letters from the ex.... save or trash?

**hop** · 10-16-2003, 01:40 PM

I was cleaning out my place in preparation for the end-of-the-summer move and I came across a bunch of letters...from a sappy happy time with the ex-girlfriend that I'm not especially happy with right now but would like to be friends with again someday.
I was thinking of saving them, being the sentimental SNAG that I am, but then again since I've moved on, why keep the ancient history around? This goes for all the old pictures (yes, some naked, and no, I won't post them!) too.
WWMD?

**BakerBoy** · 10-16-2003, 01:43 PM

Well, did she grow her hair back out and get cute again?

**Pinner** · 10-16-2003, 01:43 PM

They must go.

Better now than having your future GF find em.

**mildbill.** · 10-16-2003, 01:45 PM

trash them, but only after getting blacked out drunk, driving to her house, kicking the door in and giving her a piece of your mind.

**Viva** · 10-16-2003, 01:45 PM

It seems to me that by posing this question, perhaps you are reluctant to toss said letters and photos. I don't know, it's a gut call for you to make.

We are, in part, the sum of our worldy experiences. We also take the time to reflect and this means addressing our pasts and analyzing things that went wrong and what we could have done differently, how we might have made things work. Old letters are nice in that years from now(Hell, even weeks sometimes) you can reread and see things, clues, that you were oblivious to the first time around. This can be painful, but also liberating.

If you trash this stuff, do it cause it's what you really want. Have no regrets. Use lots of lighter fluid, too.

**Dantheman** · 10-16-2003, 01:46 PM

I'm with Pinner here, trash them now. Better yet, burn them. That is not something you want a new girl finding.

**Steven S. Dallas** · 10-16-2003, 01:46 PM

I am sorely disappointed with anyone who didn't choose option 3.

Are we not men? (men only)

**FreakofSnow** · 10-16-2003, 01:48 PM

Save'em and post the pics. Trust me being a married man now, one day you will want to look at em and laugh.

edit - let me clarify, hide them well, deep in your attic to avoid conflict.

**Dantheman** · 10-16-2003, 01:49 PM

Originally posted by Alex P. Keaton
I am sorely disappointed with anyone who didn't choose option 3.

Are we not men? (men only)

We are men, but it really doesn't sound like he's gonna do that so I didn't press the issue.

**Woodsy** · 10-16-2003, 01:50 PM

I am going to be the dissenter here.

I am living with a woman who was an ex for a year & 1/2. she is on track for the title & I wish I had saved more of her corespondance while she was away in stead of tossing it in a drunken "fuck that dirty bitch" tantrum.

If there is a future for the 2 of ya keep em;
if not in the rubbish & post the pics.

**Pinner** · 10-16-2003, 01:51 PM

Originally posted by FreakofSnow
Save'em and post the pics. Trust me being a married man now, one day you will want to look at em and laugh.

Until then, rent yourself a safety deposit box.

Trust me, you do NOT want another girl finding them. Especially the pics.

I'll hold on to those for ya.

**Steven S. Dallas** · 10-16-2003, 01:52 PM

Originally posted by Dantheman
We are men, but it really doesn't sound like he's gonna do that so I didn't press the issue.

Sometimes peer pressure is the only way to get things done.

Let's see some skin, nancy!

**ArmchairExtreme** · 10-16-2003, 01:53 PM

I hope that by "would like to be friends with her again someday" you mean you want to do her again sometime in the future when you see her at a wedding.

Remember, to insure "once more for old time's sake" action, you need only imply that you kept that stuff. You don't need to produce any evidence of it. Throw it away.

**sluffhunter** · 10-16-2003, 02:10 PM

foo get about livin in the past.

What are you going to do with that crap. Read them one day when you are older and in a mid-life crisis and think of what "could have been". Or show them to your new girlfriend/wife.

There is a reason you 2 aren't together.

PS post those nked pics and we can vote as to whether or not you trash those too. Just kiddin (kindof) burn it all.

**acostiga** · 10-16-2003, 02:13 PM

get rid of the existing photos and take some new and better shots of a new, better ladyfriend. THEN post 'em. everyone concerned will be happy, maggots included.

**jstead** · 10-16-2003, 02:19 PM

58% says you need to post those pics. I think if you post the pics. you will get more insite as to what to do with the letters.

**snowsprite** · 10-16-2003, 02:37 PM

Burn the stuff--you don't need the physical reminders. All the memories you need are safe inside your head where nobody can get at them.
Sprite

**zion zig zag** · 10-16-2003, 02:45 PM

i think i know from experience that when you can throw all that shit away without thinking about it just cause it's clutter, then you're over it. but if you keep it , you run the risk of seeing it and gettin' all introspective and shit, so toss it now, you'll feel better. except the nekkid pics, keep those.

**Buzzworthy** · 10-16-2003, 02:51 PM

I had full on XXX pics with some nasty postitions and all that with my ex from HS. I burned em after my wife to be moved in with me in college. If my wife ever saw those, I would have a bullet in my head (and crotch) and would not be talking to you right now. Now letters and stuff is a different story.

Pics: If they are incriminating, burn em.

I have regrets of the porn pics that I burned but XXX pics and more have no place in my marriage.

(Wouldn't mind seeing the redheaded beaver though just one more time in those pics) Se la vi. Oh well.

Even if I had them I would never post em. That is just wrong in my book. Gotta have some respect. Would you like pics of you from years ago up on the internet?? Think about it.

But if you post em, let us know, cause I will certainly take a look.

**LCC** · 10-16-2003, 03:04 PM

Do the classy thing and destroy them. Even if you end up back together in a relationship, she will be thankful and respectful that you destroyed the. And you won't get busted by a future girl.

Put yourself in her situation.

Now my dick is going to do the talking. Destroy the pics, find some hotter ones on the internet, "cause those girls signed some kind of form saying its ok", and post those. (but include a NSFW in the title)

**zion zig zag** · 10-16-2003, 03:14 PM

if i was in her situation i would keep sleeping with me no strings attached for years to come.

**britney** · 10-16-2003, 03:15 PM

Originally posted by FreakofSnow
Save'em and post the pics. Trust me being a married man now, one day you will want to look at em and laugh.

edit - let me clarify, hide them well, deep in your attic to avoid conflict.

i totally agree -- if you keep ANYTHING, hide it WELL. if i came across any of that memorabilia in my boi's stuff, you can bet your season pASS there'd be "conflict."

thinking even farther into the future than FreakofSnow regarding embarrassment -- my dad wrote some smutty letters to my mom before they were married, and they came out at his 50th b-day or their 25th wedding anniversary or some such occassion. i heard about it later from my buddy whose parents were there, and i DIED! but i guess "youve moved on" so embarrassing exposure to yours and hers kids shouldn't be a problem.

but i must say, even before i saw "option no. 3" on the poll, my answer was save (NOT post, but save) the naked ones. what if she becomes famous someday? these may be worth something -- but not if youve already posted them here! haha. even if she doesnt, its awfully hard to throw away a naked photo! (or so I would GUESS -- never been in your shoes myself.)

but dispose of everything else in some significant (though not quite ritualistic) fashion to give yourself "closure." not that many guys seem to want "closure" anyway -- more like "keeping your options open," or the more crass term, "free refills."

-b

**Lumpy** · 10-16-2003, 03:18 PM

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Originally posted by mildbill.
BURN THE STUFF, KICK HER FUCKIN DOOR IN AND THROW THE ASHES IN HER FACE!!!!

[sorry, pissed about the ex situation today]
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Originally posted by mud
heysuess,
between you , lumpy, & keoni we have a serious bitter divorced Misogyny contingent

I wouldn't throw anything at my ex that she'd try to snort...cause da ho'-bag bitch would!!!

**Keoni** · 10-16-2003, 03:18 PM

Originally posted by mud
heysuess,
between you , lumpy, & keoni we have a serious bitter divorced Misogyny contingent

Misogyny? WTF is that, an unmarried female gynocologist?
Where is that "report post" icon?

Back to the question/answer:

BURNT! To a freakin crisp, oh wait that's the steak thread...

edit:Ok, I had to look it up...
def. ; "in common usage the term "misogynist" can be applied to anyone who holds an unpopular or distasteful view about women as a group"