What Really Scares You?

[hawkgt]

Death/illness/missing of my children/wife

Recently had a very bad experience in our neighborhood where a 10 yr old girl was abducted, sexually assaulted, and brutally killed (I mean sick shit, full dismember, etc...) by a 17 yr old............ my fucking neighbor. From this event I experienced a fear for loss/harm of my family greater than anything I have ever felt..... deep... deep... frozen fear. It is not reoccurring but for a period of time.... it has been burned into my soul.

He is in jail now but my fear has turned into a level of anger that I also have never experienced before. Just thinking on this as I type I get angry. This has affected me and my family quite a bit...

/blog

[Stymie]

Recently had a very bad experience in our neighborhood where a 10 yr old girl was abducted, sexually assaulted, and brutally killed (I mean sick shit, full dismember, etc...) by a 17 yr old............ my fucking neighbor. From this event I experienced a fear for loss/harm of my family greater than anything I have ever felt..... deep... deep... frozen fear. It is not reoccurring but for a period of time.... it has been burned into my soul.

He is in jail now but my fear has turned into a level of anger that I also have never experienced before. Just thinking on this as I type I get angry. This has affected me and my family quite a bit...

/blog

Dude... so sorry to hear about that. Absolutely horrible.

Sickness/injury to family is about it for me... especially where my children are concerned. Lost my daughter's close friend to brain cancer last year...lived 1 year after the diagnosis (nothing the docs could do for it...). Just terrible to see what her parents went though over that year. Not sure how I would cope/survive that.

[BigLeagueBrian]

paranoia will be the death of me

[hutash]

dosages are initially based on body weight and average response in cohorts, and they fine tune it from there... how is that "exact"???

Because anesthetics are dosed to effect, not body weight. Weight just tells you about how much you may need, not what you are going to use.

The reality is most problems are still due to human error, that is the scary part.

[Benny Profane]

The reality is most problems are still due to human error, that is the scary part.

Yeah. Nobody's perfect, and, that dude putting me under has access to some awesome drugs.

[GiBo]

Death or illness of child. That's about it. Not to concerned about my own death or illness, being destitute, whatever. The world is pretty fucked and I am ok with that. But having your kid screwed with is outside that.

Definitely this. My daughter drives now. Every time she drives off, I am a mess until I know she's safe. I know I have to let go, but it's overwhelming. She will be able to drive her 14 yo bro in March. Yesterday I had this very vivid image of a car smashing into the passenger side with him in it. It was intense. Scares the fucking shit out of me.

[iceman]

Thin ice.

Well I dropped a few pounds but I don't have cancer or anything, relax.

Just got back from lunch with a buddy, his daughter is a freshman in college. The daughter's roommate found a suicide note from the daughter and it took the cops six hours to find her, in the dark, in the woods, with a knife. That would scare the piss out of me.

Otherwise, I'm pretty claustrophobic, I've had a couple of bad reactions, that's not fun.

[jfost]

Because anesthetics are dosed to effect, not body weight. Weight just tells you about how much you may need, not what you are going to use.

The reality is most problems are still due to human error, that is the scary part.

right, I think we are on the same page - it is up to the observer to note the effects and adjust accordingly. I saw an ER doc put 7x normal dose of propofol into a guy for a hip relocation and everyone was nervous... turned out ok though!

Yeah. Nobody's perfect, and, that dude putting me under has access to some awesome drugs.

nice!

[DeathVan]

I think I just realized what scares me the most:

Responsibility

-I've nearly successfully avoided it my entire life, not sure if that is good or bad...

and I truly appreciate all the responses, it is an interesting world we all live in

[SkiCougar]

change scares me alot, prison scares me worse, dying the most.

Change - Seriously ? Then better not leave the house.

Prison - shouldn't scare you if youre avoiding situations that would put you there. i find driving by a prison or watching lockup uplifting, knowing that guys continue to throw their lives away; while i can go almost anywhere and do almost anything i want; there they sit.

dying shouldnt scare you either, we're all going to do it. what you do before your last day comes, thats what you should fear if you didnt try and do things you wanted to do.

[Johnny Deep]

Antique furnature.

[Chainsaw_Willie]

public speaking. .

Is anxiety the same thing as fear? I have serious anxiety about public speaking - commonly called "stage fright." I took a drama class in college and getting up and trying to perform in front of the class nearly killed me.

But, I don't know if that's really fear or not? Fear, dread, anxiety, are they all the same thing?

Standing at the top of a drop on my skis. Ever since I blew my knee 18 years ago I've been afraid of getting airborne on skis. I want to get over it, but there's something that makes my sphincter clench every time, even if it's only 5 or 6 feet. Best way to deal with it is just go without thinking.

Are those things fear, or anxiety, or is there a difference?

I'm guessing that if I went to 7-11 to get a pint of ice cream and one of the sketchy characters that's always slouching around outside pulled a knife or gun on me I'd experience fear.

I've had dreams that have truly scared me.

I'm not afraid of dying, at least not the moment of it, though I do fear a slow and painful leadup.

[stuckathuntermtn]

Public seems to be a really common really strong fear for a lot of people.
I can't relate because I love the sound of my own voice.

Sent from my cell phone. no, a cell phone.

[stfu&gbtw]

Death or illness of child. That's about it. Not to concerned about my own death or illness, being destitute, whatever. The world is pretty fucked and I am ok with that. But having your kid screwed with is outside that.


damn, I'm bummed out now. 2 beer lunch today I think.

This.

And snow snakes.

[frozenwater]

I used to be scared of a lot of things, then they all happened to me and I kept going.

So - I guess anymore just bad things happening to loved ones. Nothing else is scary.

[jack shit]

the next 4 years

[DeathVan]

It wasn't exactly a concrete math problem - it was more like an abstract math problem that got out of control completely and was completely incomprehensible. Not being able to control it or understand it

Very fucking weird and scary dreams .

That's the dream.

Numbers flying around in a primordial stew, like bats exiting a cave to feed on me, where no sense or meaning can be inferred.
Capped off by the guilt and shame of my inadequacies causing others pain and loss.

-wish I could have a drink right now...

[userA]

Change - Seriously ? Then better not leave the house.

Prison - shouldn't scare you if youre avoiding situations that would put you there. i find driving by a prison or watching lockup uplifting, knowing that guys continue to throw their lives away; while i can go almost anywhere and do almost anything i want; there they sit.

dying shouldnt scare you either, we're all going to do it. what you do before your last day comes, thats what you should fear if you didnt try and do things you wanted to do.

been overcoming them since day one but it is a lifelong battle.
i don't fly in aeroplanes either.

[ak_powder_monkey]

Sasquatch scares the shit out of me

[OldLarry]

the next 4 years

The next 4 months

[hutash]

Definitely this. My daughter drives now. Every time she drives off, I am a mess until I know she's safe. I know I have to let go, but it's overwhelming. She will be able to drive her 14 yo bro in March. Yesterday I had this very vivid image of a car smashing into the passenger side with him in it. It was intense. Scares the fucking shit out of me.

Funny, but never had the least worries when my daughters started driving.

Yeah. Nobody's perfect, and, that dude putting me under has access to some awesome drugs.

This is supposed to be the "What scares you" thread, not the "how to have a good time" thread.

[BCMtnHound]

Flat, open spaces. University in the prairies sucked. Prefer to stay within sight of the coast when out on the ocean. Those dreams of being trapped in a space without a vantage point still haunt from time to time. Slightly agoraphobic I guess.

[skiballs]

Hookers & blow , but I'm a big believer in conquering my fears .

[XXX-er]

Flat, open spaces. University in the prairies sucked. Prefer to stay within sight of the coast when out on the ocean. Those dreams of being trapped in a space without a vantage point still haunt from time to time. Slightly agoraphobic I guess.

Y'know what the praire folk say about them mountains "You would have a good view if them damn mountains weren't in the way "

[iceman]

Flat, open spaces. University in the prairies sucked. Prefer to stay within sight of the coast when out on the ocean. Those dreams of being trapped in a space without a vantage point still haunt from time to time. Slightly agoraphobic I guess.

Yeah just the opposite, can't stand close walls and people jammed up against me, a middle seat in a plane just sucks for me. Out of sight of land on the ocean? Happy as a lark. I'm sure the difference signifies something in our psyches related to something-something but fuck if I know what.

edit: but I wouldn't call my claustrophobia "fear' really, I'm not scared of that shit i just can't stand it.