We are all there for you Doug...whether you know us or not. And she is still here, whether you see her or not.
Postive vibes+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++sent
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We are all there for you Doug...whether you know us or not. And she is still here, whether you see her or not.
Postive vibes+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++sent
I am so sorry for the unspeakable shock and pain you're experiencing. Although he wasn't a spouse I did lose someone I loved to suicide. The grief was howling and wild and desolate, and for the first few months I was aware of it even in my sleep. I know you are the only person who can possibly begin to understand the depth of who and what you've lost with your soul mate's death, but I hope you're surrounded by people who know a lot about you both, and who can help keep you walking through the tough times ahead.
Same here. I can't imagine what shmoesmith must be going through. I don't want to imagine it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Tyrone Shoelaces
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Sooo freakin sad. I hope shes in a happier place now. Hang in there,bud
it's hard to find words to match the loss. I'm sorry.
Such sad news. I'm very sorry for your loss.
This is absolutley devastating news. I can't imagine your pain right now. You have my heartfelt condolences and sympathies.
I'm so sorry.....I read this thread early this morning with Kya....tears streamed down my face then.....as they so right now. Extra hugs & kisses exchanged before we left the house. Please let us know if you need anything. Stay strong.
RIP
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I never met either of you and can only imagine how bad you feel. I'm sorry you have to go through this because nobody should have to feel that much pain. Your positive attitude and stoke have always been a great part of every post you have ever made. Try to hold on to who you've been and try to regain that wonderful postive attitude that has permeated your posts here. I'll pray for you and your entire family. Know that if you need anything I'll help you. I'm sure you have family and friends closer than us maggots but if you feel like you need more or need someone to cry with or eat with or anything we are all here.
Just like a lot of folks that have preceded me, I didn't know what to say or even how to say it. All day long I kept hoping this was some kind of a joke. I knew nobody would pull such a "joke" but it was all I could hang on to. It let me have some kind of hope. When your friend posted, it squashed all hope.
I lost a Grandmother and a Father to the same fate. Plain and simple, it sucks, bad.
You are who I'm worried about now. Be assured that time does heal these wounds, life continues on and will get better. As hard as it seems, keep your chin up and carry on.
BobMc
I recieved a phonecall from a mag saying that I needed to post that I was still here...Thank you everyone. James is right, I'm not doing well. Right now I just want to die. To be with my wife. My family and friends aren't leaving me alone. They are keeping me from doing anything stupid. The police led me to believe that she was having an affair with one of the maggots on here..this made it hurt worse.
I finally got ahold of him, and he says that she wasn't having an afair with him, but confiding in him...and that she was very depressed, and that she loved me deeply, and that she was unhappy with herself, and thats why she did what she did.
It made me feel better to know that my wife didn't cheat on me in the 7 1/2 years we were together. It makes me proud. I will always love her.
She has a psychotic mother that may try legal action to take possesion of her stuff(neither of us have talked to her mother in 6+years) and her father says she will probably try and smear my name. Right now i'm greiving and bracing for what possibly may be a legal battle to give her belongings to those who she would have wanted to have them.
Again, thank you everyone. You cannot imagine how much these small messages are helping. They make me feel like I have some reason to live
-Doug
Just remember her as the person you knew.
Doug. It is so good to hear you post. I know I speak for the maggots when I say: WE ARE HERE FOR YOU AND WILL STAND STRONG BY YOUR SIDE. DO NOT HESITATE TO LEAN ON US. WE WILL BE YOUR ROCK.Quote:
Originally Posted by shmoesmith
Doug,
Please, please know that you have many reasons to live. Everyone here, and I'm sure many other people, wants you not only to live, but to someday regain the happiness and joy that you deserve. You will be happy again someday, please stay strong until then.
Doug -Quote:
Originally Posted by shmoesmith
You have a lot of reasons to live. There are a lot of maggots you still need to ski or ride or just hang out with. Right now must be so tough, but it will get better. Just remember there are thoughts, prayers and love coming in from mags all over the world for you and your family. This is more than typing on a keyboard for us. Mags are friends even if we have never met and you, my friend, have many friends you have never met.
Doug,Quote:
Originally Posted by shmoesmith
I'm glad to hear from you. These are the hardest times right now, and I can't really express how much I want to tell you to just keep it in there. I can't imagine what you feel, nor can I take away the pain from you, but if I could, I would shoulder the pain for you.
It's amazing - I've never met you and yet I want to do everything for you.
-Ryan
Glad you are ok shmoesmith and I send you my prayers and deepest condolences.
My God... :(
So, so sorry. May all Blessings be with you and your family in your time of pain and need. Words can't express -
Chris
Like many have said, stay strong and you will pull through this. My condolences, sorry.
My condolences. Hang tough, tomorrow will be a little better.
Glad to see you post Shmoe. Even more glad that you are with your family and friends.
Doug, I don't know you nor do I know what to say other than I am sorry.
Stay strong and I wish you the best.
Just rely on your friends and family, you can't get through this without them. Just to echo myself, you can ask anything you need from this group, anything.
It's going to be real hard, but we'll be there to help you along and we will be there at the end.
My prayers are with you. And my heart aches for you as do so many. Let us that are far way continue to pray and give you positive vibes. I hope posting this has shown you how much love is out there just wanting to help.
Her memory and love will alway be in your heart and mind, let it make you stronger. Don't let someone take that away from you with hollow words.
Again my prayers are with you.
I am at a loss for words but truly want to help, because it is something I can't imagine.
I'm so sorry. I'm crushed by this news. I sat in my office and cried like a baby. She's going to be missed by everyone at BCS.
My prayers are with you. And my heart aches for you as do so many. Let us that are far way continue to pray and give you positive vibes. I hope posting this has shown you how much love is out there just wanting to help.
Her memory and love will alway be in your heart and mind, let it make you stronger. Don't let someone take that away from you with hollow words.
Again my prayers are with you.
I am at a loss for words but truly want to help, because it is something I can't imagine.
I send all my best and strongest thoughts and vibes...
Unimaginable to me. I hope you can take comfort wherever it offers itself.
Good that you have friends & family nearby.
Too late now ... but for those who might find themselves in your wife's state of mind, or those who might know somebody in such a state: one serious thought of suicide is one too many. It should trigger an immediate, automatic response: get help. Professional help. Sort out the details later. It's an emergency.
Doug I hope you can gain strength in knowing that there are thousands of people reading this thread who's hearts are going out to you. If there is anything this community can do for you don't hesitate to ask.
Hang in there Doug. Particle and I were both talking this afternoon about tough times we went through (he with his hip destruction near death tree incident and me with my brain surgery one year ago) and how the board really came to life to rally to us in those tough times. Although our experiences were just a blip compared to what you are wading through, use this thread, the vibes, the love of the maggot community as something to lean on. I remember crying while reading a print out of posts my friend brought me just hours before going into surgery.
The saying "Anything for a maggot" REALLY does mean ANYTHING. Please don't forget that. The Utards and all maggots will rally behind you on this. That's not just rhetoric
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Stay strong and my thoughts are with you and your family & friends.
Shmoe, you are in my prayers...
Doug, you can make it through this time even though it feels impossible. You can stay here and you can carry your wife's life forward as part of yours. Your friends will help you. Whether we know you well or not, we're all with you.
I'm so sorry for your loss. ++++++++++++++++++++
one second at a time, one minute at a time, one hour at a time, one day at a time Doug ..... please do not be afraid to reach out or cry out for help ... all those here in Utah and on this board are ready and willing to drop anything to help you pull through this - when you're ready, let us help my friend, let us help
this is worth repeating......
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Originally Posted by Monique
let the memory of her adventurous spirit inspire you to carry on, one step at a time, no matter how small. you can do it
Traumatic events like these are like being in caught in an avalanche. One moment you're doing just fine and the next you feel so helpless, lost in confusion and panicking that you'll never find a way out. But by golly you have to keep swimming and know that no matter where you end up your friends will be at your side shortly to help you out.
I know it's been said a lot, but we're definitely here for you man. Keep kicking and hopefully it will get better.
My sincerest condolences to you and those who cared for your wife. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
My condolences. Thoughts and prayers sent to you, family and friends.
shmoesmith,
Deepest sympathies from PA. You have an incredible community here to stand on, please do so! Life WILL go on, and you WILL heal.
Jeff