i'm only posting again because several people here have communicated that they don't know what i'm referring to. that and because the struggle to deal with it and for people -- everybody, not just my wife. my entire family -- around me to deal with it is why i'm in this thread with the rest of you.
http://www.thefreelibrary.com/Collat...e.-a0318511008
again, apologies for the drift but not everybody going through divorce has rage and bitterness about cheating and separating large assets. sometimes people go through the end of a relationship and have other things that are more dominant. in my case, my future has to be the best future i am capable of providing in my son in my current state and i can't figure all that out at once after being stuck in the same place trying to do the same things for 30 years and failing miserably.