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[mtngirl79]

waste of time. They come here, I tell them I'm fine. They leave.

More issues are caused because my landlord tells everyone at work and then I have to think of a reason why the cops were looking for me.

End result? No different.

Been there done that.

[Phill]

waste of time. They come here, I tell them I'm fine. They leave.

More issues are caused because my landlord tells everyone at work and then I have to think of a reason why the cops were looking for me.

End result? No different.

Been there done that.

[::: :::]

that group's got two...one just happens to be better at it than the other

[Tuckerman]

Ok I have an appointment but she can't see me for a few weeks. Just have to compile my questions and listen to my wife tell me we can't afford two attorneys for the next 3 weeks.

[Danno]

Ok I have an appointment but she can't see me for a few weeks. Just have to compile my questions and listen to my wife tell me we can't afford two attorneys for the next 3 weeks.

why should you both pay for only her to have an attorney? Your response to this is simple: we get a mediator, with no attorneys, or we both have attorneys.

Either way, you still need to have a consult with an attorney. You just may not need one to represent you if you go the mediation route.

[HD333]

Ok I have an appointment but she can't see me for a few weeks. Just have to compile my questions and listen to my wife tell me we can't afford two attorneys for the next 3 weeks.

Serious question and please don't take it the wrong way but why does she get to decide what you can afford ? Once this is over there is no we, shouldn't it be what you can afford for a lawyer?

Vibes and good luck, doesn't sound like fun.

[mtngirl79]

Pretty sure police records involving guns and alcohol and driving reflect poorly in divorce proceedings....

[PNWbrit]

and listen to my wife tell me we can't afford two attorneys for the next 3 weeks.

By this point I think it's reasonably safe to tell her to just shut the fuck up?

[MagnificentUnicorn]

Pretty sure police records involving guns and alcohol and driving reflect poorly in divorce proceedings....

What does this mean? Has Tuckerman been charged and convicted of drunk driving and firearms related crimes? Is that the basis for his wife's petition?

[Tuckerman]

What does this mean? Has Tuckerman been charged and convicted of drunk driving and firearms related crimes? Is that the basis for his wife's petition?

no

[Tuckerman]

By this point I think it's reasonably safe to tell her to just shut the fuck up?

I have never said that or even called a women a name before, I was raised by a single mom and she would not be happy with that kind of talk.

[Bunion 2020]

^^^ TM.

We got in it a bit over in the swamp in the Guns!!!!!!!!! thread.

Wasn't aware of this shit.

Best of luck.

[GoldMember]

Ok I have an appointment but she can't see me for a few weeks. Just have to compile my questions and listen to my wife tell me we can't afford two attorneys for the next 3 weeks.

Tell her, fine, you'll go ahead and get yours and she can fire hers but you're going to want to be represented.

[TWINS]

My wife lawyered up also and I didn`t have anything. Left the house with the clothes on my back as she asked me to leave right away.
You do have rights and don`t sign anything binding.
I went to a divorce forum to figure out what the hell was going on and what I needed to do . Kind of like this thread.
Best advice I received was find out where the court is that will be handling the case.
Find the best attorney that the presiding judge deals with on a day to day basis.
Get a consultation with that attorney $200.00 is cheap for what you get.
##### The key here is to find out who the paralegal will be and work with her?him? to keep costs down.
I had my female paralegal keep me out of trouble court wise for almost 2 years while things settled down.
My paralegal did everything for me and was extremely fair. I still think about how good she was too me. A great lady.
Just tips for you to think about. Make sure you talk to the best attorney that works your court/judge.
If we had not reconciled my attorney was waiting for my case/retainer to start was $3500.00

[MagnificentUnicorn]

no

Good, then Mtngrrrl should shut up and mind her own business.

[GoldMember]

Good, then Mtngrrrl should shut up and mind her own business.

That's true, regardless...

[Bobby Finstock]

I know, I said what about the dog?
she said "i get the dog"
I said "see already a problem"

Well you did kill the last dog

[AK47bp]

Thats the other thing. In the paperwork I saw it said she wants alimony there was a check box with a check in it. Now that does not fit the 50/50 scenario. Can I negotiate that on my own? Which is basically me saying no, but Im will to offer to keep her on my health insurance for a few years instead. IDK is that how it works? Or she can keep the dog. How about who gets to stay in the house until is sells??

I am genuinely concerned for her being on her own and her well being. I want her to have good insurance and that sort of thing.

You can't keep someone on your health insurance unless they are a spouse or domestic partner, she would be neither.

Didn't read the whole thread but good luck.

[pepperdawg]

^^^Correct - she would have to get her own insurance under hopefully as its a "Life event" or coverage via COBRA until her next open enrollement depending on her plan.

[PNWbrit]

I have never said that or even called a women a name before, I was raised by a single mom and she would not be happy with that kind of talk.

I think this where you step up out of your comfort zone and post pics in the Pleas To Ullr thread?

(Of your wife.... not your Mom.)

[Tuckerman]

You can't keep someone on your health insurance unless they are a spouse or domestic partner, she would be neither.

Didn't read the whole thread but good luck.

In NH a court order can make it so, I just asked HR. As a matter a fact she pays for her EX which to her having two children makes it a family plan and she pays the same with him on or off.

[Meadow Skipper]

... And listen to my wife tell me we can't afford two attorneys....

What is this we shit? I thought you were getting divorced. She gets and pays for her attorney and you get and pay for yours.

And do everything you can to protect your retirement funds/plan/savings.

[Danno]

What is this we shit? I thought you were getting divorced. She gets and pays for her attorney and you get and pay for yours.

And do everything you can to protect your retirement funds/plan/savings.

until they get divorced (or legally separated), the money is "we" regardless of what you or I or he may think. As for the last point:

Nobody here can tell you what the right outcome is, only you can know that. While ongoing support can suck, there are circumstances where that might be preferable to other outcomes. Also, trying to make things go smoothly (without getting completely taken) has some value. Only you can decide what works for you, AFTER YOU KNOW WHAT THE LAW SAYS (see #1).

I know a guy who lost his entire 401k in the divorce (half went to her, and the other half went to pay her off for her equity in the home). BUT, he got to keep/stay in his house, he got joint custody of his daughter, and has no support or maintenance payments. To me (and to him), that seems like a great outcome even though it goes against your advice above. Every situation is different, both in terms of finances and in terms of what works best for the parties. I am not saying he should willingly give up his retirement, far from it, but I can certainly imagine scenarios where that is the most beneficial outcome.

[PNWbrit]

I am not saying he should willingly give up his retirement

This kind of stuff is why he needs to get a good lawyer.

When my mother in law divorced her husband (not father in law) his dip-shit lawyer signed over half his pension but didn't limit it to her lifetime... so my wife inherited half his pension and we now get a reasonably large check from the LAPD every month. Since he was a complete asshole to MIL she has no qualms in cashing it.

[AK47bp]

In NH a court order can make it so, I just asked HR. As a matter a fact she pays for her EX which to her having two children makes it a family plan and she pays the same with him on or off.

Makes sense. Having a court order would make it possible in most states.