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Originally Posted by AaronWright

It means that you probably cover your kid's health insurance and that is the cost of coverage or that is the amount your wife will be paying for the kid's insurance and that is the amount you will pay. It's all part of child support and will factor into any general child support payments you will make to your wife if she's the custodial parent. Pay it, it's tax deductible and general child support isn't.

Isn't your kid 17? You might also consider paying more alimony/maintenance instead of more child support because alimony is tax deductible, if your wife will go for it. Just figure paying the alimony for the amount of time you would be paying child support, a couple years.

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Thats how it was explained but I carry her on my insurance. It seems like its above and beyond what I already pay why would I pay twice for insurance once out of my paycheck and once in a cash payment to my ex?

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Originally Posted by Tuckerman

Thats how it was explained but I carry her on my insurance. It seems like its above and beyond what I already pay why would I pay twice for insurance once out of my paycheck and once in a cash payment to my ex?

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You shouldn't.

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Originally Posted by Tuckerman

Thats how it was explained but I carry her on my insurance. It seems like its above and beyond what I already pay why would I pay twice for insurance once out of my paycheck and once in a cash payment to my ex?

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I don't think it means you are going to make another payment for health insurance, it means that once the divorce is final that you agree to and are responsible for maintaining your kid's health insurance. Was it on a form that had two columns, one for you and one for your wife? What that form does is assign responsibility for healthcare and other associated costs with having the kid. It can be split in different percentages or assigned wholly to one or another party. Like you might be assigned the burden of covering her premiums but the cost of co-pays and deductible can be split 50/50 or whatever you agree on. Make sense?

Yeah, I'm no divorce atty, but that makes no sense, unless they are expecting some change in coverage following the divorce. For example, I know a couple here that got divorced a year ago. The mother just got a job that has better insurance, so they're putting the kids on her account and modifying the divorce decree so the dad pays part of the premium, or some shit like that.

Edit: Or what AW said.

Seems like it's talking covering premiums. I would not agree to a certain dollar amount either - that can change obviously. I guess my other question would be about the actual medical expenses above & beyond the premiums. How is that written in? 50/50? Unless you put in pre-tax dollars like in an HSA or something. Never dealt with it, but something I would want spelled out.

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Originally Posted by hikesalot

Seems like it's talking covering premiums. I would not agree to a certain dollar amount either - that can change obviously. I guess my other question would be about the actual medical expenses above & beyond the premiums. How is that written in? 50/50? Unless you put in pre-tax dollars like in an HSA or something. Never dealt with it, but something I would want spelled out.

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See my post above. It doesn't have to be a dollar amount, it can just say dad covers health premiums. That what my paper work had it listed as. All other costs, co pay, deductible etc. are covered 50/50 in my case. Once healthcare coverage/costs are agreed on that info can be used on the child support worksheet.

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Originally Posted by AaronWright

See my post above. It doesn't have to be a dollar amount, it can just say dad covers health premiums. That what my paper work had it listed as. All other costs, co pay, deductible etc. are covered 50/50 in my case. Once healthcare coverage/costs are agreed on that info can be used on the child support worksheet.

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yep - this sounds like the way to go.

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Originally Posted by AaronWright

I don't think it means you are going to make another payment for health insurance, it means that once the divorce is final that you agree to and are responsible for maintaining your kid's health insurance. Was it on a form that had two columns, one for you and one for your wife? What that form does is assign responsibility for healthcare and other associated costs with having the kid. It can be split in different percentages or assigned wholly to one or another party. Like you might be assigned the burden of covering her premiums but the cost of co-pays and deductible can be split 50/50 or whatever you agree on. Make sense?

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Ok thats a great explanation thank you.

Great news we have come to an agreement im paying a bit more in child support but Im ok with that its only for a year and a half. We could have this thing wrapped up in a couple weeks.

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Originally Posted by Tuckerman

Ok thats a great explanation thank you.

Great news we have come to an agreement im paying a bit more in child support but Im ok with that its only for a year and a half. We could have this thing wrapped up in a couple weeks.

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Make sure it says on the order of child support that you stop paying when your daughter turns 18 or graduates from HS whichever comes later. Are you going to be paying alimony?

No Alimony, I pay $2000 in back taxes she gets the house I get a car, she is not touching my pension or retirement.

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Originally Posted by Tuckerman

No Alimony, I pay $2000 in back taxes she gets the house I get a car, she is not touching my pension or retirement.

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You, my friend, may be about to feel the sweet embrace of freedom.

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Originally Posted by skiballs

You, my friend, may be about to feel the sweet embrace of freedom.

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Hopefully he's already embraced Freedom and the rest of the ladies at his local strip joint.

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Originally Posted by bagtagley

Hopefully he's already embraced Freedom and the rest of the ladies at his local strip joint.

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It's his Destiny.

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Originally Posted by bagtagley

Hopefully he's already embraced Freedom and the rest of the ladies at his local strip joint.

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ummm if you only knew, good gawd.

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Originally Posted by bagtagley

Hopefully he's already embraced Freedom and the rest of the ladies at his local strip joint.

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Originally Posted by Tuckerman

No Alimony, I pay $2000 in back taxes she gets the house I get a car, she is not touching my pension or retirement.

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That's a good deal. I didn't make out that well but not to bad. Our house was almost paid for and she didn't want it so she got a car, about $32k cash from equity and saving and $70k in retirement. I had to pay 4 years of maintenance and I'm almost done with that. I was the only earner for 12 years and I did pretty well during that time so I think it was fair.

Oh I also have to keep her on my insurance for 3 years or until she gets a job that offers insurance, its only an extra 25ish per week.

That is a sweet deal, after all its just a house.

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Originally Posted by AaronWright

That's a good deal.

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Difficult to really say unless you know equity in house and value of his retirement? Surely.

Meet you at the Gold Club?

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Originally Posted by PNWbrit

Difficult to really say unless you know equity in house and value of his retirement? Surely.

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This is just a guess but with that settlement I'm going to say the equity in the house is roughly equal to his pension/retirement. If the goal is to fuck over your ex then maybe it wouldn't be a good deal.

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Originally Posted by AaronWright

This is just a guess but with that settlement I'm going to say the equity in the house is roughly equal to his pension/retirement. If the goal is to fuck over your ex then maybe it wouldn't be a good deal.

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The house can be sold for around $200 and we owe 79,000. I don't need a strip club Im doing very well.

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Originally Posted by Tuckerman

The house can be sold for around $200 and we owe 79,000. I don't need a strip club Im doing very well.

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Yeah, that was what I thought, she gets a big chunk of equity and you keep your retirement.

Meeting my current wife at the attorney's office in like a half hour, I should be divorced in about 45mins from now. It feels kind of strange right now..

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Originally Posted by Tuckerman

Meeting my current wife at the attorney's office in like a half hour, I should be divorced in about 45mins from now. It feels kind of strange right now..

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*vibes*

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