No longer a surprise - I'm a transsexual maggot

[obvious]

What’s the point of announcing one’s transsexuality on a skiing website? And why hide behind an alias?

This community was an important part of my life for three years. Most of you would only know me by my board alias, but with some of you I’ve skied, carpooled, boozed, biked, camped, given and received advice, etc, and I feel I know many more of you through posts and emails.

Without realizing it, though, I abandoned this community. And there went one more barrier to pursuing an important goal of my own.

I began allowing myself to be me—until I couldn’t take being that other person “part-time” any more. I’ve been “full-time” me for over 3 months now, and I’m a much happier person.

I’ve come to take pride in my trans-ness and hope others are able to do so in theirs. It took a long time to “come out” due to my perceived intensity of social stigma. More than 20 years—and I’m under 30. But it’s been so incredibly worthwhile. And in case you’re wondering, my girlfriend is now my fiancée, and we’re quite happy together.

Despite the new name and “sex” indicator on my driver’s license, I’m still me. In fact, I’m a lot more me than I ever was.

So why only “half” come out here? I haven’t yet had the opportunity to come out to a few more important people close to me, which is best done in person. I was also initially afraid of the board’s response, though I’m not sure why I thought certain posters’ juvenile comments would bother me. This is a pretty strong community, its dueling homo aliases notwithstanding.

Sorry for grabbing the spotlight without a gorier story to tell. But at least I put it in the padded room this time. Maybe next time I’ll talk about a few of the medical options some transwomen select (hint, guys: they don’t cut it off--they invert it!). Most never have surgery, whether they don’t feel they need to or don’t have access. But that’s another story.

One amusing note: when you don’t fully “pass,” jury duty’s a kick. (A note to legal mags in criminal law: be prepared for anyone in voir dire!)

One more amusing note: a lot of you cis-gendered guys like transwomen (especially pre-/non-op). It’s kinda funny how closeted you are about it. Just deal, everyone’s a little queer. A lot of cis-women like us too, but they’re not as creepy about it.

Thanks for listening.

[dk_alaskan]

good luck, glad you are able to find yourself in what sounds like a pretty damned positive manner. Now post up some stoke JONG!!!

[4matic]

You were a man dating a woman and now your a tg women engaged to a non tg woman? Does that make it a same sex marriage?

[f2f]

Just FYI, you do not get to use a dildo anymore. You've made your choice.

[obvious]

You were a man dating a woman and now your a tg women engaged to a non tg woman? Does that make it a same sex marriage?

Legally, where I live, yes. We cannot legally marry in my state. I wouldn't say it's the same thing though.

But of course this whole same vs. opposite fetish has to go. Clearly our relationship is but one of many possible combinations of sexual orientation, gender identity, sexual organs, gender presentation, genetics, hormones, etc possible beyond straight/gay.

[iceman]

If you had the courage to actually out yourself and take charge of it I'd be impressed but you are still fucking hiding. Come out out or don't, don't be a fucking lame-ass bitch.

[Nathan Explosion]

So...does this mean that you are Cliff? Do we call you Cliffy now? How about Clifferella?

[Sinecure]

I don't know where you live, but around the Bay Area its really not that uncommon. I've encouraged gay friends to come live here. Only really known one ts/tg person. She was amazingly cool. Too bad she moved to Hawaii.

Welcome (back?).

[obvious]

I don't know where you live, but around the Bay Area its really not that uncommon. I've encouraged gay friends to come live here. Only really known one ts/tg person. She was amazingly cool. Too bad she moved to Hawaii.

Welcome (back?).

I don't see recognizable transwomen in everyday life, but then again I don't live in the Tenderloin. You're right--I'm incredibly lucky to (now) call the Bay Area home!

[obvious]

If you had the courage to actually out yourself and take charge of it I'd be impressed but you are still fucking hiding. Come out out or don't, don't be a fucking lame-ass bitch.

I don't think I've met you in person, ice, so don't sweat it. I will, shortly, just want to tell a couple more folks directly first. Sorry not to have entertained your desire to guess whether I'd "make a hot woman or not" yet.

[cliffhucker]

So...does this mean that you are Cliff? Do we call you Cliffy now? How about Clifferella?

Cliff who? I'm not transgender FYI, its not me. IDK if that is who yall were questioning. But just in case, I want to say that it is NOT me. That is all

[iceman]

lame. Or should I say "limp"?

Like i said, I'd be impressed if you took charge of it, I am quite dramatically less impressed by your use of an alias.

You could have done this better. Of course i could've done most my life better, so don't get too twisted. But here's the question: why did you feel the need to come out with this while at the same time keeping it secret as to who you really are? Don't you see the contradiction? The cry for help? The need for attention?

Get back to me when you can address that stuff. Until then, go away.

[iceman]

Cliff who? I'm not transgender FYI, its not me. IDK if that is who yall were questioning. But just in case, I want to say that it is NOT me. That is all

Chill, no one even knows who the fuck you are.

Or cares.

[f2f]

Like i said, I'd be impressed if you took charge of it, I am quite dramatically less impressed by your use of an alias.

assuming it's true, she's probably doing what the transition advisor pushed, i.e., come out and be true, then let everybody else sort it out. she's taking charge of it as best as possible.

we had (still have, but he's a she now) a colleague at the uni who had to go around passing leaflets to everybody that said "i'll be transitioning in the next few months, if you are alarmed I hope you understand" and so on. this i find, frankly, insulting and condescending to their own selves. nobody should ever have to worry about how they "appear" to the rest of the world. leave that to anorexic supermodels.

problem is, though, there's still a lot of misunderstanding in the world, so the "coming out" part is meant to help the transitioner psychologically, i think.

[iceman]

Those pamplets would've been pretty silly if they were signed "Somebody".

The point being that the person doesn't owe us shit, they can change genders every Tuesday as far as I'm concerned, but when they decide to make a big public deal out of it and THEN use an alias to talk about it, that's fucking stupid shit right there.

I mean get real.

[f2f]

Those pamplets would've been pretty silly if they were signed "Somebody".

agreed. without ultimate full disclosure this whole exercise is moot. but we haven't seen the rest of it, the OP suggests.

perhaps they're just taking baby steps. little tiny female baby steps

[Brock Landers]

I think inform those closest to you first, then come out non-alias after, if you want. Its tough to relate to a name on a screen versus a name on a screen youve at least had the "pleasure" of verbally abusing/jonging/discussing pressing matters such as beer or whiskey, skiing, etc

There should be like a pyramid of people you inform, i think

[iceman]

I think inform those closest to you first, then come out non-alias after, if you want. Its tough to relate to a name on a screen versus a name on a screen youve at least had the "pleasure" of verbally abusing/jonging/discussing pressing matters such as beer or whiskey, skiing, etc

There should be like a pyramid of people you inform, i think

You've clearly put a lot of thought into this.

[obvious]

You guys are right. This post isn't about entertaining you. It's for me and for us--transgender & other variant people.

It's for me to see if this is a community I want to return to. To test the waters. Why entertain you with personal details if it turns out I don't want to return here anyway?

It's for others who may have questioned their own ability to come out and be who they are.

It's for you to think about different forms of identity, examine your own biases, and decide who you want to shape this space.

You don't have to be totally heteronormative to love skiing. You don't really have to have anything else in common with anyone here except skiing to be a party of this community. Scratch that--certainly there are SO's on here who don't.

But I'm really just here to see if I want to be here.

[f2f]

But I'm really just here to see if I want to be here.

we are who we are here. so if you decide we're not for you, i hope that at least you'll understand.

see, it goes both ways

good luck, and, most importantly, have fun!

[Nathan Explosion]

You don't have to be totally heteronormative to love skiing.

I'm actually pretty sure that nobody claimed that you did.

[RootSkier]

Heteronormative. That word is funny.

And like I said in the other thread, all kinds of freaks are welcome here. Just look at iceman (who rages in jeans).

[Z]

lame. Or should I say "limp"?

Like i said, I'd be impressed if you took charge of it, I am quite dramatically less impressed by your use of an alias.

You could have done this better. Of course i could've done most my life better, so don't get too twisted. But here's the question: why did you feel the need to come out with this while at the same time keeping it secret as to who you really are? Don't you see the contradiction? The cry for help? The need for attention?

Get back to me when you can address that stuff. Until then, go away.

For the fucking win. Reread this one dudechick, seriously.


One would think you should be proud/embracing this/excited/etc., seeing how it's now the reality of the rest of your life. Which I would assume is a good thing or else you wouldn't have done it. I'm sure we haven't met and I don't really care, but Iceman is so on the money here. He's like the Chauncey Billups of this shit. Experience, bitches.

And your title is wrong. It still IS a suprise in this arena, isn't it?

[Lone Star]

punani, i support you

[Tuckerman]

Rip'nStick you can use your real name, we won't care.