Random Unthreadworthy Questions

[Danno]

Here's one for the collective.

I have a friend that I'm fairly close to - not best friends, but enough that I see him once a week or so (more in the ski/climbing season). He got married this summer back East, and while I had no expectations of getting invited to the wedding, I was honestly a little bummed to not even get an announcement - nor was I invited to the bachelor party. When it came time to do a reception in SLC, he sent out a generic FB invite just a few weeks before, and we had already made plans that we couldn't move.

So - do I get him a wedding gift?

If you want to, if you're feeling like you want to give him something to celebrate his marriage, then sure. But if you are asking whether you have some obligation to, or whether you'd be a dick for not, absolutely not.

FWIW, I would not expect an "announcement" if you're not invited. That's like sending out something to people saying "we're getting married, but we don't like you enough to invite you".

[Timberridge]

I'm inclined to give a gift as a "thank you" for not being invited to any more weddings. Especially a destination wedding.

[old goat]

Here's one for the collective.

I have a friend that I'm fairly close to - not best friends, but enough that I see him once a week or so (more in the ski/climbing season). He got married this summer back East, and while I had no expectations of getting invited to the wedding, I was honestly a little bummed to not even get an announcement - nor was I invited to the bachelor party. When it came time to do a reception in SLC, he sent out a generic FB invite just a few weeks before, and we had already made plans that we couldn't move.

So - do I get him a wedding gift?

No. You're being invited to a party, not a wedding. If you want to bring alcohol fine but I'm guessing he'll have plenty already.

FWIW, I would not expect an "announcement" if you're not invited. That's like sending out something to people saying "we're getting married, but we don't like you enough to invite you".

Yep. Of course the point of destination weddings is so you can invite people and get a gift with little expectation that they'll come. In America today it seems like most weddings are "destination" weddings, given how scattered so many of our families and friends are.
When we got married in Tucson 38 years ago my mother insisted we send invites to all the second cousins, great aunts and uncles, etc in Detroit. Lots of gifts, none of them showed--although most of my aunts and uncles and first cousins did.

My kid got married a couple of weeks after the engagement so his wife in osteopath school could get his GI benefits. Married on the deck in a blizzard with my wife and I and the bride's mother who was the officiant. They plan a big party someday--probably will never happen. Maybe in Vegas where he's stationed. The other kid got married last weekend at a venue an hour north of Truckee. Given plague, fire, airline fuckups and the rental car situation amazing that 60 people actually managed to show up. Along with way too much alcohol, the overage of which my wife and I have promised to different people, which is awkward. The smoke cleared for the actual wedding and reception which was nice. The officiant/best friend: "By the power vested in me by getordained.com I now pronounce you married."

[KQ]

Why did my package go from Ephrata to Seattle when its final destination is W2?

Attachment 383306

Arrrrrrrrrrrrrghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! Still in transit! Left Lexington KY on the 16th

[Supermoon]

FedEx is the worst

[Boissal]

Here's one for the collective.

I have a friend that I'm fairly close to - not best friends, but enough that I see him once a week or so (more in the ski/climbing season). He got married this summer back East, and while I had no expectations of getting invited to the wedding, I was honestly a little bummed to not even get an announcement - nor was I invited to the bachelor party. When it came time to do a reception in SLC, he sent out a generic FB invite just a few weeks before, and we had already made plans that we couldn't move.

So - do I get him a wedding gift?

Tell him you'll break trail for X hours on your next tour or belay his ass for Y burns on his proj. FB invitation should be an automatic disqualifier for any gift. FFS, it's a wedding reception, if he cares so little that he can't personalize an invite he shouldn't expect much more than your presence, and even that is a bit of a stretch.

FedEx is the worst

This is what I had to do for Fedex to finally deliver a package that required indirect signature but which the driver refused to leave for 4 days in a row. This was the day of the last attempt before they were going to send the stuff back:

[Danno]

Of course the point of destination weddings is so you can invite people and get a gift with little expectation that they'll come. In America today it seems like most weddings are "destination" weddings, given how scattered so many of our families and friends are.

eh, the point of my destination wedding was to get married in a super awesome place, with as many of my friends and family that were willing to make the trip. Probably 1/5th of the invites came.

It certainly wasn't an attempt at getting more gifts, most of the people that didn't come didn't give a gift.

[Timberridge]

FedEx is the worst

They're all bad. I has something shipped to me USPS from TX on Aug 11, the tracking says its been delayed and shows it's been in Detroit for a week now. Someone needs to check under the conveyor belt.

[BmillsSkier]

I still have Christmas presents that are showing as "not yet out for delivery" from two Etsy vendors that dropped them off at the USPS depot in early December.

They shipped replacements which arrived in late January.

If they ever arrive I've got some Land Rover swag for someone if they want it.

[ill-advised strategy]

Road construction mags:

Sometimes something gets dug up and sits there dug up, not being worked on, for ages before they finish the work.
I figured there must be a reason, but I don’t know enough to know why. Is there a typical or common reason for that, or is it just clusterfuckery?

[Supermoon]

They're all bad. I has something shipped to me USPS from TX on Aug 11, the tracking says its been delayed and shows it's been in Detroit for a week now. Someone needs to check under the conveyor belt.

Yeah, they all have their moments but for both consistently bad delivery times, general fuck ups, and an utter lack of regard for actually delivering packages (see the wall of paper above), FedEx is the clear winner IMO.

[El Chupacabra]

Yeah, they all have their moments but for both consistently bad delivery times, general fuck ups, and an utter lack of regard for actually delivering packages (see the wall of paper above), FedEx is the clear winner IMO.

No way.

OnTrac is by far the worst shipping company IMO.

[Iowagriz]

Not sure of the shipper, but wife ordered 2 couches off the internet on the 15th. They were delivered today to the garage. No damage, packaging clean and in good shape. No idea where it originated, but delivery to Missoula. I'm impressed.

Don't get me started on why we needed two couches. That goes in the JHC thread.

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[Supermoon]

No way.

OnTrac is by far the worst shipping company IMO.

IME OnTrac will at least throw your package at your house as they drive by

[Timberridge]

Not sure of the shipper, but wife ordered 2 couches off the internet on the 15th. They were delivered today to the garage. No damage, packaging clean and in good shape. No idea where it originated, but delivery to Missoula. I'm impressed.

Don't get me started on why we needed two couches. That goes in the JHC thread.

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Two couches is a great idea actually. I think she's a smart woman. At my house it's first come and fights ensue.

[skaredshtles]

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Don't get me started on why we needed two couches.

To take up space in a house, obviously.

[BmillsSkier]

#couchrich

[BmillsSkier]

Who wants to walk across the Mackinac Bridge?

Seriously, who? At least one Yugo blows off that thing into the icy depths each year, right?

If you're so inclined. You can do so next week.

https://www.cleveland.com/travel/202...ur-chance.html

[Iowagriz]

#couchrich

The extra throw pillows are already on order.

[Ted Striker]

Who wants to walk across the Mackinac Bridge?

[BmillsSkier]

The extra throw pillows are already on order.

The fact that Teej and Dex are delivering this message makes it that much better.

It's the silent "C" that gets em every time.

[riser4]

You Steve?

[liv2ski]

FedEx is the worst

Yup, I am not sure what happened with the shipment of dog kibble from Chewy, but it has been 7 days since shipped and I am out. Normally is a 2 day turn time. I hope it really shows up in a few hours, as I don't want to have to drive out to the vet to get a little bag.

[old goat]

eh, the point of my destination wedding was to get married in a super awesome place, with as many of my friends and family that were willing to make the trip. Probably 1/5th of the invites came.

It certainly wasn't an attempt at getting more gifts, most of the people that didn't come didn't give a gift.

My son says that the people who come to a wedding are much more important than the place. I agree with him. Obviously you don't.

[Danno]

Budget Rental Car is trying to charge us over $500 for a crack in a windshield. I need to tweet my dissatisfaction. How do I do that? Do I just go to my page and use the @ symbol? Like "@Budget you guys are fucking scam artists trying to charge me for a goddam cracked windshield that expanded from a tiny crack to a big one while I had the car, and you cannot prove differently!" Like that? Or do I go to their page and post there? I understand FB but not the twitters.