That sucks. Vibes indeed. Hang in there.Quote:
Originally Posted by anonalias
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That sucks. Vibes indeed. Hang in there.Quote:
Originally Posted by anonalias
Yanno... she sounds like she might be manic. Possibly needs meds. Serious.Quote:
Originally Posted by anonalias
Vibes, def. vibes! If you were here I'd cook you a nice dinner and let you talk to your hearts content.
Sorry man. Sounds like your wife talked a big game and you called her bluff and now she can’t handle it. Oh well. Stay strong and don’t get roped back in. Why would she want to be with a “rapist” anyway, right?Quote:
Originally Posted by anonalias
That kind of talk would be my personal off switch.
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vibes, bud. Listen and follow, you know what the path is.
You got 'em, amigo.Quote:
Originally Posted by anonalias
Rookie, never leave without keys or garage door opener.Quote:
Originally Posted by anonalias
Pretty sad to see so many privileged whiners accuse others of being selfish or self-indulgent or meaaan. You guys are doing a fine job of 1) demonstrating that mtngirl is right about power asymmetries and 2) proving you are clueless about the general "social" and monetary economics of divorce. What a bunch of pathetic "poor me" snowflakes.
Still, like much of what goes down in polyass, this thread is doing a fine job of making clear who I never want to ski with. Doubly so for those wishing real ill on other community members here. You guys sure can dish it out - but the least challenge to your privilege based self-pity and self-righteousness sets you off. Wow.
Likewise (about skiing with you).Quote:
Originally Posted by spindrift
there are wild emotions and mood swings when going through a divorceQuote:
Originally Posted by KQ
Many vibes anon. If you're around the PNW and want a sympathetic and empathetic ear, or even if you're not.... Hang in there, stay healthy and protect yourself, remember you can't control other people's craziness and most of all protect your children from as much exposure to the drama as you can.
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Originally Posted by anonalias
Also you will lose weight and look great in your new clothes ... except you will gain it all backQuote:
Originally Posted by DBdude
Ha! QFT - I got in such good shape when I was between marriages.Quote:
Originally Posted by XXX-er
yes, the infamous divorce dietQuote:
Originally Posted by XXX-er
i think its more than going on a diet its nervous energy/hightened metabolism ... and you will gain it all back in 6 months
so hang on to those fat clothes!
i didn't eat... stress...
Document. She has no legal right to do that. Really sorry man.
Too funny. And too true, though I'm committed to staying in my new clothes. :fmicon:Quote:
Originally Posted by XXX-er
talk about preoccupied I ran out of gas
3 times in a row
I don’t think she’s manic. I don’t think she’s a bad person....she’s smart and knows how to advocate and values her family and can think through complex long range scenarios and select what she thinks is the least bad option. None of which is to say that we’re at all well matched, and she’s got some fucking idiot online friends that, for some reason, she pays a lot of attention to and has let guide her past behavior and viewpoints (her and mtngirl might get along). I just think she’s hurt and she wants to keep our family together. What’s brutal is looking that in the eye and still walking away from the marriage.
Thanks. Felt too dirty to leave it up.....Quote:
Originally Posted by flowing alpy
I will. Appreciate that.Quote:
Originally Posted by oftpiste
I’ve lost almost 20 pounds.... none of my clothes fit. Working on that 6 pack.... though it’s more Christ on the cross than body builder.... I’ve started to eat a little more. Was getting cold too easily....Quote:
Originally Posted by oftpiste
I lost a total of 50 with some up and down over 4 year-ish journey. But I was always more Christ on the cross than bodybuilder. I like it better in the mirror better now than Christ on a cross with a gut.
Been having fun thrifting new duds.
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Originally Posted by spindrift
This post: Condescending, arrogant and judgemental - Right back at ya, no need ski with you either.
I don't disagree about the posts wishing ill will to other mags though.
Maybe we are missing out?Quote:
Originally Posted by ACH
Don’t forget to eat, workout, and find a chill place to get ahold of yourself before going home.Quote:
Originally Posted by anonalias
You should follow your lawyers advice about staying in the house, but the sooner you get some distance the better, and safer.
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OK...so....maybe she's a little manic. Came home tonight, and the script had flipped from "let's be good friends. Give me a hug when you leave for the day or for goodnight. Are you sure you don't want me to stay here for a while? We could just hold each other....." - to - "our custody agreement does not work for me (we'd agreed to two nights/week each and alternating fri/sat/sun), we're back to a weeknight and every other weekend." and "you need to be out of here immediately. I need you gone."Quote:
Originally Posted by anonalias
I think she has too many voices feeding her shit for her to have any consistency, and she doesn't have enough of a center to find her own consistency. I think she has some reasonable friends/family, and she talks to them and we end up in a fairly good place, considering. ...and then she has some batshit friends, and, well, here we are.
Also, the fact that I have a lawyer is a serious sticking point for her. She doesn't want to do mediation/etc. because the divorce papers (which she finally read, part of what set her off tonight, I think) say I have a lawyer who will be representing me throughout the proceedings. I offered to fire him, and get documentation to that effect. Then we could both go engage an attorney together, equal footing. She didn't go for it..... She didn't go for anything, other than total capitulation. Which is tough to give....
And a place to jerk off. Right before you go home. Only half joking. About the jerking.Quote:
Originally Posted by Cono Este