Goddamn In-laws

For the good of your future relations with your inlaws (and possibly your marriage) you need to have a sit down adult conversation with them STAT. Just the three of you (without their daughter,) no yelling, no anger, no back-biting. Just a simple "Come to Jesus" where you make it very clear to them that you and your spouse are not their children - you are adults who make their own decisions.

Many parents have an awfully hard time letting go, and although they kid themselves into thinking they already did when their child went to school, the fact is that they never truly believed it. How many parents offer their homes to their kids after college? Matrimony drives the "empty nest" syndrome flat in their faces.

This has very little, if anything, to do with YOU personally. It's a knee-jerk reaction on their part caused by fear of losing their daughter. What you need to do, as silly as it sounds, is to reassure them that she'll be fine and that they need to truly let go. They'll also need to be reassured that you're not abandoning THEM. Weird, huh?

Seriously. It worked wonders for me and my Father-in-Law. He's now as dear to me as my own parents.

I am SO glad my girlfriend wants to get married in a courthouse. I am also glad that any wedding for me won't be for years!

I can't stand her parents. They are both nice to me but they were terrible parents and I have trouble forgiving them for treating my girl like that. Ex. She had a cracked filling, it started bothering her in September and her father didn't return her phone calls for almost two months regarding making an appointment. That is bullshit. Take care of your kids you deadbeat hick!

Her mom is even worse. The email she wrote her last week was a hate filled peice of electronic crap bitching about my girls father's family and saying how terrible they are. You don't say these things to your children. If you get divorced you leave the kids out of it!

I couldn't see letting these people plan a wedding, especially considering her one grandma is a religious nutjob akin to the woman on trading spouses.

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Originally Posted by Tippster

For the good of your future relations with your inlaws (and possibly your marriage) you need to have a sit down adult conversation with them STAT. Just the three of you (without their daughter,) no yelling, no anger, no back-biting. Just a simple "Come to Jesus" where you make it very clear to them that you and your spouse are not their children - you are adults who make their own decisions.

Many parents have an awfully hard time letting go, and although they kid themselves into thinking they already did when their child went to school, the fact is that they never truly believed it. How many parents offer their homes to their kids after college? Matrimony drives the "empty nest" syndrome flat in their faces.

This has very little, if anything, to do with YOU personally. It's a knee-jerk reaction on their part caused by fear of losing their daughter. What you need to do, as silly as it sounds, is to reassure them that she'll be fine and that they need to truly let go. They'll also need to be reassured that you're not abandoning THEM. Weird, huh?

Seriously. It worked wonders for me and my Father-in-Law. He's now as dear to me as my own parents.

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... best advice yet IMHO.