WWMD - Cougar advice

[xboat]

soooo, first the facts. i'm a 32 year old single slut lately things have slowed down a bit because i don't go out near as much as i used to. those one nighters are only a booty call away, but whenever i do that it seems to involve more than what it's worth sometimes. i'll be honest here...i am not un-experienced in the ways of the cougar and currently have one on that list.

saturday night after the hockey game me and a buddy stop at a bar by the rink to have a couple and say hi to our friend who was bartending. the bar was pretty packed and all of a sudden this lady comes up to me, points to a small group of ladies and says "you'd better watch it, these girls are on a scavenger hunt and there's no telling what they might want from you." i thought it was weird because they didn't look like a bachelorette party. my reply was "well, i don't have anything for you and no, you're not getting my boxers" and smiled at her. i said "this doesn't look like a bachelorette party, what's going on?" to my amazement, her reply was "it's a women on weed party" this took me by suprise to say the least. then she says "just kidding" or something like that and walks away.

a little while passes and i look around the bar to see this cougar making eye contact with me on a couple of occasions. to be honest, i didn't think much of it because i had something else in my sights, a hottie at the bar that i was talking to. she ended up just being a tease but that's another story. anyways, this other lady in the group comes up to me at the bar and says "are you single?" i say yes and she was like "i've never done this before but my friend would really like for you to give her a call, the one that you were talking to earlier" and handed me a piece of paper with her friends name and number on it. the others had already left the bar and i didn't have a chance to get a real good look at this lady other than the short conversation.

i'm almost positive that she was not a day under 40. maybe 42? i dunno. pretty good looking MILF if memory serves me well, but i wish i would have gotten a better look at the whole picture in the first place. i guess the only thing that i am against is some kind of dinner date or something in public. if i call and she says to come over to her house and she will cook me breakfast, should i do it?

WWMD? any good ideas to keep me out of trouble? thanks!

[Plakespear]

Originally posted by xboat
i guess the only thing that i am against is some kind of dinner date or something in public.

Listen, brah. You are 32. You seriously have an issue with going out to dinner with a woman maybe ten years older than you? If she's good looking, who gives a damn? I mean what kind of issues do you have, anyway?

[road trip]

Call the # and report back to us ASAP! The story itself is worth the trouble!

...like this one time down in Avalon, NJ... I was a mere lad of 21..

[Viva]

You know, you could just try calling her first to find out she wants- I seriously doubt she's looking for someone to cook pancakes for.

So tell us, why can't you be seen in public with this lady?

[britney]

Originally posted by Tap
You're much better off staying at home eating frozen dinners and pounding your pud to Christina Aguilera videos on cable.

oh jeebus now youve gone and made me choke on my diet pepsi laughing again!

[xboat]

Originally posted by Viva

So tell us, why can't you be seen in public with this lady?

i guess i'm saying that if i called her up and she says "do you want to go out for dinner & drinks" i would probably say no because i'm not much into the blind date thing and probably not into a relationship with a lady 10+ years older than me. if i call her up and she says "why don't you come over to my place and let me have my way with you. i'll even make you an omelet in the morning" chances are good that i would be on my way over there

i know, i'm bad.

SuPu - what do ya think?

[elevens]

Make her an offer she can't refuse....

While bumming in Jackson Hole in the early 90's.... I strike up a nice conversation with a cougar on a Tuesday night at one of the local watering holes. After a few drinks and some nice talk, I notice it's getting late and it was still snowing out (powder day). With nothing to lose, I lean over to say it's getting late and ask her to come home with me. She was a bit shaken but smiled and said hold on a minute. She walks over to her friends and has a quick chat and then comes back to the bar and says let's go. Needless to say I didn't get much sleep that night but I did make first tram. Never saw her again after dropping her off at her condo

What else have you got to lose xboat? Don't know what it's like in you hometown but if it's typicall to most ski towns, the ladies are few and far between...

just my 2 cents

elevens

PS - the local watering hole was the Shady Lady...seems fitting looking back at it now.

[AntiSoCalSkier]

If you say decline her offer (whatever it is), you should post her number here.

[Viva]

You know sonny, back when I was your age....nevermind.

So if she suggests dinner and/or drinks, why not counter suggest that you go over and hang out for a little in order to assess each other's level of interest.

You're still avoiding the question, why does being seen with an older woman bother you?

[Keoni]

Heather Locklear = 42
"nuff said

[Viva]

Oh, give me an older woman every time, every time,
Give me an older woman every time.
They don't yell, and they don't tell, and oh, they're grateful as hell,
So give me an older woman every time.
Benny Hill

[KQ]

Raquel Welch

http://www.askmen.com/women/2003_top...quel_welch.JPG

Sophia Loren

http://www.askmen.com/women/2003_top...phia_loren.JPG

Cher

http://www.moviedose.com/ARImages/BxHwsvd7594044.jpg

[Crinkle]

is it that you are afraid if you are seen around town with an older lady it might damage your reputation as a lady killer? Maybe that is why he doesnt want to call her. If you got nothing else lined up, what is there to loose, if the date sucks dont call her again. Caller ID is wonderful

But if you do call and go out, I am obliged to say "take pics and post here"

[Viva]

So give me an older woman,
A real hot-blooded woman,
A ripe 'n' peachy woman,
Give me an older woman every time.

I think I'll pass on Cher, though

[sluffhunter]

I sees where your comeing(sp?) from xboat. It's almost like takeing the next step, before there was even a first step. KQ does make a point though. and besides I'm sure the cougar won't turn out to be a tease.

PS take naked pics of her and post here.

[The AD]

If she's too shy to give her your number herself I'd say she fails the Cougar entry exam.

You might as well give her a call. It isn't a blind date--you did speak to this woman, after all.

[altagirl]

If you've got nothing else lined up, I don't see any reason not to call her. She apparently didn't strike you as hideous when you were talking to her. If you've really got to see her again before you can make up your mind maybe set up lunch to "get to know each other"? I mean, people do go to lunch with co-workers and such - people wouldn't assume you're on a date if that's what you're worried about.

[frozenwater]

my thoughts...she is probably a "nice" girl otherwise she would have asked you back to her apartment right then.

The fact that she had a friend give you her number tells me that she is really nervous and probably does not pick up on guys frequently.

Conclusion: At most she wants to go on a formal date with you, but I'm guessing she is married and was having a girls night out. She is mad at her hubby because he never listens and needs someone interested in conversation, long walks, and quilting.


Evidently you looked like the kind of guy into that sorta thing.

[Woodsy]

^ yeah you read it right, how many womeen on weed partys do you stumble across?!?

Words to live by.
"you more often reget the things you did not do more than the things you did"

frozen did throw out a nice worst case scenario.

& 11's you lived in a resort town how long & that only happened ONCE?!?
bummer

older women know what they want; are NOT afraid t tell you; & rarely get embarrassed about it

last thing I wanna hear about is " I wonder if"

[interloper]

And she has girlfriends. It's a no-brainer.

[xboat]

thanks to everyone that has contributed.

viva - thanks, i'm looking at the public deal a little differently now. we'll see.

KQ - mmm...raquel. i just caught the end of wheel of fortune tonight and holy crap, vanna white is getting hotter with age. wow.

Crinkle - i wouldn't say lady killer. some good times, some bad.

altagirl - yeah, i should check it out again before making a call.

frozen - that was good ya bastard but why would a lady of experience have her friend give me her number? this has me wondering.

woodsy - the women on weed party comment threw me for a loop. the last thing i would imagine this lady to say. good words, mang. thanks.

[montanamike]

cougs...

[Foggy_Goggles]

Xboat, you already missed your move. So simple yet hard to remember at the time. Anytime a girl A tells ya her girl B digs your C game, proposition A saying that all three of you are going out. That way you've already got two rides home if ya know what I mean.