(NSR) For Maggettes: In Search Of.....

**The Reverend Floater** · 12-16-2003, 05:40 PM

....the Elusive Fuck Buddy.

Whoa..that sounded wrong. I'm not looking for one, but I'm wondering if it's really possible. I am not an emotionally shallow guy (not particularly, anyhow), but I am capable of the understanding that allows for risk-free and strings-free sex. Now I'm not talking about the one night ride 'em and leave 'em thing here, I'm talking about a true fuck buddy, where repeat offenses are not only common, but welcomed!

In my experience this is not possible. Women are just not wired to be able to pull this off. Not that this is a bad thing, but I really haven't met a girl capable of more than, say, 4 encounters before they start talking about dinner and shit or emotional investment.

More to the point, are there steps we can take to make such a venture more possible and convenient? I really don't like hurting people's feelings or leading them on, but I do enjoy administering a propper rogering from time to time, and I don't want to date anyone right now.

Talk amongst yourselves.

**Gorillo** · 12-16-2003, 06:29 PM

You gotta stop watching sex and the city.

Samantha is a myth.

**irul&ublo** · 12-16-2003, 06:39 PM

Hey Rev, wanna meet my sisters?:

**divegirl** · 12-16-2003, 07:47 PM

Yes, it is possible.
I know this from experience.
What's the big fucking deal, when you've built up trust with this person and you're having safe sex?

As a side note, I despise people who judge women who have these types of relationships. Guys do it all the time, why can't we? And that shouldn't even be a reason for doing it, anyway!

It's the perfect solution for having fun in between relationships. Believe me, I'd much rather be getting it and be happy than not getting it and be bitchy all the time. Lovin' makes the world go round.

To each situation its own.

**Crinkle** · 12-16-2003, 07:50 PM

my wife would beg to differ.

**BobMc** · 12-16-2003, 11:58 PM

Originally posted by The Reverend Floater
I really don't like hurting people's feelings or leading them on, but I do enjoy administering a propper rogering from time to time, and I don't want to date anyone right now.

You've pretty much answered your own question.

Take what you wrote, turn it into verbal words, explain situation to potential rogering suspect. You may be surprised.

BobMc

G · 12-17-2003, 12:15 AM

Rev,

You just gotta stop hanging out with girls who have self esteem.

Good luck

**watersnowdirt** · 12-17-2003, 12:26 AM

Originally posted by Geoff
Rev,

You just gotta stop hanging out with girls who have self esteem.

Good luck

Sorry, but I don't think it's possible. That may not be the answer you want to hear, but I really don't think you'll find that many women who are down with that scenario. It's certainly possible, just not that likely. You can say women are hung up on sex, or want more "commitment,", but I don't think either of those are the reason. I agree that we're just wired differently, probably from a combo of nature/nurture. We are biologically predisposed to seek fewer partners rather than many, and add on to that all the guilt shit that society dumps on us, and well, we just take it a bit more seriously. And this isn't necessarily a bad thing. Think of the mayhem that would ensue if men could actually sleep with as many women as they wanted to do with as few consequences

Anyhow,though I sound like it, I certainly don't mean to speak for all or even many women, just my own take on things.

**jibij** · 12-17-2003, 12:30 AM

Originally posted by irul&ublo
Hey Rev, wanna meet my sisters?:

those shirts would be sweet with black stirrup pants.

edit: rev... ain't gonna happen. (not on a long-term basis anyhow)

**Dr. Crash** · 12-17-2003, 01:08 AM

Rev, try Craig's List. You'll be surprised.

drC

**Ski Monkey** · 12-17-2003, 02:19 AM

manm, i could use osure one thse fuck buddies about nows.....mmm...

**Arty50** · 12-17-2003, 05:48 AM

Originally posted by Dr. Crash
Rev, try Craig's List. You'll be surprised.

drC

No shit. When I was looking for housing a couple year ago, I came across some of the craziest stuff. Guys were offering monetarily free space in their houses in trade for a fuck buddy. The scary thing was that there were enough of these listings to make me think that women actually responded to many of them...

**altachic** · 12-17-2003, 09:49 AM

As a maggette i wish i could help ya out...i'm not one for being a "fuck buddy" it's just not my style, so i don't have any advice or pointers on this one....good luck though.

**altagirl** · 12-17-2003, 10:02 AM

It's possible, just rare. Lots of women go through times where they don't want a relationship either. Admitting to looking for a fuck-buddy relationship is probably more rare on the female side because women tend to worry more about what other people will think - justifiably, since they're more likely to get labeled in a bad way. So it's either secret or you've got to find the elusive woman who doesn't give a damn. Be honest about what you want - who knows.

**The Reverend Floater** · 12-17-2003, 10:14 AM

Well, I got the Heismann last night. This "buddy" of mine was supposed to come over and never did. She called this morning to tell me that she was starting to get too involved and she knew I wasn't because I'm "a strange one," so she has to stop before she gets hurt. I can dig it because she's right.

You know, it's too bad with this one because I really do enjoy her company--she's chill and smart, likes to self medicate on occasion, is fun in the fun room, hot as a chili pepper and has green eyes--oh, green eyes! But I just don't have the sauce right now to deal.

Great.

Thanks for listening. You people are beautiful and stay tuned for our next episode of How the Reverend Lives: Utah.

**watersnowdirt** · 12-17-2003, 10:37 AM

Sorry to hear that Rev - at least she was honest which is good. A lot of women will hang with it in the hopes the guy will change his mind and want a relationship. You've also got to be wary of women who say they can be casual (same goes for men), but might be saying that cause it's what the other person wants. I know I've done that, and realized I"m full of it. At this point, I know I'm not that person so I don't even go down that road.. It's good that you're completely honest, so at least the playing field is set, and the woman can choose whether it's for her or not.

**Telenater** · 12-17-2003, 10:41 AM

And, sometimes it's the other way around.

13 · 12-17-2003, 10:49 AM

Originally posted by Telenater
And, sometimes it's the other way around.

Amen.

**two_planks** · 12-17-2003, 10:49 AM

Rev, from my experience it is and it isn't possible. I had many fuck buddies back in my college days (bartending at the local night club had its benefits) but they all go sour eventually. I found that most were really wanting a relationship but new that I wasn't down with it so they would just hang around and fuck me on a regular basis in the hope that some day (preferably soon) I would come around and realise that a relationship was the way to go. Eventually they would realise that it aint gonna happen and there would be a huge blow up with crying and all that other shit, or the old send the friends to tell you what a prick you are routine (they both suck) and things would end. Want to really have some fun? Try juggling 5 at once, now thats a challenge. Imagine all five standing at my bar when one of them mentions to the other girls she doesn't know that she thinks the bartender is hot (mean while I'm sweating bullets noticing that they are all standing next to each other) and then another pipes in "well I'm kinda seeing him". At this point major shit ensues. And yes maggettes I was an ass hole of the 1st degree. I know that now and have since changed my ways, am happily married, and only have two women in my life now.....

**britney** · 12-17-2003, 11:50 AM

The nerve endings are connected to the feelings.

That is all.

**Arty50** · 12-17-2003, 11:55 AM

Originally posted by The Reverend Floater
...and has green eyes--oh, green eyes!

http://www.devermore.net/surbrook/btilc/Image2.jpg

"Ahhhh, she has green eyes!"

**irul&ublo** · 12-17-2003, 12:10 PM

Originally posted by britney
The nerve endings are connected to the feelings.

I heard they were connected to the G-spot.

**snowsprite** · 12-17-2003, 12:17 PM

I think this thing can work, but most women who would want to go for it are not gonna just broadcast that info straightaway. You may as well cast the line and see if she bites. (heh!)

Oh, jibj...yes the stirrup pants would be sweet, but don't forget the lace-up ankle boots and satin jackets to complete the look.
Sprite

**splat** · 12-17-2003, 12:19 PM

Originally posted by The Reverend Floater
Well, I got the Heismann last night. This "buddy" of mine was supposed to come over and never did. She called this morning to tell me that she was starting to get too involved and she knew I wasn't because I'm "a strange one," so she has to stop before she gets hurt. I can dig it because she's right.

You know, it's too bad with this one because I really do enjoy her company--she's chill and smart, likes to self medicate on occasion, is fun in the fun room, hot as a chili pepper and has green eyes--oh, green eyes! But I just don't have the sauce right now to deal.

Great.

Thanks for listening. You people are beautiful and stay tuned for our next episode of How the Reverend Lives: Utah.

[insert Pat Benatar lyrics here]