If she was skinny before the baby, she won't be pleased about her figure until she's skinny again. She can either accept her new figure or do what it takes to change it, which can be a challenge. Maybe you can give her the gift of time to go to the gym or to go running or biking or whatever she likes to do for exercise - you can take care of your baby, right? And I don't know if you eat a lot of sweets, but I wouldn't be asking her to make anything like that or buy it and bring it into the house.
It's great that you are making it clear that you think she's a hottie.
My $.02.
Live each season as it passes; breathe the air, drink the drink, taste the fruit, and resign yourself to the influences of each.
Henry David Thoreau
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