Posivibes needed (NSR)

[Max Gosey]

This was posted in another thread, but someone convinced me it was an inappropriate place. So here is the lowdown:

My sister was "dating" some guy that my parents didn't like very much. They were fucking Bonnie and Clyde, stealing stuff and taking drugs and all kinds of sketchy shit together. He was NOT good to my sister, and I have heard he pulled a knife on her more than once, so the following kind of serves him right:

This kid (19 or 20) and my sister (19) were partying a little too hard this past Friday night, taking what we would assume were methadone and some kinds of painkillers or something and were certainly drinking a lot. At some point during the late night/morning, my sister awoke to find the kid next to her lying in his own vomit, DEAD. He had aspirated and DIED.

The worst, most traumatizing part, is that my sister was taking care of one of her friends' pit bull. The dog had MANGLED THE KID'S FACE! I'm not sure if the dog was still going to town on him when my sister woke up (and I hope to god it wasn't), but at any rate, that is some pretty freaky shit. As Nicolas Cage said: "face... [pause] off".

My dad and I went over to see her just after we had heard what happened (her house isn't far from ours) and went into the bedroom to see what it was we could clean. There was a good 150 cc's of blood loss at least just on the sheets, and the blood hadn't even dried. It was pretty fucking eerie.

My sister is gonna need some support and posivibes for sure. She doesn't seem eager to get support from us, so more posivibes could hopefully compensate a little.

As sad as it is, it's an opportunity for her. After the next month or two of mourning, we all hope she'll realize that what she had was not, by ANY means, what a relationship should be and find some guy who will treat her right and take her to dinner instead of buy her a dime bag. I'm really hoping this will catalyze her getting her life back together because we all know she has the potential to do good things.

Anyway, any positive thoughts you could give would be much appreciated. For her sake more than mine.

[A-wreck]

Dude, go get your sister and take her far, far away from Louisiana.


edit for: Seriously, why isn't she in a nice college town like you are?
edit for: Maybe I don't want to know but, seriously, take your sister away from Louisiana.

[Z]

Damn Max. That is FUCKED.

++++++

[Below Zero]

Holy shit, my jaw just dropped!

+++++++++vibes to your sis.

[cmsummit]

Damn Max. That is FUCKED.

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what Z said.

++++++vibes++++++

[CUBUCK]

That is fucked up. Positive Vibes on there way.

Agree with A-wreck, get her out of there and somewhere new i.e. the mountains. Worked for my brother.

[Dside11-11]

Dude, that was chilling. I am very sorry your sister (you and your dad as well) had to witness something like that. Hopefully it changes her life for the better.

Whoa. That's fucked up.

Many plus signs comin' at ya.

+++++++++++++

[marshalolson]

pozi vibes ---->>> +++++++++

seriously hoping your sister can see this as a wakeup call, and realize how easily it could have been her

[teledave]

Max, that is WAY fucked up!

Positive vibes for your sister, definitely, but also for you you and your whole family.

Get her some help man. Whatever it takes to save her from herself, hopefully this will wake her up into wanting it.

[Kya]

Bummer, but I hope this helps your sister to wake up, and change the path she has choosen. Good luck to her. +++++++++++++

[RootSkier]

Wow. Good luck to your sister and all y'all down there.








Now get the fuck out.

[Tippster]

Damn, Max. As a brother with a sister I empathise. Get her to go back to boulder w/you, live on yer couch for a bit, and have her get a job in some hippy store on Pearl St. Get her the fuck outta Slidell for a while to decompress and regain some sanity.

[DJMingus]

Positive energy coming your family's way Max. Best of luck to your sis in getting some balance into her life.

[smolakian]

Holy FUCKIN A!
That is some seriously fucked shit. I'm really sorry your sister had to go through that. Maybe it will be better for her in the long run. But, just make sure you keep an eye out for signs of depression. She is gonna need some real big support in the near term.

[EPSkis]

Damn, Max.

I agree - tell her to pack a bag & take her the hell away from there. ANYWHERE else.

[PaSucks]

Get her some fucking therapy man. She already needed it, now she REALLY needs it.

Positive vibes too.

[FiveLarge]

so the following kind of serves him right:

Seems a little harsh. By no means is pulling a knife on your sister or whatever other mistreatment she was subjected to by him ok in the least, but to say those actions warranted his death and face being mauled by a pit bull? All I'm saying...have some mercy, here. This guy clearly needed some help that he never received/accepted. His life is done...his parents/family/friends lost someone, and there is no second chance for him.

For sure, you have my prayers for your sister and your family, too.

[Max Gosey]

Dude, go get your sister and take her far, far away from Louisiana.


edit for: Seriously, why isn't she in a nice college town like you are?
edit for: Maybe I don't want to know but, seriously, take your sister away from Louisiana.

First of all: Damn. Not 20 minutes and good thoughts from 12 people already. Thanks, guys. I appreciate it.

Second of all, in reference to A-Wreck and the other guys suggesting to get my sister away: she's here because my parents have wanted her a little closer to home, which in turn has made her much more comfortable at home. How much this will change that, I don't know, but I'm hoping that she might want to get away. Thing is, she applied for an x-ray tech spot in the school here and has a decent chance of getting in.

She doesn't like the mountains/cold much, but my brother just moved into a new place in Miami. I would like to get a chance to talk to her and just see how she's feeling but because of our lack of closeness, it feels hard to do that without upsetting her.

Tippster: were you and your sis close when you were 18 or 20? If not (as in my situation) how would you handle talking stuff out with her if you genuinely wanted to help (as I do). Me and my dad aren't very good with this deep emotional stuff in part because we are guys but also because of our nature. When we went over to see my sister I couldn't bring myself to say anything because I had no idea what to say. My dad wasn't quite as bad, but about 15 words were exchanged the whole time we were there (about 20 min before she kicked us out). So if in addition to support you guys could offer a little advice on how to comfort her as a brother, I'd really appreciate that, for BOTH our sakes.

Thanks very much to all you guys.

[A-wreck]

but to say those actions warranted his death and face being mauled by a pit bull? All I'm saying...have some mercy, here. .

Do you have a sister?

I do.

And I'd personally eat the face of any man who pulled a knife on her.

[FiveLarge]

Do you have a sister?

I do.

And I'd personally eat the face of any man who pulled a knife on her.

I do have a sister...and I'll leave it at that. Not really looking for a debate...

[adam]

Scary shite Max.

+++++vibes+++++

[Max Gosey]

Ya, "serves him right" may be a little extreme. As harsh as it is, from what we know the kid would never amount to much of anything. We wanted him out of my sister's life and away from us (and particularly her) forever, but not this way. We tried all forms of separation, and my sister got to being ambivalent about it, undecided whether she loved him or hated him. Always seemed to go back to him no matter how badly he treated her. So this may have been the only way to end the relationship definitively, and we are glad it's over but we wished so vigorously that it could have ended some other way.

So after some contemplation, I will send positive vibes to his family right now. Mr and Ms. Breland, hope you guys are pulling through ok. (And QUIT FUCKING BLAMING MY SISTER FOR WHAT HAPPENED!!!!)

That was one of the worst parts. The kid's parents went to her house shortly after the place was cleaned up a little bit and looked my sister in the eyes and said "how could you let this happen?" THAT was harsh (and totally uncalled for).

[mrw]

intervention time

[Tuckerman]

The dog had MANGLED THE KID'S FACE!.

Whats wrong with that dog? ++++++++++vibs+++++++++ for your sister.

[A-wreck]

So if in addition to support you guys could offer a little advice on how to comfort her as a brother, I'd really appreciate that, for BOTH our sakes.

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Repeat to her what you just posted.
Tell her how much you love her but you just don't know how to say things like that.

Give her a hug.

Tell her that you want to move her far away from there.
Tell her to come to the mountains.
Summer is just around the corner if she doesn't like the cold.
She could get a job.....like Tipp said.......and just chill for a while.
There are x-ray technician schools all over the country.
That is no excuse for sticking around there.
She can get into one anywhere.

HELP HER, wether she wants it or not. If she's thirsty, get her some fucking water.
If she's hungry, make her a sandwich.
If she's cold, throw another log on the fire.
You need to let her know that you are there for her by your actions....not just words.
Look out for her.
Show her you have a deep rooted concern for her but, keep it lively, stay positive, and don't pretend like this is the worst thing that could happen to her.
Because really, this isn't that bad.
It could've been her.
HELP HER any way you can.