situation when she was 19. Only it was her lesbian lover who died in a drug deal gone bad. My sister was supposed to go to the buy, but she couldn't make it so she asked her girlfriend to go instead.

Eleven years later my sister is happily married to a great guy and has a beautiful 3 month old little girl.

My sister's lover dieing was the turning point. I hope your sister's tragedy can be a turning point for her as well.

BTW, if she is in Lousiana, get her the hell out of there.

[Toby]

This:

"I know what you've been through and I want to help in any way I can... call me ANY time of day or night if you feel like talking"

is waay better than this:

"is there anything I can do for you to help you?"

The 2nd one is impersonal. If you wanna get close, you've gotta get personal. Not for me to put words in your mouth, but I'da been saying something like "Damn, this situation scared the shit out of me and made me realise how much I love you. I can't even imagine how fucking scary it must've been for you. It sucks that we live so far apart. I miss you and really want to see you - can we hang out together this weekend?" etc.

Anyway +++ vibes for your sis.

[Monique]

Really sorry to hear your sis' story. You're a good man to be so concerned about her, and I have to believe your efforts reach her at some level whether or not she's able to show you it matters.

My folks stuck with my bro stubbornly through some really hard years and terrible events on his part and, despite his total rejection of their efforts then, he now acknowledges that's what helped him pull through.