WWMD: psychotic bitch!! (rant)

[TomK]

Corn: you can't tell anybody anything about the person they're in love with. You will never win, they'll never hear you. People aren't done until they're done. ....

So true. "You cannot use reason to argue a person out of a position they did not reason themselves into in the first place."

Unfortunatly, It's hard to see any happy outcome for "R".
A house built on lies will not stand.

[slim]

Some guys just like complete bitches. It could be just that simple.

[crashnburn'd]

anyone else have a best friend marry a controlling insane person? how did it turn out?

Wow... You're story sounds exactly like one of my friends from college. Even down to the magazine intercept and the fact they're both from MN. Only difference is she's 'R', not him.

Anyways, he's engaged to one of the bitchiest/sluttiest girl I've ever met (you know them crazy Minnesotan bitches). I'm not sure how it'll end up, but given the fact that there's no trust and really no relationship I'm guessing it won't be good.

I apparently warned him about her in a not so friendly manner when they first met, we got in a fight and thrown out of the bar we were at. Neither of us remembered, so it was all good the next morning. After that I've pretty much tried to keep my opinion about those things to myself.

Good luck, continue to be his friend and support him, should something happen once they're married.

[Mott the Hoople]

Run away...far far away as fast as you can. They're both PSYCHO

[TWINS]

It's a waste of time to try to stop someone from getting married. I had a friend who was told by almost every one of his friend's including myself that he was making a mistake in marrying his first wife. Well, now he has alimony to remind him we were probably correct.

I relive it monthly.Some people learn the hard way,myself included.A pysco will never change for the better.My ex seems to be getting worse with time.I feel sorry for anyone that has to make the same mistake that I did.

[TWINS]

I just read the rest of the posts and I feel compelled to tell my awful story.My ex impressed me with her USC degree and CIA job when we first met.I knew she was a control freak after I found out by accident that she ran a illegal background profile on me.I told her I wanted to postpone the wedding and she cried so hard that she ended up hyperventilating and collapsing .I gave in and went through with it thinking that things would mellow out after the wedding.She got worse after the wedding.She was a tramp when I married her and now she has gone the other way,a bona fide bible thumping born again who judges everyone except herself and cannot do any wrong.Again I feel sorry for your friend because life is so short. I am married again now to a Maggette who rips as hard as I do.Hopefully he will come to his senses but I doubt it.

[snowfire]

wow TWINS, that sucks. I'd like to think there arent' really people like that out there, but unfortunately too many people have stories to tell that make me know better. Now I see it firsthand. Ugh.

R knows I think she's psycho. All I said to him was "has she changed since last I saw her?" "uh, not really." "ok, are you sure about this?" "well, yeah, I went back and forth for a long time and one day it just seemed right... " "ok, well, congratulations then."

He knows I don't want him, he's like a big brother to me. And he knows I'll support him if she's the one he really wants to marry. I just don't see anything but turmoil for them in the future, and I hate to see him stuck with that, but I can't do anything about it and I know that.

LAN, don't really get the seventeen comment... something derogatory, I think, but whatever. These people aren't 17, they're 26, and they're making a lifetime commitment which R will take very seriously.

[El Chupacabra]

He should buy a Jeep Cherokee. That'll fix it.

[Mulletizer]

Must suck to be as insecure are her. Not that it makes anything ok.

[farmasea]

stop this marriage before they produce children

[Arty50]

I have a question. Why should you have to change who you are when you're around them? You're friends with R because of who you are, not who you're pretending to be when you're around the psycho. I know we all make sacrifices for friends, but sometimes when doing so we actually do everyone a disservice.

Every situation is different, and so maybe this doesn't apply. But it's definitely something to think about.

[Free Range Lobster]

Some guys just like complete bitches. It could be just that simple.

complete bitches take it in the pooper.
hense why some guys like them.

[Mrs Roo]

You can't rule out the possibility that that's what R wants. He may actually be attracted to this kind of shit -- whether he admits it or not. It may make him feel special and wanted in a way that a healthy relationship can't. And he is probably rationalizing not leaving her because of how much she needs him -- that's par for the course with giving into her and getting engaged.

This is a very important point. You'd be suprised how often this happens. How secure/confident a person is he? Has he had many girlfriends? Are his ex's similar? It won't make his situation any happier though.

Make it known what you think (to him) but tell him you'll support his decision. You're unlikely to stop this but he will appreciate that you've been honest with him in the future, yet supportive.

[Beaver]

So...
R made some comment about his favorite place to have sex,

So... Where is R's favorite place to have sex?

[irul&ublo]

So... Where is R's favorite place to have sex?

"That would be in the butt, Bob."

[13]

Some people just weren't born with the part of their brain that screams "danger" when it's necessary.

That or the brain signals "awesome" when it really means "danger."

[A-wreck]

Some people just weren't born with the part of their brain that screams "danger" when it's necessary.

That or the brain signals "awesome" when it really means "danger."

I must admit, sometimes, the things you say, are a bit "out there".

[L7]

Where's 8 ball when you need him?

They will break up or get divorced. But in the meantime "R" will enjoy all the psycho girl blowjobs and pooperhausen he can get, because she gives it up good.

Christ you never cease to amaze me. You must have grown up in a house with just brothers ( in the sibling sense that is).

Good stuff and I sure can't argue the accuracy.

[TWINS]

Some people just weren't born with the part of their brain that screams "danger" when it's necessary.

That or the brain signals "awesome" when it really means "danger."

So true,I associate "danger" with "fun".Thats why I`m always getting myself in trouble.Thank god Mrs.Twins isn`t a drama queen.I would be compelled to Huck a bridge if she was.

[bklyn]

Christ you never cease to amaze me. You must have grown up in a house with just brothers ( in the sibling sense that is).

I am an only child.

[L7]

I am an only child.

Twisted in a good way at least.

[TWINS]

I am an only child.

Wise beyond your years though.Thats a good thing.

[irul&ublo]

So true,I associate "danger" with "fun".Thats why I`m always getting myself in trouble.Thank god Mrs.Twins isn`t a drama queen.I would be compelled to Huck a bridge if she was.

That's Mrs. Twins in the avatar, right?

[TWINS]

Imagine that avatar with 32B`s instead.She purchased a kids large baselayer last weekend at REI.Did I say small?

[girlski0912]

I am an only child.

And wicked in touch with the male psyche. Y'all aren't too hard to predict either.

It is hearing stories like R's that often makes me wonder why, in light of completely destructive relationships that are soooo blatantly unhealthy, people think that marriage is the answer. I would like to think that if a guy I was dating were even half as nuts as R's fiance appears to be, we wouldn't even last past the first freak out let alone get married. Then again, maybe there are things that go on behind closed doors (like she gives amazing head and takes it in the ass) that none of the rest of us are privy to when making our judgement calls. Or we are right and R should run in the other direction before she bites his head off.

What sucks even more is when it is the good catch (male or female) who gets roped into this very bad situation. You hate to see it happen to the good ones.

But honestly, R's self esteem could secretly be so low that he honestly doesn't believe that he deserves anything better. Regardless, I like the earlier idea of filming some secret tryst and mailing it to her. The only draw back may be that she comes after R or you and goes for blood.