I didn't take it that way at all. I agreed 100% with what you were saying. I was originally emphasizing the problem of docs recommending/patients requesting chemo and radiation with little hope of benefit. You raised the equally significant problem of docs not offering or being aware of treatments that can help. All of which brings up the biggest problem any patient with any kind of illness or injury faces--finding the right doctor. And as best as I can tell it's more a matter of luck than anything else. The big name isn't always the best.
My cousin, in his 40's, had a GIST tumor of the stomach--very different from the usual stomach CA. He went to University of Chicago, University of Michigan, and the Mayo Clinic for opinions but couldn't decide what to do. Then he started bleeding massively from his stomach and wound up in the ER of a private hospital and wound up having emergency surgery by an excellent, fellowship-trained surgical oncologist--no big name, but just as good or better than any of the other docs he saw.
(An old partner of mine specialized in surgery of the thyroid and parathyroid glands. He had a huge number of cases with spectacularly good results in terms of lack of complications--comparable or better than the best results in the literature. No one has ever heard of the guy outside of Kaiser docs in Sacramento. Another friend of mine was a missionary surgeon in Congo--he had by far the world's greatest experience repairing recto-vaginal injuries (primarily caused by bayonets rather than by childbirth) but he never wrote up his experience and no one knows about him.)
Your experience with U of W compared with the doc in Spokane (there's reputation for you) brings to mind a patient I saw for esophageal cancer. He wanted to know his chances with surgery. Based on his stage and the available adjuvant treatment at the time I gave him a number. He saw another surgeon who recommended the same operation but who gave him a grossly overestimated chance of prolonged survival. He chose the other surgeon because he claimed a better prognosis--for the same treatment. (I'm not equating his case to yours; I was just reminded of that case.) I'm glad you wound up in the right hands.
Sorry for all the long-winded posts. I guess I still miss surgery.