Tammy Wynette cannot be reached for help-Divorce advice

[skiballs]

How do you feel about ocassionally degenerate guitar players?

[Bromontana]

There should be a pixies song of the day slash mustard coniouoseur thread.

Edit:dat is cool Brock

[BmillsSkier]

His brother is one of my best friends. Brought us out for champagne and sushi a few years ago and drove us around Boston in a classic old school Cadillac

That is cool as fuck. Sorry to take your Caddyshack reference and make it Black Francis.

There should be a pixies song of the day slash mustard coniouoseur thread.

I believe I already started a Pixies PR thread somewhere.

[PowderHorse]

Now I know I'm going to be okay. A married woman talking about her next hookup in the Divorce Thread.

How do you feel about coconut oil [emoji23]

Good Lord, not married, single mom. Otherwise we'd be back on the adultery topic.

How else do single moms meet guys anyway? I'm too tired and over worked to have time! At least there is some sort of screening in this arena. FWIW.

[m76b74]

Sorry for the recalibration fellas but I'm a fucking wreck. Just found out that the lady has put an offer in and has accepted a bid on a house, of course with "our" money.

I want her to have it, I really do, but this ties up more of the equitable portion of "our" money than I thought. Saving grace is apparently I have to sign off on it. So there's my leverage. Fuck me,
fuck my life.

[Gepeto]

Good Lord, not married, single mom. Otherwise we'd be back on the adultery topic.

How else do single moms meet guys anyway? I'm too tired and over worked to have time! At least there is some sort of screening in this arena. FWIW.

I come without the 2 month wait and I have a coconut infused goatee

[hikesalot]

Sorry for the recalibration fellas but I'm a fucking wreck. Just found out that the lady has put an offer in and has accepted a bid on a house, of course with "our" money.

I want her to have it, I really do, but this ties up more of the equitable portion of "our" money than I thought. Saving grace is apparently I have to sign off on it. So there's my leverage. Fuck me,
fuck my life.

Hang in there. Sorry she's making this so difficult.

[wyeaster]

i'm sure it's individual, but having a net in my yard and being able to hit balls at any time or day or night has been really good for me to be physically active but in a focused way. sort of a poor man's induced meditation/emdr?

swimming helps too. meditative repetition, speed not important, duration more important. that sort of thing. it lets off some pressure in a soothing way -- and soothing is what you need. to help yourself get to a better mental state for approaching the situation. things will be different and better in a year. you just have to do your best between now and then each day and it will get better. sometimes your best isn't as good as you'd like. that's ok. you don't have to be perfect because you're human. you just need a slightly upward trajectory for a while and then you feel stronger. then the next gut punch might hurt a little less and you might bounce back a little sooner feeling even stronger. not angry, but at peace and getting stronger.

kids are the prize the eyes keep.

[4matic]

Sorry for the recalibration fellas but I'm a fucking wreck. Just found out that the lady has put an offer in and has accepted a bid on a house, of course with "our" money.

I want her to have it, I really do, but this ties up more of the equitable portion of "our" money than I thought. Saving grace is apparently I have to sign off on it. So there's my leverage. Fuck me,
fuck my life.

If she'll setttle for house as lump sum no alimony and agree to formula child support it might be an ok bet.

[hawkgt]

Sorry for the recalibration fellas but I'm a fucking wreck. Just found out that the lady has put an offer in and has accepted a bid on a house, of course with "our" money.

I want her to have it, I really do, but this ties up more of the equitable portion of "our" money than I thought. Saving grace is apparently I have to sign off on it. So there's my leverage. Fuck me,
fuck my life.

Catching up some, but had a lot of quip to add to this thread until this, but hold tight. No fucking way on this, kid(s) and you only is focus!

[Bromontana]

That is cool as fuck. Sorry to take your Caddyshack reference and make it Black Francis.



I believe I already started a Pixies PR thread somewhere.

Dangit, where is my mind

[My Pet Powder Goat]

Sorry for the recalibration fellas but I'm a fucking wreck. Just found out that the lady has put an offer in and has accepted a bid on a house, of course with "our" money.

I want her to have it, I really do, but this ties up more of the equitable portion of "our" money than I thought. Saving grace is apparently I have to sign off on it. So there's my leverage. Fuck me,
fuck my life.

Damn! I'm amazed shes allowed to do that?

It seems like funds should be frozen or a large portion Should be in escrow during such an event, and why do you have to sigh off?

4matic is right tho, your going to pay one way or other, this might be good way to get it over with and b done.

[iceman]

What's a few more months? If I haven't forgotten how already. Something good has to come of this big group hug thread! Yes haw!

Coconut oil has many uses so I've heard! Still racking my brain for a beard in the past.

Okay I just threw my razor in the trash.

[iceman]

Sorry for the recalibration fellas but I'm a fucking wreck. Just found out that the lady has put an offer in and has accepted a bid on a house, of course with "our" money.

I want her to have it, I really do, but this ties up more of the equitable portion of "our" money than I thought. Saving grace is apparently I have to sign off on it. So there's my leverage. Fuck me,
fuck my life.

wait, what? That's not gonna fly. Get the lawyer on it pronto.

Armchair psychiatrist with no real knowledge at all but she sounds bipolar to me, read up on it a little maybe.

[glademaster]

Can we bring this thing back around to mustard and pretzels? I love a good hard pretzel and buy them online from a bakery in Pennsylvania. Grocery store pretzels are absolute dreck.

[Gepeto]

Sorry for the recalibration fellas but I'm a fucking wreck. Just found out that the lady has put an offer in and has accepted a bid on a house, of course with "our" money.

I want her to have it, I really do, but this ties up more of the equitable portion of "our" money than I thought. Saving grace is apparently I have to sign off on it. So there's my leverage. Fuck me,
fuck my life.

If it makes you feel any better to know you are not alone...

Last July 16th, I find out that my future ex-wife had taken every bit of cash, cashed in our two highest value whole life policies, a large chunk of her 401k and bought a condo in the town we live in. $180 left in the bank - zilch - nada - nothing - a house cleaning. She moved out on Aug 1.

How you ask? We had mutual enduring poa's, since we both traveled so much, it just made lots of things easier to get done.

Broke as in, I gots 180 bucks. The only redemption from the moment was my son was away at camp and I had a chance to catch my balance before he got home. fwiw; he really dislikes who his mother is or, I should say - has become.

We've been married 19y on 1/13 - 10 years of strife and 4 years physically separated but, in the same house. Having been divorced before, ugly spread over a long time definitely feels less ugly, but makes for a lot more baggage to sort through and overcome.

[skifishbum]

my dog ill eat about anything
cept hard pretzels

[liv2ski]

If she'll setttle for house as lump sum no alimony and agree to formula child support it might be an ok bet.

Now that she is emotionally tied into her new nest, I would have your lawyer fully leveraging any future alimony (forget about it) and child support (realistic number).
One, while you are still married, she can not buy that place solely in her name unless you sign a quit claim deed. You are not signing that until you have a fair settlement agreement you can live with.
Time to but the screws to her brother and protect your future.

[wyeaster]

We've been married 19y on 1/13 - 10 years of strife and 4 years physically separated but, in the same house.

this is brutal, man. i'm sorry to hear it.

[My Pet Powder Goat]

wait, what? That's not gonna fly. Get the lawyer on it pronto.

Armchair psychiatrist with no real knowledge at all but she sounds bipolar to me, read up on it a little maybe.

Seems plausible...She certainly is embarking, for whatever reason, on impulsive, malicious and self destructive behavior. Sleeping around while married, stealing cash and now putting a bid on a house while engaged in a divorce are all abnormal behavior. I'm sure the op doesn't want to hear it but he might just be lucking out by getting out of such a toxic relationship.

Wishing you the best to OP; this situation might be bigger then you. Keep your head up.

I didn't know that gepato....sorry to hear.

[riser4]

Whaaaaat?? My dog eats anything plus kid toys

My dog is a finicky eater with an even more particular GI tract. He doesn't eat many things but lots more than he should. Ick.

[Meadow Skipper]

Last July 16th, I find out that my future ex-wife had taken every bit of cash, cashed in our two highest value whole life policies, a large chunk of her 401k and bought a condo in the town we live in. $180 left in the bank - zilch - nada - nothing - a house cleaning. She moved out on Aug 1.

I'm hoping that you live in a community property state. That could make sorting that out a lot easier. Same for the OP.

Caveat: IANAL, and I say and do a lot of stupid things. But I've been through two divorces. Luck.

[PowderHorse]

Okay I just threw my razor in the trash.

Should make for a interesting trip report

[PowderHorse]

Sorry for the recalibration fellas but I'm a fucking wreck. Just found out that the lady has put an offer in and has accepted a bid on a house, of course with "our" money.

I want her to have it, I really do, but this ties up more of the equitable portion of "our" money than I thought. Saving grace is apparently I have to sign off on it. So there's my leverage. Fuck me,
fuck my life.

I don't think she can legally do that? Sorry you are getting dragged through that crap. Breathe.

[Gepeto]

I'm hoping that you live in a community property state. That could make sorting that out a lot easier. Same for the OP.

Caveat: IANAL, and I say and do a lot of stupid things. But I've been through two divorces. Luck.

Not to worry I guess, NJ is an equitable distribution state, which is close to the same thing from my understanding - IANAL either. But, I've spent way more than 100k letting them rob me while sorting out all kinds of issues.

Currently into month #5 of an IRS audit. Subpoenas take time.

Having been married twice, engaged five times and a total of 7 co-inhabiting with the significant other theme... disillusionment of the household doesn't feel out of the ordinary. It's just been awhile and this time I have a 14yo in tow.