Tammy Wynette cannot be reached for help-Divorce advice

[4matic]

Having been married twice, engaged five times and a total of 7 co-inhabiting with the significant other theme... disillusionment of the household doesn't feel out of the ordinary. It's just been awhile and this time I have a 14yo in tow.

Fascinating. Will you do it again? What is it about co-habitation that appeals to you so much?

[Gepeto]

Fascinating. Will you do it again? What is it about co-habitation that appeals to you so much?

says the plutocrat

I'm very good at playing house

[4matic]

says the plutocrat

I'm very good at playing house

It's easy to grin
When your ship comes in
And you've got the stock market beat.
But the man worthwhile, Is the man who can smile, When his shorts are too tight in the seat.

Good luck man. I know a nice Chinese girl looking for a guy. Fear of your situation is why I've never been married...and I'm selfish as we all know.

[Timberridge]

Some are better off not married.

[Bunion 2020]

Some are better off not married.

QFT X 10

[Timberridge]

Roughly 50%

That's a combination of the resident and transient population?

To further break it down per the census. "63% percent of those (unmarried and 18 and older) have never been married. 24% were divorced, and 13% were widowed."

[sb]

I hear that 25% of wimens are treated with psycho active drugs which means 75% are not treated.

[Bunion 2020]

That explains a lot.

[Gepeto]

Since this place is located in greater sausageville. Perspective on gender's not of your own should be dismissed. I count 7 genders currently, but it's hard to keep up.


Given the choice of the ivory tower resident or the have-nots but happy - I have chosen the latter.

My heart goes out to JGB n Wyeaster - it's about the children in the crossfire

Son comes home from Princeton tour yesterday and announced his allegiance.
I advised that dipping below the first tier honor roll won't get it done - he went to play xbox.

[m76b74]

Now that she is emotionally tied into her new nest, I would have your lawyer fully leveraging any future alimony (forget about it) and child support (realistic number).
One, while you are still married, she can not buy that place solely in her name unless you sign a quit claim deed. You are not signing that until you have a fair settlement agreement you can live with.
Time to but the screws to her brother and protect your future.

thanks everyone who's taken the time to comment on my sad sack of shit story. Vibes to wyeaster, Gepeto and anyone else in this mess that I may be missing.

Liv2ski, you nailed it. She is very attached to this new nest. And I communicated via the attorneys my proposal for an equitable solution. To those who have asked, yes what she is doing is not technically legal and could be stopped by a court order but that takes time and money. I'd rather send my own kid to college and not the attorney's. That said it appears I'm in a bit of a bargaining position now. The texts and voicemails have been frequent and lengthy today from her.

I truly do hate being the asshole. It's not me and she's still the mother of my child who I'm going to have to co-parent with for a very long time. I want her to have this house, but she's going to have to give back a large chunk of the money she squirreled away to do so. Yes, I have to sign off on dower rights to the cash she's using to buy the house before anyone could close on it. Yay, dumb luck. All this still makes me sick to my stomach.

[Brock Landers]

Good luck dude. Whatever happens with the woman- fuck it. Seems like you genuinely care for your son and that's all that matters in any of this. The visitation or arrangement or whatever down the road doesn't matter. You'll make it work so that he grows up healthy and happy and nothing else matters.

[Meadow Skipper]

All this still makes me sick to my stomach.

You'll feel a lot better when things aren't all fucked up.

[abraham]

Dumb.
Misplaced post.

Good luck to the people dealing with this divorce stuff

[PowderHorse]

Then consider my good friend MPPG.
Cute with or without beard and a hell of a skier

+1

[XXX-er]

I truly do hate being the asshole. It's not me and she's still the mother of my child who I'm going to have to co-parent with for a very long time. I want her to have this house, but she's going to have to give back a large chunk of the money she squirreled away to do so. Yes, I have to sign off on dower rights to the cash she's using to buy the house before anyone could close on it. Yay, dumb luck. All this still makes me sick to my stomach.

Most of the people reading this are assholes so don't worry about that, you will look back on this in 20 yrs, you will feel better ... more so if you didn't get screwed for a bunch of your money

[PowderHorse]

I come without the 2 month wait and I have a coconut infused goatee

Be wary of the crazy rebound! (sorry about all the crap you are dealing with)

[Gepeto]

Be wary of the crazy rebound! (sorry about all the crap you are dealing with)

Yea, understand and accept the need for the heads up... it was a concern until the opportunity hit - WAM - made up for a lot of personal puddle pity parties - it was fun for a few weeks anyway.

We could hook-up for a hug - there nice and don't require bodily fluids.

Lets just make sure it includes snow

[PowderHorse]

I haven't tossed my crap into this mess but if it makes you guys feel better, my ex isn't paying me a dime in alimony or child support. I'm the primary caregiver and provider after taking 2+ years off to raise her, now I'm responsible for everything (and in a lot of debt due to him). He pays for a little of her preschool but nothing beyond that, even if I ask.

We weren't married but he advertised me as his wife multiple times so I could lawyer up and make a big fucking deal about it but due to his narssacistic personality it would be a nightmare. And like some of you, I'd rather save for my child's future than spend $350/hr fighting a high conflict person. We have a mutual agreement for the time he spends with her but she hates going to his house and it's very emotional for her when the transition weekends come around.

Distance and acceptance have been my best lessons. Being the better person and parent helps but not always easy to put him on ignore. Smoking ganj helps keep me relaxed about it. Sex (or hugs!) would really come in handy these days as long as I can get to sleep by 10 PM, I just have zero free time. But mainly time has helped....so hang in there dudes!!

[glademaster]

Sounds like it would have been worthwhile for you to lawyer up, knowing only your part of the story, you got a raw deal and could have gotten a lot more out of him even if you were never married.

Of course, the key there is that we only know your part of the story. You have to be inclined to give the benefit of the doubt to the person who can't speak up for themselves.

[4matic]

Divorcee's are some horny sob's

[DBdude]

Smoking ganj helps keep me relaxed about it. Sex (or hugs!) would really come in handy these days as long as I can get to sleep by 10 PM

how ya doing?

[hikesalot]

Of course, the key there is that we only know your part of the story. You have to be inclined to give the benefit of the doubt to the person who can't speak up for themselves.

WTFF? (that's What the Fucking Fuck????) Really? So for all the guy aliases we say, sorry dude, you're right, your gal is bat shit crazy, protect yourself, etc etc. But for PH, oh, we're not so sure, you know, we don't know his side of the story.

[sb]

Have a good weekend all

[Danno]

WTFF? (that's What the Fucking Fuck????) Really? So for all the guy aliases we say, sorry dude, you're right, your gal is bat shit crazy, protect yourself, etc etc. But for PH, oh, we're not so sure, you know, we don't know his side of the story.

yeah, I thought that was bullshit too. While it's true of every single story we hear in the padded room (or anywhere), it seemed a little odd to see that disclaimer for her I mean, did anyone post the same shit for m76b74's story?

[PowderHorse]

Thanks for the support hikes and danno! Yes two sides to the story of course but turns out it's not just the chicks that are crazy.

I knew quickly this guy was a whack job and broke up with him after a couple of months of long distance (and after some decent sex) but wham-o, guess who got preggers over 40? Makes shit complicated.

I learned from my mistakes prior to this relationship and was very honest with this "man". He didn't get what he needed from me so he lied and cheated to make himself feel better, then blamed me. Would have helped if he communicated BEFORE he bailed on his partner and child. Cheating is a deal breaker for me. Period.

Just takes more to untangle from a very unhealthy person than most people realize (as some of the men in this shit show are realizing). I have worked on my baggage and continue to stay on the path of improving myself. Thus the lack of dating, why reopen the suitcase of skeletons if you haven't truly looked in the mirror. That being said, I'm healthier and stronger than ever but it's taken a LONG time to detach from the situation. I admit, I wanted it to work but for my daughter's sake, not for the relationship.