Tammy Wynette cannot be reached for help-Divorce advice

[Danno]

This kind of stuff is why he needs to get a good lawyer.

Yep. If I ever get divorced, I wouldn't dream of trying to figure this shit out on my own. I would hire a good lawyer and suck it up and pay him/her whatever it takes to get the outcome that is best.

[AdironRider]

I don't know man thats pretty close to crossing the line IMO unless he was beating her or some real shit. Every divorce is a couple who thinks the other is a asshole to a certain extent, otherwise they wouldn't get a divorce.

[PNWbrit]

unless he was beating her.

Good guess.

It's not my decision in any event. But I do hope that every month when only half his pension arrives he really regrets beating a woman...

[Meadow Skipper]

My point was not to underestimate the value of one's retirement. There's a lot of other stuff you can walk away from. You can get another house, for instance.

[plugboots]

Every divorce is a couple who thinks the other is a asshole to a certain extent, otherwise they wouldn't get a divorce.

Not so sure about that.

I have two close friends that were completely blindsided by their spouses who decided they'd had enough and wanted to have a relationship with somebody else. One of them specifically was so taken aback, that he didn't hire a lawyer and used her lawyer and got fucked.

Basically he was so embarrassed by it all that he didn't call me till it was almost over. When he finally called me it was one of those things were I hold the phone out and yell over at Mrs. P., saying: "Hey Joe Blow's getting a divorce!" and she answered with: "Who's his lawyer?"

Did I mention he got fucked?

[t-the-east]

Thats the other thing. In the paperwork I saw it said she wants alimony there was a check box with a check in it.

Sorry.... I couldn't resist. Seriously though, vibes big time. Good luck with everything

[SKIORFORGETIT]

I spoke to a divorce attorney the other night. I live in nyc.

I am gladly going to pay child support as I love my son and I want to see him as much as possible. I love him with all my heart and feel bad for him.

An interesting question the attorney asked me on the phone was "Do you have a 401k and did you put any money into it since being married?". Yes and no. I think this might help me.

My wife, as expected, is acting like a child. This morning for no reason whatsoever as I was leaving the apartment she threw the keys at me right in front of my son. I didn't say a word or do anything and kept on walking. I feel bad that our son has to see that, but it shows me exactly the type of person I married and why I can't mentally do this anymore.

I know the finances are going to suck, but it will get better. I am looking forward to getting my life back. It's time to live.

I am starting to feel liberated. I have felt trapped for so many years.

Years ago I wanted to write about this garbage on here and I am glad I am doing it now. Feels good to get it off my chest.

[AK47bp]

Next time the wifey acts up just go all Degrasse Tyson on her
https://vimeo.com/138223178

[Skidog]

no, I'm not going to make the world suffer my existence that much longer.

Tease

[sb]

hang in there

[Tuckerman]

I cant talk to a attorney until the 25th in the meantime anyone know if she can kick me out of our home the one I pay the mortgage on? She got really drunk the other night and was yelling at me to leave, I told her I did not think I had to. Not sure if Im right but it seems like the correct answer.. She was also blocking me from going up to my bed (well its just a couch) which made me nervous.



She got up the next day like nothing happened.

[sb]

Vibes, you are in the full blown stupid Cunt zone. She will hence consider everything you have worked for now and into the future to belong to her.

You may be better off away from her.

[pepperdawg]

You may be better off away from her.

This....^

[concretejungle]

Especially if you have a child (I'm assuming your name is on the mortgage) do not vacate the house. Document all of her behavior in a Google calendar or doc. List the day and what she did if there was anything that happened including getting drunk, acting out, etc. Save any emails or texts that she sends.

Play it cool until you can talk to a lawyer. As hard as it may be do not engage her and if you have to leave the area and go to a room in the house and lock the door. I had to setup an email account separate from my personal one strictly for communication with my ex that I still use. I made it clear that I would check that account and that other than email I would not respond to her phone calls, emails to my personal account or texts unless it was an emergency involving our daughter.

I am not a lawyer but these are things that my lawyer told me during my divorce. You need/want to be the stable one and although it may not matter in the mediation/divorce it will make your lawyers job a hell of a lot easier.

Also, with regards to the dog if your house is anything like mine. Fuck her. The dog was coming with me no matter what.

For anyone who wants a few books to read I found these two to be very helpful.

When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron
Storms Can't Hurt the Sky by Gabriel Cohen

[Skidog]

I cant talk to a attorney until the 25th in the meantime anyone know if she can kick me out of our home the one I pay the mortgage on? She got really drunk the other night and was yelling at me to leave, I told her I did not think I had to. Not sure if Im right but it seems like the correct answer.. She was also blocking me from going up to my bed (well its just a couch) which made me nervous.



She got up the next day like nothing happened.

Yeah you should totally take her advice about just using her lawyer..... NOT. #crazybitchzone #thoughtsnprayersbro

[east or bust]

The shit is fucking nuts.

[iceman]

Maybe you could get a restraining order or something? Not an expert, sorry, but document the shit somehow for sure. You don't want her going off and accusing you of shit you didn't do, if it's anything like Mass., that shit sucks hard.

[Danno]

I cant talk to a attorney until the 25th in the meantime anyone know if she can kick me out of our home the one I pay the mortgage on? She got really drunk the other night and was yelling at me to leave, I told her I did not think I had to. Not sure if Im right but it seems like the correct answer.. She was also blocking me from going up to my bed (well its just a couch) which made me nervous.



She got up the next day like nothing happened.

Why would she be able to kick you out of your house? Not my area of law, but I'm pretty certain that she couldn't do that. HOWEVER, depending on how things go for you and her, she could make accusations against you that could result in you being removed from the house. So be careful. If I were you, I would try to talk to the lawyer briefly on the phone, or heck, pay another lawyer for a consult even if you don't want to hire them, if they'll see you asap. Because the 25th is a long way away.

Now overall, the 25th is fine if that is the attorney you want, because this is actually a marathon not a sprint, and you need to have a strategy and hold a steady course over the long haul. But you also need short term advice right now. Give the lawyer a call, tell him/her that it is an emergency and that you need 15 minutes of phone time now, in advance of your meeting on the 25th.

Until you talk to a lawyer, I would follow concretejungle's advice.

[TWINS]

Why would she be able to kick you out of your house? Not my area of law, but I'm pretty certain that she couldn't do that. HOWEVER, depending on how things go for you and her, she could make accusations against you that could result in you being removed from the house. So be careful. If I were you, I would try to talk to the lawyer briefly on the phone, or heck, pay another lawyer for a consult even if you don't want to hire them, if they'll see you asap. Because the 25th is a long way away.

Now overall, the 25th is fine if that is the attorney you want, because this is actually a marathon not a sprint, and you need to have a strategy and hold a steady course over the long haul. But you also need short term advice right now. Give the lawyer a call, tell him/her that it is an emergency and that you need 15 minutes of phone time now, in advance of your meeting on the 25th.

Until you talk to a lawyer, I would follow concretejungle's advice.

This^^^^ I left the house on my own out of confusion and craziness. I was informed that was the wrong thing to do.
Once you are out of the house it gets difficult to get back in. She can file a restraining order on you and keep you away,start making a paper trail that makes you out to be dangerous.Stay put /don`t drink/be calm in case the police get called.
Vibes to you as this is getting really shitty
Next time she verbally attacks you pull out your phone and start videoing it. Garanteed she will back off or you get lots of proof of her being confrontational.

[Vt-Freeheel]

I cant talk to a attorney until the 25th in the meantime anyone know if she can kick me out of our home the one I pay the mortgage on? She got really drunk the other night and was yelling at me to leave, I told her I did not think I had to. Not sure if Im right but it seems like the correct answer.. She was also blocking me from going up to my bed (well its just a couch) which made me nervous.



She got up the next day like nothing happened.

A friend of mine went through a nasty divorce around six years ago.

Wife got in a fight with him and went to the neighbors, called the popo and said that he was threatening her and she was afraid to go home. He got arrested and was told to stay out of the house. She sold his polo ponies and some other stuff while he was "gone".
Nasty whore who ended up losing the house and custody of the 2 kids by the time it was over as several of us stepped up and testified that she was crazy and full of shit.

Do not touch her at all, as she can claim assault.

Find her a place to go if you can.

Good luck.

[iceman]

It's a damn shame when the polo ponies get involved.

[skiballs]

[TWINS]

I occasionally sing that song to my wife We both laugh as its kind of true sometimes......

[sb]

The problem with staying in a house with a psychotic is she will do everything possible to get you to be violent. This only works to her advantage.


There is also a greater chance one of you will end up dead.

[PNWbrit]

It's a damn shame when the polo ponies get involved.

Just makes you want to weep.

It takes so darn long to teach them to swim well enough. I had three drown under me last season.