How do I pick up chicks on the hill? (possibly paging yogachick)

[ak_powder_monkey]

so today I find myself riding up the T bar with a hot chick and we start talking be the time we get to the top it seems like we are hitting it off good. We get off the lift then what? I don't have a way to record her number then her parents got to the top. I do know her name and we do have a mutral friend who is gonna try to track down her number but anyway. Retorically say I get her number, or I get a number from a different chick. Fast foward a few days and I call her do I invite her skiing and offer her a chit (free pass). Or what? Help I'm so bad at asking girls out.

[Spats]

The best way to learn to talk to women is to lower your standards until they don't make you nervous anymore. Seriously. You shouldn't care whether they turn you down or not.

This is the attitude you need: *you* are the catch, not them, and if they impress you enough you might consent to go out with them. This doesn't mean you're an asshole, just that the choice is yours and you are in control. Most women are irresistibly attracted to this attitude.

So start finding women that aren't hot enough for you, and that you don't really care if they like you or not, and go talk to them. You'll learn quickly what to do and what not to do.

[Plus, most guys have a very exaggerated idea of their own hotness and they all want to hit on the one or two hottest girls in the room. Not everyone can go out with the hot chick. There are almost no dates worse than your right hand.]

[ak_powder_monkey]

I got the talking down its the asking out part where I'm lost

[Viva]

When I meet a hottie on the lift, I start asking about what she's been skiing so far and compare notes with her. That way you can steer the conversation around to the two of you doing a few runs together. Then you ask her when she's skiing again 'cause you had fun and would love to do some more turns with her at a later date. If she's cool with that, tell her that you can score her a lift ticket.

Just keep the conversation in your comfort zone- skiing.

Go get em!

[lostboy505]

I like Viva's advice. Seems like a very logical and low risk approach. Spats also made some good points (go ugly early) but don't neglect the hot chicks. This is more bar advice but, sometimes the gorgeous ones are sitting around bored because guys are intimidated or assume they're involved. The best advice I ever got when I was young was from an older buddy who said to always try the hotties first for just those reasons. It works often enough to be worth the effort.

[Spats]

lostboy: I'm talking about learning, not a long-term strategy. If you're intimidated, you won't try to ask them out and you'll never learn anything.

The only way to learn is to do, and the best way to learn is to get the inevitable crashing and burning over with in situations where it won't crush your spirit.

Remember: it's *their* loss if they don't want to go out with you. Once you sincerely feel and believe this yourself, you will be able to ask out the hotties. Once you have that confidence, you won't have to worry about saying exactly the right thing or the wrong thing -- if you have the attitude, *anything* you say is the right thing.

[Stikki]

Seriously sage advice in this thread.

[classic old man rant] damn kids with the internet have it so easy these days

Back in the day all my advice came from other teenagers. Nothing is worse than teens giving other teens advice. The only older guys willing to talk to teenage boys about chicks seemed to be creepy guys who bragged about being master seducers but their member's only jackets and mullets begged otherwise.

[shamrockpow]

Do kids your age still "ask girls out"??? I left my teens a couple years back, but even in the late 90s drunken hookups were the #1 introduction to actually scoring (with girls) AND starting to date. Kind of backwards? Maybe, but they don't call it the social lubricant for nothing

[lostboy505]

Spats: I agree totally. There's no better way to find out what works for you than to just go do it when you don't care if you succeed or not. If we're being honest we've all done it. But I'd hate for the kid to get a rep as a pig porker cuz he never even tries for the beauties.

[Mountainman]

I would just chit on her face, chicks dig that.

[phUnk]

I would just chit on her face, chicks dig that.

Good one, Junior.

[Wilford Brimley]

OK, ak, before I dole out some advice (useful or not), I need more info.

Number one: What is your goal in asking a chairlift-chickadee out? Your answer will determine what approach you should take in that situation.

For example: If you are interested in meeting a pal of the opposite sex, who *might* become something more, your job is easy. Just let her know you're always looking for riding/skiing partners, and ask her for her digits.

If you're interested in getting laid for the first time, I'd say save the banter, and save your money, and hire a pro. Look in your local papers, ask around. Two hundred for an hour or so shoud do you. Don't be ashamed. Just have fun.

If you're interested in a soulmate, love-of-your-life, then...dude...not quite yet, OK? Just have some fun.

Long story short, there is no magic formula, or pick-up line, for meeting the ladies. Be strong, cool, calm, and all you (and ignore internet bashers here). If it happens, cool; if not, enjoy the slopes.

[yogachik]

When I meet a hottie on the lift, I start asking about what she's been skiing so far and compare notes with her. That way you can steer the conversation around to the two of you doing a few runs together. Then you ask her when she's skiing again 'cause you had fun and would love to do some more turns with her at a later date. If she's cool with that, tell her that you can score her a lift ticket.

Just keep the conversation in your comfort zone- skiing.

Go get em!

AKPM - I couldn't have said it better myself. For sure ask her to go skiing with you again - if you get her number, use it. Too many girls (hot or not, what's hot to you might not be hot to another) have a phone that doesn't ring because guys overthink. If you want to ski with her, go ski with her! Start with the common ground.

and don't listen to Spats, that's some fucked up advice.

[Pinner]

Just tell her you're gay.

Trust me.

[mrw]

Seriously, don't be afraid of talking to the "hot chicks" from experience, many have told me that a lot of guys are intimidated by them and so, pass up prime opportunity.I have found that a low key approach is best.

[splat]

Quit chasing chicks. You need to dive into some ugly old cougar to get your feet on the ground, boy. Once you've been fucked and know what it's like, your chances of not creaming your jeans trying to talk to some hottie will be a lot better. You need sex education from some older woman who needs a five to ten hour session. Then, you'll know what to do. And them old girls don't act like their shit's ice cream and there ain't enough spoons to go around, so even you can get laid.

[Keoni]

I usually just lick my eyebrows.

[Pinner]

I'm telling you, straight chicks love to fuck gay men.

Trust me.

[Keoni]

You're probably right. I love to fuck lesbians

[skiguide]

second the Viva idea.

[ak_powder_monkey]

Alright heres the non retorhecole deal:
It turns out that this chick is going to Jounior Prom with one of my buddies (what are the odds of that) this kid is way annoying and way more picky then I am so I don't expect that to last. And she cross country skis on a different team from mine. The question now do I call her up and go skiing with her still, I don't want to step on my buddies feet, but I always like different ski buddies? What a weird weird weird small world.

And I like Viva's advice best thanks man

[Sphinx]

Just make absolutely sure that she learns that you post here.

[noodles]

The only way to learn is to do, and the best way to learn is to get the inevitable crashing and burning over with in situations where it won't crush your spirit.

Nothing quite like being shut down by a wilderbeast to avoid a crushed spirit

[Out_to_lunch]

Still ask her to go skiing. If your buddy is just taking her to prom theres no big deal. Espically if its not going to go anywhere after that.

[Duker]

so today I find myself riding the T bar with a hot chick

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