Posivibes needed (NSR)

[cmsummit]

Whats wrong with that dog?

i'd say the poor pooch was just hungry.

[Seldom Seen]

+++++++++++++++++vibes++++++++++++

i dont have any advice in regards to a sister specifically, but i had to do an intervention type thing with my brother and convince him that if he kept livin like a rockstar, he might end up like one.... specifically Jimi, Janis, Jim, Belushi, etc.

It sure as hell wasnt easy and i think its a relatively different situation that the one you are in, but PM me if you want advice from what i had to go through. In hindsight, he acknowledges that i probably saved his life, which is pretty cool
-SS

[MassLiberal]

Max, scary shit. I have a sister, and we have gone through some things in our family which can relate to this. All I will say is Miami is a horrible idea. Miami is a city of trouble and if your sis is already having issues with drugs and alcohol, keep her the fuck away from that city, especially following something so traumatic.

If you want any advice regarding anything, let me know, I've seen my fair share of alcoholism and addiction, and have some ideas as to how to best cope with the issues that surround it.

[FiveLarge]

Just to clarify, Max...I'm not trying to make a big deal of what I wrote, so you needn't feel attacked in the least...not my intention. This is a VERY sad and tragic situation for everyone involved. I hope/pray that everyone receives the help/healing they need and that the best possible can come out of this for everyone.

[EPSkis]

Repeat to her what you just posted.
Tell her how much you love her but you just don't know how to say things like that.

Give her a hug.

Tell her that you want to move her far away from there.
Tell her to come to the mountains.
Summer is just around the corner if she doesn't like the cold.
She could get a job.....like Tipp said.......and just chill for a while.
There are x-ray technician schools all over the country.
That is no excuse for sticking around there.
She can get into one anywhere.

HELP HER, wether she wants it or not. If she's thirsty, get her some fucking water.
If she's hungry, make her a sandwich.
If she's cold, throw another log on the fire.
You need to let her know that you are there for her by your actions....not just words.
Look out for her.
Show her you have a deep rooted concern for her but, keep it lively, stay positive, and don't pretend like this is the worst thing that could happen to her.
Because really, this isn't that bad.
It could've been her.
HELP HER any way you can.

And THAT about covers it. Well done, A-wreck.

[Son1cdeth]

Sorry to hear about that Max.

As tough as it might be for you 'guys', your going to have to be a positive force in her life right now. Right now she might not want to hear it, but you can't dwell on that, people are in a screwy state of mind after something like this happens. Looking back she'll be grateful for you being there for her.

How was she holding up when you were there? Any 'end of the world', 'he was all I had' signals?

She proabably shouldn't be alone right now. Especially if the boys parents are giving her the guilt trip.

[FiveLarge]

Well done, A-wreck.

Ditto...lots of good thoughts there...

[bc]

+++++++++++++ Vibes

To your sister, hope she recovers from this with the support of caring family and friends.

[FrankZappa]

++++++++++++ posivibes to your whole family - esp. sister +++++++++++++



My $.02: You all might consider talking to the local "Post tramatic" team if there is one (ask cops or FF's...) before you jump the gun and bail. - just so you all get "qualified" advise & can make the best judgement call collectively...

[warthog]

Wow, don't know what to say. That is fucked up. Was he dead before the dog got to him? It would seem not, since once the heart stops, blood don't flow. Right?

As far as the other stuff, I can only say one thing. Keep her the hell away from Miami. I have seen straight shooters get wrecked by that city. It is one of my least favourite places on this earth.

Get her to Boulder. At least the drug addicts there are a peaceful sort.

[warthog]

Max, scary shit. I have a sister, and we have gone through some things in our family which can relate to this. All I will say is Miami is a horrible idea. Miami is a city of trouble and if your sis is already having issues with drugs and alcohol, keep her the fuck away from that city, especially following something so traumatic.

If you want any advice regarding anything, let me know, I've seen my fair share of alcoholism and addiction, and have some ideas as to how to best cope with the issues that surround it.

I see the "Biggest City in South America" won you over too. Don't be fooled by the glitzy South Beach and Coral Gables facade. That place is 100% pure shit, and we would all be better if Global Warming submerged it into Biscayne Bay.

[sea2ski]

Positive vibes sent.

I also don't know if Miami would be a place I would recomend to send her to as far as getting away from a drug influenced/crime lifestyle. Events like this can work positively (person examines life and changes for better) or negatively (person tries to escape feelings by drug use) and Miami has been too much of a temptation for a few people I've known.

[teledave]

As far as the other stuff, I can only say one thing. Keep her the hell away from Miami. I have seen straight shooters get wrecked by that city. It is one of my least favourite places on this earth.

History of substance abuse + Miami = Bad Trouble

Keep her away from there.

[MassLiberal]

I see the "Biggest City in South America" won you over too. Don't be fooled by the glitzy South Beach and Coral Gables facade. That place is 100% pure shit, and we would all be better if Global Warming submerged it into Biscayne Bay.

True, one of the few benefits of global warming. No more Miami.

[dirtybryan]

I've have no advice to give just ++++++++vibes+++++++++

[irul&ublo]

I gotta say Max, you've had an eventful year. Aside from helping your sister, take some time for yourself and chill.

Your parents probably ought to do the same thing.

[Tippster]

Max: If you don't know "how" to talk to your sis no wonder your relationship is crap.

She is your sister. You say to her what you want, what you feel, what you love, hate, anything..... There's nothing that you cannot talk to her about. My Sis and I talk about EVERYTHING. I knew about her first period before my Mom did (save it, kids - it's a BFD to an 11yo girl and she was freaked.) She knew about my drug addiction before anyone did. If there's one person who baring your soul to should be absolutely safe it's your sibling.

Do what A-wreck said. That post was awesome.

Since you have no history of discourse I would save the "I think you should..." conversations 'til much later. She'll only think that you're a dick for only talking to her when you want her to do your bidding. Establish a track record of being open, non-judgmental, and available WHENEVER. If she calls you in the middle of the night, talk to her. Don't put it off 'til the morning - do it right then.

Did I mention leaving the judgmental shit behind?

[Alioops]

Sympathy aside......if I ever got myself in that situation my parents and sister would take my ass and lock me up until I got my head straight (no matter what my age).

Sorry to hear that you and your family are dealing with this.

[Max Gosey]

Irul, all of new orleans, particularly my family has gone through a lot in the last 5 years. My sister especially.

I think I'm going to call her now and say "is there anything I can do for you to help you?" That one is pretty positive, yes?

Anyway, the whole pre-mortem/post-mortem thing with the dog was kind of a big deal, but as far as we know, he was out before the dog got to him. They put the dog down anyway.

Tippster: my brother and I have the kind of relationship that you and your sister have. My brother is 7 years older than I am, so I guess it's kind of weird that we are closer than my sister and I, and we're only a year apart. I've always kinda wished we were closer, and this may be an opportunity to establish that.

That's all for today, but thanks to you guys for galvanizing me into support mode and for all your positive thoughts, advice, and vibes. This is a great place.

[Sutter]

+++++++++++++positive vibes to your clan, Max+++++++++++++++++

[summit]

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[Sensisnow]

++++++++Vibes++++++++

[MarsB]

I've always kinda wished we were closer, and this may be an opportunity to establish that.

You got it Max. Now is the time to develop that relationship. My sister and I are lucky to have always been close, and I have always felt this is a blessing. Like Tip and A-Wreck have said, let her know you are there for her, save any judgement, and help her through this.

[A-wreck]

I've always kinda wished we were closer, and this may be an opportunity to establish that.

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Good call.
It's never too late.

Start by telling her something totally shitty and embarrasing about yourself that you have never told anyone else before.

Not something that would freak/gross her out, just something that would make her feel special knowing that you told her.......and only her.

[Blurred]

Max, that story is nuts.

As far as your sister goes, you may just have to wait for her to grow out of the stage she's in. Getting close to her may help a lot. Good luck.