How to buy a girl a drink

[yogachik]

I didn't write this, but could have. Although in a ski town, I disagree with #2. I think the pack works best, everyone likes the party attitude.


Most people contemplating buying someone a drink either think about it until (and beyond) last call, but never get up the nerve. Or they use the shotgun technique--buying a drink for anyone they catch sitting still for two seconds--blasting away in the hopes of getting lucky. The best approach is something in between. Steps:

1.Try to enjoy the process, and accept that there are risks. Homerun leaders are frequently also strikeout leaders.

2. Avoid the wolf pack. Don't travel with a group of predators and expect to meet a nice person looking for a quiet time.

3. Be yourself. Sounds simple but apparently isn't. Most people are looking for a fun, intelligent, easygoing, levelheaded sort. Women aren't as impressed by flashy clothes, monster trucks, and sports victories as most men think.

4. Take your time. Don't rush up to your target, but don't wait around for hours either. If you've just arrived, have a seat and relax for a few minutes. Check to see if the person does, in fact, need a drink, or if he or she already has one. If you get an encouraging look, head over.

5. If there's a surefire pickup line in the world, the inventor is keeping it secret. Try "Hello." Look for a wedding ring.

6. Introduce yourself. If you don't get a response, you should probably forget it.

7. Offer to buy a drink. If the person agrees, you have the basis for a conversation about drink choices.

8. If your target is part of a group, be sure to acknowledge the rest of the group and include them in the conversation. If you don't, the group may close ranks and cut you off.

[Dromond]

Well that seems entirely common sense. Stating the obvious is underrated. Rock-rock on.

[ill-advised strategy]

....because, of course, everybody knows that ski-town women are super-special and we require coaching to make their holy acquaintance.

On a related note...idinit fun to go places where the women aren't completely over-grazed....like anywhere without skiing.

[ak_powder_monkey]

so how can an underaged guy pick up girls?

[Spats]

so how can an underaged guy pick up girls?

[Woodsy]

....because, of course, everybody knows that ski-town women are super-special and we require coaching to make their holy acquaintance.

On a related note...idinit fun to go places where the women aren't completely over-grazed....like anywhere without skiing.

I hope your return to fertile hunting grounds from a ski town has been as fruitful as mine was a few years ago......

[PacRimRider1]

so how can an underaged guy pick up girls?

Subject:how to stop masturbating??

Question
hello,
i'm a 20 (17) year's old male... i've been masturbating repeatedly quite a long time ago.. and i don't like this habbit.. i tried alot to stop this... but i couldn't... so please tell what can i do, knowing that i never had sex with anybody???

Answer
MINIMIZE the time you spend alone where you CAN masturbate. A good reference is anything put out by the Mormons on this (some of it is a bit ridiculous so just read the stuff that makes sense --- for example, not to spend long times in the shower). Then - as each day goes by, reward yourself for not masturbating; chastise yourself for having thoughts that could lead to masturbation. After a while, you won't want to break your record and you'll find you can go several weeks without masturbating. Also, the more physical things you can do (play sports, work out, etc.) all lead to burning up the testosterone that drives the desire. So - if you feel a desire to masturbate, work off that desire with a walk or some sit-ups, or ride a bike, etc. REPLACE that activity!

Hope this helps --- 20 (17) is tough!

"Dr. David"
PLAY DOCTOR

[ak_powder_monkey]

Subject:how to stop masturbating??

Question
hello,
i'm a 20 (17) year's old male... i've been masturbating repeatedly quite a long time ago.. and i don't like this habbit.. i tried alot to stop this... but i couldn't... so please tell what can i do, knowing that i never had sex with anybody???

Answer
MINIMIZE the time you spend alone where you CAN masturbate. A good reference is anything put out by the Mormons on this (some of it is a bit ridiculous so just read the stuff that makes sense --- for example, not to spend long times in the shower). Then - as each day goes by, reward yourself for not masturbating; chastise yourself for having thoughts that could lead to masturbation. After a while, you won't want to break your record and you'll find you can go several weeks without masturbating. Also, the more physical things you can do (play sports, work out, etc.) all lead to burning up the testosterone that drives the desire. So - if you feel a desire to masturbate, work off that desire with a walk or some sit-ups, or ride a bike, etc. REPLACE that activity!

Hope this helps --- 20 (17) is tough!

"Dr. David"
PLAY DOCTOR

WTF does beating off have to do with me getting a date?

[Lone Star]

3. Be yourself*. Sounds simple but apparently isn't. Most people are looking for a fun, intelligent, easygoing, levelheaded, and most importantly, rich, sort. Women aren't as impressed by monster trucks and sports victories as most men think, but flashy clothes and a fancy car are a sure sign you're loaded, which will increase your chance of getting laid by a factor of 100.

*unless you're not rich

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[Spats]

How to buy a girl a drink

1) Stop. Don't do it. Buy one for yourself or your friends instead. If you buy her a drink as an introduction you are admitting that she can have you anytime she wants. This means she's already won, and odds are she'll lose interest as soon as she catches the eye of someone hotter.

The only times you should buy a girl a drink in a bar are:
1) She is in your party, i.e. a friend, and you need her to play wingman for you but she's too shy to do it yet.
2) You are at least one drink into a conversation with her or her group, and you need a drink too. "Hey, I'm getting another beer, you need one?"
3) I can't think of any more right now.

"Hello, can I buy you a drink?" =

[Wilford Brimley]

1) Stop. Don't do it. Buy one for yourself or your friends instead. If you buy her a drink as an introduction you are admitting that she can have you anytime she wants. This means she's already won, and odds are she'll lose interest as soon as she catches the eye of someone hotter.

The only times you should buy a girl a drink in a bar are:
1) She is in your party, i.e. a friend, and you need her to play wingman for you but she's too shy to do it yet.
2) You are at least one drink into a conversation with her or her group, and you need a drink too. "Hey, I'm getting another beer, you need one?"
3) I can't think of any more right now.

"Hello, can I buy you a drink?" =

Right on, spats. I agree with your drink-buying philosophy and methodology.

Screw the whole man=money, woman=cooch equation. Buy a damn drink for the person at the bar who makes you laugh, or think. If that means ponying up for suds for a cool, friendly guy, vs. a hot but snooty girl, fine.

Cool guys have cool gal pals, yunno. Sow the seeds.

As an aside: as a gal, I'm *much* more impressed by a gent who can walk up, introduce himself, and carry on a conversation, than the dude who sends drinks from across the bar. I can buy my own drinks, but conversation takes two, and finding a cool partner for that rocks my world.

Anyway, just my opinion. (And contrary to my avatar and log-in name, I'm actually a chick.)

Edited for bleary-eyed thinking.

[yogachik]

1) Stop. Don't do it. Buy one for yourself or your friends instead. If you buy her a drink as an introduction you are admitting that she can have you anytime she wants. This means she's already won, and odds are she'll lose interest as soon as she catches the eye of someone hotter.

um. I know I have something to say here.

[Telenater]

um. I know I have something to say here.

That's fine, I'll say it for you.

"Yes, Spats, you're right. It is better to have the conversation be the focus rather than the alcohol."

[homerjay]

That's fine, I'll say it for you.

"Yes, Spats, you're right. It is better to have the conversation be the focus rather than the alcohol."

but what about focusing on getting the girl drunk?

[Telenater]

but what about focusing on getting the girl drunk?

Whatever you gotta do to accomplish the goal.

[optics]

I've found that preceding the drink with conversation works better all the way around.

Talk for bit, then when it's time to get drinks, pay for both but do it casually like it's assumed, not in a "please let me pay for yours, too" way.

If the drinks start after the talking has eased things up, the drinks will be more effective, and there will be more of them. It also doesn't hurt if she's thinking, "this dude's awesome, I want to give him pleasure" before she drinks - alcohol being a mood exaggerator and all.

Trust me, I'm funny looking and I have had my share of too-good-looking-for-me girls.